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To wonder why is Mumsnet so anti-car?

375 replies

Ticketsto · 14/01/2023 07:37

There is at least one thread a week on here demonizing cars! What is with all the hate? I know they cause pollution and can kill people however they’ve revolutionized the way we live! Not all of us are fortunate enough to live somewhere with good public transport.

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lieselotte · 14/01/2023 18:08

LolaSmiles · 14/01/2023 18:06

On MN we see real hatred toward cyclists & runners in parks and canal paths, in other words people who exercise!!! its pathetic, these are real people, husbands wives, sons daughters, nurses, doctors, engineers, carers, trades people etc etc yet posters here and RL call them scum, road lice, w@nkers... they are us!!!.
Agreed.
The cyclist logic is always an amusing argument:
Cyclists should not be on the roads because they slow important drivers down.
Cyclists definitely shouldn't cycle 2 side by side, which allows cars to do one safe overtake. They should string out so that impatient drivers can squeeze past without having to go on the other side of the road.

Cyclists should not be riding towards the middle of the lane because that forces cars to do a proper and safe overtake. They should be in the gutter with all the grit, leaving limited room to move if(when) an arse of a driver overtakes dangerously.

Cyclists should definitely be on cycle paths, even if the cycle paths aren't fit for purpose

Cyclists should not be on the cycle paths because being on the cycle paths because people need to walk across them/their DC want to play on them/they don't want to supervise their DC and keep them on the correct side/their dog likes to run all over the cycle path.

Cyclists using the cycle path should be going at snail pace because anything else is zooming around thinking they're in the tour de France.

Cyclists also should not wear lycra because some mumsnetters care when strangers wear exercise gear for their activity.

If a man is wearing lycra it's perfectly fine to cackle at his body and make nasty body-shaming comments about MAMILS, how disgusting their bodies are and how nobody wants to see that.

Ha ha all of this.

(though to be fair, some of the stuff MAMILs wear is frankly indecent)

JoonT · 14/01/2023 18:43

I don't hate cars in themselves. They are an amazing invention. But, as with all technology, it depends how you use them.

In the UK, they are a bloody nightmare, for two reasons. First, the country is overcrowded. Basically, there are too many people which means too many goddam cars on the roads. It's like having flies buzzing round your head night and day.

The other problem I have is with how noisy they are (well, some of them). I am sick to death of selfish little idiots modifying their exhausts so they sound like fireworks going off, or canons exploding. They also do something to the engine so it screams like a race car. They make me jump out of my skin – they even wake me up in the morning.

If the population of the UK was 20 million instead of 65, and if all cars were electric and silent, I'd have no problem with them at all.

Squamata · 14/01/2023 18:46

usernamealreadytaken · 14/01/2023 18:02

Exactly, it’s personal choice. It’s entirely likely that those who are obese car owners would be obese non-car owners, because food is the issue and they can choose, like many of us do, to not use the car unless necessary and to be more active. I use my car to drive to work, and to go to the supermarket. I run approx 15-20 miles a week, and walk the dog once or twice a day - it’s a choice.

@usernamealreadytaken You say exactly as if you're saying the same thing as me, you're not...

There's choice involved but those choices are made in the context of an environment that makes certain choices more likely. Obesity is an increasing problem so it's not like the same percentage of people are making the choices that lead to obesity.

Eg there's a supermarket within walking or cycling distance from me, but the route goes under a motorway and along lots of busy roads, the roads/bike paths don't let you do a direct route so it takes longer than it should, you have to wait at loads of traffic lights for cars to stop. So I usually drive because active transport is made unpleasant by motorised transport. If you drive a car, you make it more likely someone else will because it contributes to a world dominated by cars.

Obesity has lots of factors and food is a big one, but activity is also part of the mix.

LolaSmiles · 14/01/2023 19:33

Ha ha all of this.

(though to be fair, some of the stuff MAMILs wear is frankly indecent)
Tell me about it.
DH ordered some Lycra once, put it on and wouldn't even show me because he said it was awful and nobody should leave the house in it. He has other lycra that is fine.

I don't like the nasty comments on here about men in lycra because I think we'd rightly call out the misogyny of men being nasty about women in their running gear. It's not acceptable to mock women's bodies in their exercise gear and rightly so, and the same should be afforded to men.

