To get rage when people use xx months with their child's age

[Dinoswearunderpants]

Slightly lighthearted but it also rages me. Just seen a thread on here stating their '12 month old'. The child is 1! Another I read today '25 month old' so that's a 2 year old then.

Why do parents do it? I literally have to calculate the months as I simply have a 'nearly 2 year old' (birthday in April).

Does it bother anyone else? What simple things do you see that give you slight rage?

Couldn't give less of a shit how other people refer to their own children.

I don't have an issue with parents doing this but I don't think it's ableist to criticise it.

I don't think op or other posters are talking about medical, educational settings or any conversation related to development or milestones. Isn't this just about small talk at the park or posts on SM?

You must realise that's a huge over reaction though? Could have just stated calmly your reasons for using months in your individual case.

But op wasn't talking about you or even describing someone in your circumstances.

I'm fed up with calmly explaining shit to full grown adults. If you are all adult enough to try and pull apart reasons people do this, you are adult enough to own your nasty little ignorances.

I don't think anyone was #bekind when they were accusing parents of babying their children.

I'm completely cool with it until a child turns 2. But after that, it's getting a bit silly. Surely you could say then "he's just turned 2" or "she's nearly 3".

LolaSmiles in the party scenario it’s less helpful as still nobody will have a clue how old they are! I just say ‘4 in July’, ‘2 and a half’ or whatever. I remember being asked for my kids age in months by the health visitor when she was 2ish and not having a clue
That's true.

It just goes to show context is key and usually we adjust to match the context.

A conversation about development means months over 3 years is highly relevant. Whether a child is 41/42/43 months is irrelevant of you're talking to another parent at a party and it's a passing 'how old is your DC?'

With friends and family sometimes the specific age matters to the conversation and it would be really rude of them to laugh about saying "oh so 3" to a parent of a 3 year old who is sharing something about their child's development when their child's development does not match chronological age

How does she know? I don't exactly advertise my child and their disability and they are still relatively young so op would assume 'babying'.
Invisible disability is very common, so perhaps consider that before you come up with nasty speculation.

I don't mind so much Up to the age of 1 or if they are say 18 months then yes developmentally there's a big difference between that and a 12 month old

BUT Ive seen posts which say the chime was 13 months - why not say "just turned 1" or 23 months "about to turn 2" or 25 months - "just turned 2"

I did ‘months’ up to about 20 months, then went to…
nearly 2 or 2 in April
just turned 2
nearly 2 and a half
3 in April
etc etc

No one has made nasty speculations.

I'm sorry you've had a hard time with this but I feel you are seeing nastiness and judgement where there isn't any.

Ignorance
And when it's been explained and clinging to those assumptions is nastiness.

Absolutely what I have come to expect from people.

Ignorance

Nasty assumptions

What assumptions?

I don't care how people describe their child's age and I also don't pry about their child's development or try to make other parents feel like shit.

It feels like you're just spoiling for a fight.

It feels like you, op are just unwilling to admit there may be good fucking reasons why people do this and why getting the 'rage' over it is ridiculous.
Count your blessings of you have never had to do it and maybe go forward with a bit more awareness.

But a 23 month old is a one year old. Unless you're in South East Asia. If you're actually Korean then I think we need a whole other thread.

What?

I didn't say anything other than I think you're misreading the intentions on this thread.

Anyway, I have to go and collect my 47 month old from pre-school now.

It's funny how the op is allowed to feel 'rage' over this but I get angry at the ignorance and that's not ok.
Fucking hypocrites of the highest order.

It’s incredibly unedifying to get into arguments with posters like yourself who are clearly lashing out from a place of vulnerability and upset. But that doesn’t entitle you to speak to people like they’re shit or ascribe nasty meanings to their posts which they clearly didn’t mean. I wish you well.

The OP was being tongue in cheek. You're finding offence where absolutely none is intended. Of course you don't need to say 37 months in casual conversation but may well be imperative when talking with a dr. You are acting like you have no choice and are coming across irrationally angry

And you are coming across so fucking well.
People have outlined the reasons it is done. All I can ask is you have some fucking empathy going forward.
I won't hold my breath.

I have every empathy and work daily with dc with additional support needs and their families. When someone comes on wilfully misunderstanding peoples words on a lighthearted thread and being so aggressive towards them l, it's just not very nice. You also have no idea of the needs of other posters dc

There's no wilful understanding,unless it's those who continue to be confused after repeated posters have explained it to them.

You might want to do a bit of self reflection if that's your job, because you don't come across as particularly helpful or understanding, like many many people who are supposed to 'help'.

Again, grown adults making 'lighthearted' posts which overwhelmingly will be talking about parents of children who have a good reason to track their child's development accurately deserve to be pulled up for their insensitivity. Several people have done it in a nice way and op and others have ignored it, so maybe a sharper tone is needed to make you consider how fucking inappropriate it is.