Idk what exactly to think of this... my 14 year old DD came home from school the other day absolutely fuming. When questioned on what happened, she told me that her (male) teacher had been really sexist and unfair. She said that when she offered to help carry something to another classroom, she was told to sit down and let one of the boys do it. She then told the teacher that she was perfectly capable and happy to help, but he stuck to his guns and asked one of the boys to carry the box to the other classroom. DD and her friends were outraged and spent the rest of the lesson talking loudly about modern day misogyny and the influence Andrew Tate has on vulnerable men and teenage boys.
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AIBU?
AIBU to think my DD's teacher was inappropriate?
picklesandicecream · 15/01/2023 14:45
Am I being unreasonable?
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POLLpicklesandicecream · 15/01/2023 14:45
Idk what exactly to think of this... my 14 year old DD came home from school the other day absolutely fuming. When questioned on what happened, she told me that her (male) teacher had been really sexist and unfair. She said that when she offered to help carry something to another classroom, she was told to sit down and let one of the boys do it. She then told the teacher that she was perfectly capable and happy to help, but he stuck to his guns and asked one of the boys to carry the box to the other classroom. DD and her friends were outraged and spent the rest of the lesson talking loudly about modern day misogyny and the influence Andrew Tate has on vulnerable men and teenage boys.
picklesandicecream · 15/01/2023 14:45
Idk what exactly to think of this... my 14 year old DD came home from school the other day absolutely fuming. When questioned on what happened, she told me that her (male) teacher had been really sexist and unfair. She said that when she offered to help carry something to another classroom, she was told to sit down and let one of the boys do it. She then told the teacher that she was perfectly capable and happy to help, but he stuck to his guns and asked one of the boys to carry the box to the other classroom. DD and her friends were outraged and spent the rest of the lesson talking loudly about modern day misogyny and the influence Andrew Tate has on vulnerable men and teenage boys.
harrassedmumto3 · 15/01/2023 14:55
God, the world has gone mad.
MotherOfRatios · 15/01/2023 16:31
OP this is better in the feminist chat.
what Mumsnet doesn't understand the younger gen isn't tolerable of this type of stuff it is sexist.
Gender socialisation or roles/jobs does play a part in toxic masculinity
MotherOfRatios · 15/01/2023 16:31
OP this is better in the feminist chat.
what Mumsnet doesn't understand the younger gen isn't tolerable of this type of stuff it is sexist.
Gender socialisation or roles/jobs does play a part in toxic masculinity
Ted27 · 15/01/2023 16:34
@DottieUncBab
I think you are describing a different situation.
the average 14 year old boy is likely to be taller and stronger than your average 14 year old girl, we dont know what was in the box, how heavy it was or how far it had to be carried.
I have an 18 year old son who was taller than me when he was 14, at which point I handed over heavy lifting duties to him because its easier and quicker than me struggling to shift something to prove a point.
Maireas · 15/01/2023 16:33
Which the teacher knows all about.
Plus, no-one is lifting anything heavy unless they are caretaking staff.
It's just nonsense.
MotherOfRatios · 15/01/2023 16:31
OP this is better in the feminist chat.
what Mumsnet doesn't understand the younger gen isn't tolerable of this type of stuff it is sexist.
Gender socialisation or roles/jobs does play a part in toxic masculinity
IDontCareMatthew · 15/01/2023 16:37
Who would you rather have perform a rundown search on you...or your dd?
A female? Or a male?
MotherOfRatios · 15/01/2023 16:40
Ummm I work on this kind of things teachers don't realise how sexier their language can be
Maireas · 15/01/2023 16:33
Which the teacher knows all about.
Plus, no-one is lifting anything heavy unless they are caretaking staff.
It's just nonsense.
MotherOfRatios · 15/01/2023 16:31
OP this is better in the feminist chat.
what Mumsnet doesn't understand the younger gen isn't tolerable of this type of stuff it is sexist.
Gender socialisation or roles/jobs does play a part in toxic masculinity
MissyB1 · 15/01/2023 15:06
Oh because teenagers are always right and don’t ever embellish the story, or only see it from their perspective? 🙄
I suspect the teacher wanted that particular child to carry the box for a specific reason, and that reason is none of your dd’s business. You should be focusing on the fact that your dd then wasted her time and everyone else’s by disrupting the rest of the lesson. Very selfish behaviour.
MyOpinion1978 · 15/01/2023 16:26
My daughter was in therapy for severe anxiety and OCD when she was in Year 10/11. She was embarrassed about having to leave class due to panic attacks, so she and her teachers agreed a system where she’d give a signal and they’d ask her to take a message to another teacher/go and get the textbooks etc., so that she could leave for a while without any drama.
maddy68 · 15/01/2023 15:14
There may have been another reason. I had a few ADHD boys that benefited from a break and I would ask them to do odd jobs.
It's not always how it seems
Iliveditwizbit · 15/01/2023 14:54
It sounds sexist but 14 year olds don’t always give the full story.
Perhaps the teacher thought she was using the opportunity to get out of a lesson?
perhaps because she’s a little disruptive?
Andsoforth · 15/01/2023 15:34
It’s not sexist to acknowledge that teenage boys, post puberty, are physically stronger than teenage girls.
UnicornsHaveDadsToo · 15/01/2023 16:02
When my wife hands me a jar of mayonnaise to open so that she can make herself a sandwich, am I supposed to hand it back to her still closed and say it would be sexist if I opened it for her?
NumberTheory · 15/01/2023 15:40
Being physically stronger doesn’t make girls incapable of lifting, though. And a pervasive attitude that it does makes it harder for women to get on in jobs that require lifting that is well within their capabilities.
Andsoforth · 15/01/2023 15:34
It’s not sexist to acknowledge that teenage boys, post puberty, are physically stronger than teenage girls.
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