DifferenceEngines · 14/01/2023 20:49

Devoutspoken · 14/01/2023 17:58

Unless you have a bus stop outside your front door, then public transport gets u moving more than owning a car

Exactly. New York is one of the healthiest cities in the US, and one of the factors is that it's to gridlocked to use cars. Therefore, people use the subway. They have to walk to the station, and then walk at the other end. If you are doing this all the time, it adds up.

DifferenceEngines · 14/01/2023 20:52

Squamata · 14/01/2023 18:46

@usernamealreadytaken You say exactly as if you're saying the same thing as me, you're not...

There's choice involved but those choices are made in the context of an environment that makes certain choices more likely. Obesity is an increasing problem so it's not like the same percentage of people are making the choices that lead to obesity.

Eg there's a supermarket within walking or cycling distance from me, but the route goes under a motorway and along lots of busy roads, the roads/bike paths don't let you do a direct route so it takes longer than it should, you have to wait at loads of traffic lights for cars to stop. So I usually drive because active transport is made unpleasant by motorised transport. If you drive a car, you make it more likely someone else will because it contributes to a world dominated by cars.

Obesity has lots of factors and food is a big one, but activity is also part of the mix.

You can make an environment that makes it easier to make these choices. The way things are set up in the UK currently basically really discourages any exercise at all.

If there was public transport that was actually usable, then people would use it, and would get exercise walking to the bus stop. They would get exercise without having to plan it and take a big chunk out of their day.

Kinnorafron · 14/01/2023 20:56

MN loves tiny electric cars as long as they are never actually used.

Hates anything larger than a micro car and loathes SUVs and believes anyone who drives one should be ritually slaughtered.

DifferenceEngines · 14/01/2023 21:00

whataboutsecondbreakfast · 14/01/2023 18:07

Exactly.

You can drive multiple times a day and be healthy.
You can also rely on public transport, walk everywhere and be unhealthy.

I use my car everyday and couldn't do my job without it. I'm also a dog walker and am on my feet and walking for 5-6 hours a day, everyday. My neighbour doesn't have a car, walks 20 minutes to work and then sits down for 7-8 hours and walks 20 minutes home again.

She's not automatically healthier than me because she doesn't drive and walks to work everyday.

You are confusing individual situations with population- based strategies.

Yes, one particular person can walk to work and still make poor lifestyle choices. However, if you make an environment in which active transport is appealing, then on average, the whole population gets more exercise.

Secondly, public transport makes cycling and walking more appealing because it cuts down on the number of cars on the road. People are more likely to cycle if they are not battling heavy traffic and cranky, frustrated drivers.

phoenixrosehere · 14/01/2023 21:10

JoonT · 14/01/2023 18:43

I don't hate cars in themselves. They are an amazing invention. But, as with all technology, it depends how you use them.

In the UK, they are a bloody nightmare, for two reasons. First, the country is overcrowded. Basically, there are too many people which means too many goddam cars on the roads. It's like having flies buzzing round your head night and day.

The other problem I have is with how noisy they are (well, some of them). I am sick to death of selfish little idiots modifying their exhausts so they sound like fireworks going off, or canons exploding. They also do something to the engine so it screams like a race car. They make me jump out of my skin – they even wake me up in the morning.

If the population of the UK was 20 million instead of 65, and if all cars were electric and silent, I'd have no problem with them at all.

In the UK, they are a bloody nightmare, for two reasons. First, the country is overcrowded.

The country is not overcrowded. The infrastructure and planning is the issue and it’s not gotten better.

LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet · 14/01/2023 21:14

There is a small but vocal corner of MN that demonises anything that makes life easy. You’re only a proper grown up if you’re miserable, struggling and making your life difficult.

whataboutsecondbreakfast · 14/01/2023 21:33

You are confusing individual situations with population- based strategies.

Yes, one particular person can walk to work and still make poor lifestyle choices. However, if you make an environment in which active transport is appealing, then on average, the whole population gets more exercise.

