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Really confused with this figure - can this be right

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thisisasurvivor · 11/01/2023 20:08

Hello all

Have a few other threads about the abuse my ex put me and the kids through

He never paid a penny to support us either

Took a look at the child maintenance calculator and it says 60k over the last 6 years based on his salary

Now I know I will never get any of this ever !! But - if he now applies to see the kids (we were in a refuge after leaving extreme violence not seen him in years) does he have to cough up any of that 60k??

Please be kind guys
I know this may seem like a stupid question I am just wondering

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GCWorkNightmare · 11/01/2023 20:11

Kids aren’t Pay Per View.

If you didn’t have a case open with the CMS, you won’t see any backpay. Open one now though.

thisisasurvivor · 11/01/2023 20:11

Yes I know that

Don't have a case open obvs

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RandomMess · 11/01/2023 20:25

Why haven't you opened a case?

thisisasurvivor · 11/01/2023 20:26

The criminal court case only just finished

Never even thought about it til now
Ridiculous I know

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America12 · 11/01/2023 20:31

Open a case now.

thisisasurvivor · 11/01/2023 20:32

On it in the morning 🙏🙏

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PeekAtYou · 11/01/2023 20:33

Child maintenance and contact are different issues. He can apply for contact regardless of whether or not he pays and he doesn't lose contact if he doesn't pay.

PeekAtYou · 11/01/2023 20:34

CMS counts from the say that you apply so that 60k is gone.

tickychicky · 11/01/2023 20:44

No. They don't back date. And contact and money are separate

thisisasurvivor · 11/01/2023 20:51

Ok yes I guess that's what l was wondering

Thanks all

Bloody left it so late

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tickychicky · 11/01/2023 20:52

thisisasurvivor · 11/01/2023 20:51

Ok yes I guess that's what l was wondering

Thanks all

Bloody left it so late

Don't worry about what has been and gone.

thisisasurvivor · 11/01/2023 20:53

You know I only recent knew that I could apply

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thisisasurvivor · 11/01/2023 22:22

Thanks all

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