To book a night in a hotel by myself?

[Problemorno]

So I have two DC who are 4 and 7 months. I haven't had a full night's sleep since before eldest was born. Eldest only started sleeping through a few months ago and youngest still wakes at least twice a night. There is a hotel a 10 minute walk away and I am so sorely tempted to book in this weekend! Just for one night of blissful uninterrupted sleep! But part of me would feel quite selfish for doing so? Other people cope with the sleeplessness that comes with small children so why can't I? But I feel if I don't get at least one night of decent sleep and at least a few hours free of 'Muuuuuuuummmmyyyy!' I may crack!

Youngest is combi fed and takes bottles fine but usually needs to be breastfed to sleep so I'm worried DH won't be able to settle him. But it's only for a night and I'm 10 minutes away? I should say DH is happy for me to go and is in fact encouraging it but I still have this nagging feeling of guilt (even though DH has gone on many trips by himself since the DC were born!)

YANBU - do it
YABU - you're being selfish

Go! I had a night in a hotel for work - at the time I only had DS (who was 3 and a great sleeper) and was pregnant with DD but the quiet was AMAZING. I’d love to be in a hotel right now even though both my DCs are currently asleep - there’s a whole new level of calm. Just go! Everyone will be fine at home.

For God's sake do it, it sounds like a bloody brilliant plan and your husband is completely on side with it too. No reason not to.
I'm jealous lol

Definitely do it! And order a takeaway to your room. You will not regret it. I love doing it. And the fact that your husband is encouraging is wonderful. I hope you have a great time.

You just be sure to turn your phone off though otherwise you won't relax. Give your husband your hotel name and room number for emergencies.

I have been known to order three different takeaways to my room - plus a wine delivery....

Enjoy OP - let us know how it goes!

i’d love to do this but I can’t sleep in hotels. If you can I say go for it.

DH bought me a night in our local Premier Inn as a surprise gift as soon as DD would take a bottle (DS was 2). Best gift ever!! I returned the favour as well. We both used to love a sole night away when kids were teeny!

Do it and feel zero guilt!

By the time my twins were 9 weeks old I literally couldn’t handle the lack of sleep. I wasn’t getting more than 45 solid minutes of sleep a night and I felt so unwell in so many ways. When my parents arrived for a visit I left them with them and my dh and went a hotel for 2 nights. I slept almost continually for 48 hours only waking for the loo and a quick bite to eat. It made all the difference and I came back feel so much stronger.

Imagine it. A deep, hot bath or powerful shower for as long as you want, uninterrupted. A bit of junk tv maybe lying on a huge bed that you’ve not had to make, with a snack - or more. Peace. Quiet. Time to look at that book or magazine. No interruptions. None. And your DH supports you.

Why haven’t you booked yet?!

I used to regular fantasise about spends by the night in a travelodge when DS was small. Never managed to arrange it but the fantasy got me through many a long night. Do it with zero guilt!

He's a keeper! What a fantastic gift.

@Problemorno YANBU! Book it!enjoy the well deserved rest 😁😴
My bubba is 3 months and i'm already thinking when will i get a full nights sleep 😳😁

YANBU! Go for it dammit!

Do it. I do it every so often for work and it's like a mental reset.

I had a night in a hotel when my son was 6 months. I took all my pumping gear and requested a fridge for the milk. I produced so much whilst I was gone 😂 but honestly i loved it!!! An amazing nights sleep and lovely breakfast. A nice long bath. Bliss!

Yep. Nothing better than a solo hotel stay every now and again.
A long hot shower and rolling around on the bed vibing myself silly!

Absolutely do it and don’t feel a moneys guilt about it. You need to be well yourself to care for your kids. You deserve to take care of yourself, OP. It will be lovely to spend time with your babies when you feel refreshed and recharged after some me time.
side note: it is absolutely lovely to read about a supportive and caring partner on here for a change:

It’s not selfish, it’s survival and I bet you rejoin the family with more energy and are more fun to be with

Definitely go . I have booked myself out of the family for 24 hrs at least once or twice a year for over 10 years …best treat ever !

Definitely do it. I used to fantasise about this (and did it too!).

My 2 year old didn’t sleep well last night and I’m ecstatic that I have a night away with work in a hotel room by myself tonight.

Absolutely do it, room service, the works. Enjoy!

This sounds like absolute bliss. Do it! I would do the same if I wasn't the only one who can get DS to sleep. Maybe in a few years!

YABU - it should be at least 1hr away. Do it.

Go for it. My husband is off to a wedding one weekend soon (we have 2 under 2 so I'm staying home) so for my treat I've booked myself into a spa hotel in the cotswolds in November... I'm counting down the days!

Do it OP. When my dcs were small my parents would come round to my house and I would go home to theirs and sleep in my old bed. It was heaven.

Ooh this is my fantasy! Do it! Make sure it has a bath!

I do this and mine are teenagers 😂

Book a premier inn, stroll round the area for the day, collect wine, snacks etc while out, get back, ridiculously long hot shower, lounge on bed and watch uninterrupted TV.

Fantastic.