Secondly, public transport makes cycling and walking more appealing because it cuts down on the number of cars on the road. People are more likely to cycle if they are not battling heavy traffic and cranky, frustrated drivers

I don't disagree, but no individual can change those things - it has to come from the government.

So, when posters come on here slating the people who genuinely have no other choice, they inevitably get peoples backs up. These threads always go the same way.

Yes, of course if we had better public transport then it would would be easier to cycle and walk places, but unfortunately that's not about to happen any time soon.

So for now, people are going to do what's quickest and cheapest for them - and for most, that means getting into a car and driving 🤷🏻‍♀️ criticising people who are only doing what they need to do to get to work and live their lives is never going to go down well!

Devoutspoken · 14/01/2023 21:40

Pheonixrose, the roads are over crowded, that's pretty undeniable

Devoutspoken · 14/01/2023 21:42

Kinnorafron,and some parts of mumsnet joke about killing cyclists

Alexandra2001 · 14/01/2023 21:47

LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet · 14/01/2023 21:14

There is a small but vocal corner of MN that demonises anything that makes life easy. You’re only a proper grown up if you’re miserable, struggling and making your life difficult.

Is there? never noticed that at all.

I use a car because in all honesty, whats the alternative? what i don't want though is for car drivers and its a small minority to try and kill me if i'm walking on the lanes or riding my bicycle.

It never used to be like this.

Anyway.. the car will soon be dead, in 7 years time you wont be able to buy a new fossil fuel one and very few will be able to afford EV's..... Hydrogen is decades away and how long will manufacturers keep making parts for older fossil fuel vehicles? or afford the fuel?

phoenixrosehere · 14/01/2023 22:01

Devoutspoken · 14/01/2023 21:40

Pheonixrose, the roads are over crowded, that's pretty undeniable

Some are not all.

DifferenceEngines · 14/01/2023 22:11

whataboutsecondbreakfast · 14/01/2023 21:33

You are confusing individual situations with population- based strategies.

Yes, one particular person can walk to work and still make poor lifestyle choices. However, if you make an environment in which active transport is appealing, then on average, the whole population gets more exercise.

Secondly, public transport makes cycling and walking more appealing because it cuts down on the number of cars on the road. People are more likely to cycle if they are not battling heavy traffic and cranky, frustrated drivers

I don't disagree, but no individual can change those things - it has to come from the government.

So, when posters come on here slating the people who genuinely have no other choice, they inevitably get peoples backs up. These threads always go the same way.

Yes, of course if we had better public transport then it would would be easier to cycle and walk places, but unfortunately that's not about to happen any time soon.

So for now, people are going to do what's quickest and cheapest for them - and for most, that means getting into a car and driving 🤷🏻‍♀️ criticising people who are only doing what they need to do to get to work and live their lives is never going to go down well!

The only reason that it's not going to happen anytime soon is because the population isn't demanding it. The government is there to serve the population, not the other way round. If it became an election issue, you would see changed pretty quick smart.

People hate the resigned-to-cars spiel because it perpetuates the status quo.

Demand change.

Devoutspoken · 14/01/2023 22:23

Pheonixrose, yes especially the roads in low traffic neighbourhoods

usernamealreadytaken · 14/01/2023 23:07

DifferenceEngines · 14/01/2023 20:52

You can make an environment that makes it easier to make these choices. The way things are set up in the UK currently basically really discourages any exercise at all.

If there was public transport that was actually usable, then people would use it, and would get exercise walking to the bus stop. They would get exercise without having to plan it and take a big chunk out of their day.

Walking to the bus stop isn’t going to stop obesity. In cities, where fewer people have cars and more people use public transport, there are still high levels of obesity.

public transport can get people a little more active, but let’s not try to fool anyone in to believing it’s the cure for obesity. Putting less in your mouth and not normalising obesity would be good steps.

DdraigGoch · 14/01/2023 23:42

usernamealreadytaken · 14/01/2023 10:56

Do you mean older SUVs, specifically? There's an argument that scrapping any car which is still working and buying another vehicle (whether a "green" vehicle or not) is worse for the environment than keeping it running until it's no longer serviceable.

Newer SUVs have no greater environmental impact than any other newer car; the engines are generally efficient and driving particulates excluding exhaust emissions are lower than some EVs and "friendly" alternatives, due to weight impact.

An EV takes something like 70k miles to become carbon neutral, due to the filthy way they are produced, including needing much larger amounts of rare earth minerals, often mined in very dodgy countries and often by children.

It doesn't matter how modern and clean an SUV is, it's still a nuisance on UK roads. Parking spaces aren't designed for vehicles so big, so they often foul the white lines. They pose a much greater hazard to pedestrians and cyclists and are often driven by people with no clue how to handle such a large vehicle.

And no, living in Surrey doesn't mean that you are "rural" and simply couldn't get about in anything else. If a VW Beetle can cross salt pans and ford rivers in Botswana then a tarmac road in Surrey poses no issue. Those who actually need to drive into fields don't buy SUVs, they buy a Defender or a Hilux.

As for those who live in London and use their SUV for journeys where it would be quicker to walk...

Before they inevitable pile-on, yes I am aware that many people with reduced mobility find it easier to get into a taller car. But no, I don't believe that the majority of SUV owners fall into this category.

whataboutsecondbreakfast · 14/01/2023 23:43

The only reason that it's not going to happen anytime soon is because the population isn't demanding it. The government is there to serve the population, not the other way round. If it became an election issue, you would see changed pretty quick smart.

People hate the resigned-to-cars spiel because it perpetuates the status quo.

Demand change.

You're being too idealistic.

People will live their lives in the way that suits them best. For most, that means driving because it's quicker, more convenient and saves a lot of time and money - especially if you're transporting multiple people.

Getting angry at people for using legal methods of transport to get to work and to school isn't going to make them change and it's not going to sway them to your way of thinking.

It just makes them dig their heels in.

DdraigGoch · 14/01/2023 23:50

Whewillmylifebegin · 14/01/2023 11:08

They're also the only option for childminders or those with more children.

Again. It's not a one size fits all situation.

I've not been into a car showroom in years, but don't they make people carriers and estates any more?

DdraigGoch · 15/01/2023 00:24

phoenixrosehere · 14/01/2023 21:10

In the UK, they are a bloody nightmare, for two reasons. First, the country is overcrowded.

The country is not overcrowded. The infrastructure and planning is the issue and it’s not gotten better.

Of course the UK is overcrowded (the entire planet is overcrowded, frankly), it's got the third highest population density of any major European country (only Belgium and the Netherlands are more packed). We haven't been able to produce enough food for hundreds of years - even though technological advances have increased yields, population growth has rocketed ahead.

DifferenceEngines · 15/01/2023 02:52

whataboutsecondbreakfast · 14/01/2023 23:43

The only reason that it's not going to happen anytime soon is because the population isn't demanding it. The government is there to serve the population, not the other way round. If it became an election issue, you would see changed pretty quick smart.

People hate the resigned-to-cars spiel because it perpetuates the status quo.

Demand change.

You're being too idealistic.

People will live their lives in the way that suits them best. For most, that means driving because it's quicker, more convenient and saves a lot of time and money - especially if you're transporting multiple people.

Getting angry at people for using legal methods of transport to get to work and to school isn't going to make them change and it's not going to sway them to your way of thinking.

It just makes them dig their heels in.

I am not getting angry at people for using cars, I am angry at the government for building cities that mean that cars are the only way of getting around. When there is decent public transport and bike infrastructure, people use it.

DifferenceEngines · 15/01/2023 02:56

usernamealreadytaken · 14/01/2023 23:07

Walking to the bus stop isn’t going to stop obesity. In cities, where fewer people have cars and more people use public transport, there are still high levels of obesity.

public transport can get people a little more active, but let’s not try to fool anyone in to believing it’s the cure for obesity. Putting less in your mouth and not normalising obesity would be good steps.

The best way to prevent obesity is exercise that is part of daily life (as opposed to an extra obligation, like going to the gym). Active transport (bike/ walking to the bus stop) does this. There is good evidence for this.

Tuilpmouse · 15/01/2023 07:00

Quveas · 14/01/2023 07:59

MN is against everything. It's the nature of the beast. Dogs, cats, hamsters, the royal family, the non-royal family... take your pick.

😂 - very true, there are even people who object to humanity existing at all!

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