To book a night in a hotel by myself?

[Problemorno]

So I have two DC who are 4 and 7 months. I haven't had a full night's sleep since before eldest was born. Eldest only started sleeping through a few months ago and youngest still wakes at least twice a night. There is a hotel a 10 minute walk away and I am so sorely tempted to book in this weekend! Just for one night of blissful uninterrupted sleep! But part of me would feel quite selfish for doing so? Other people cope with the sleeplessness that comes with small children so why can't I? But I feel if I don't get at least one night of decent sleep and at least a few hours free of 'Muuuuuuuummmmyyyy!' I may crack!

Youngest is combi fed and takes bottles fine but usually needs to be breastfed to sleep so I'm worried DH won't be able to settle him. But it's only for a night and I'm 10 minutes away? I should say DH is happy for me to go and is in fact encouraging it but I still have this nagging feeling of guilt (even though DH has gone on many trips by himself since the DC were born!)

YANBU - do it
YABU - you're being selfish

I do this every year for Mother's Day! It's the best nights sleep all year!!!

Run like the wind to your hotel! Go go go.

On the one hand I’d say absolutely just do it.
on the other hand you already sound guilt wracked for it and I think you’re in danger of getting there and checking in with your dh every half an hour and not being able to just flick the switch to switch off from it all in just one night and that it would end up being a wasted night off!
I’d do it though. I literally never felt an ounce of guilt leaving the dc with dh! He’s their very capable father 😂

Oh do it please! I'm really happy for you- your DH is encouraging you - there are so many accounts on here of women who are on their knees with exhaustion.
Long hot shower/bath, trash TV nice food (even if it just an room picnic from M&S) then as many hours of un-interrupted sleep as you can get. Have the breakfast in the morning as well

Absolutely do it.

Apologies, it wss me pressing YABU - accidently. GO!

Those Hypnos beds in the Premier Inns are beyond bliss!!!!

Go, get a takeaway and some nice bits. It will be amazing.
I looked earlier for Premier Inn near me and found it a bit strange 4 near me were sold out for tonight sadly.

Totally do it...

But I'm not joking once my sister and bro in law did just this and they woke to a crying baby in the hotel!!they couldn't believe it although they did roll over and go back to sleep.
I'm sure this won't Happen to you.
You enjoy it and it's important for you.

Do it! Sleep deprivation is torture.

Go to the hotel.

I also think you should agree with your husband to just call you if he thinks one of them needs to go to A&E.

you need to be able to fully relax and not look at the phone constantly in case he’s not coping.

I want to do it now

Don't think of it as being selfish. Think of it as your vote of confidence in your DH's ability to cope with his children.

Enjoy.

I used to do exactly the same!
Loved feeling like a kid again in my old room

Do it! I've been away with work, friends and a few spa over nights. DH does the same (opposite though as he likes wild camping, the fool!) ... sometimes we go away together if we get a sitter too 💓
Just do it and make sure you enjoy it - never feel guilty about a bit of you time as it helps everyone really

I do this a couple of times a year. My DC are 5 and 2.

I work with DH and our lives are very busy so without these breaks things get a bit much. It helps me reset and remember who I am, and come back a much nicer person!

I go for 3 nights; I leave late on the first night and get home early on the third day. But that gives me three nights of sleep and two whole days to myself.

I wish all mums could do it. If you have a job that means you get a change of scene or work away, then you probably don’t need it as much, but for me it’s a life saver.

I want to prescribe it to all mums!!!

also, this time of year hotels can be really cheap so you might get a good deal in a fancier hotel - I sometimes get one with a pool! Bliss x

Thanks all, it's been booked 🙈 4 star hotel, complimentary afternoon tea and breakfast, a balcony overlooking a river... Cannot wait!

How lovely @Problemorno - enjoy and relax!! I’d see about the possibility of a late check out too.
if I’m in a hotel and have breakfast there, I’m quite an early riser so have breakfast and a walk and am usually back to the room by 9/9:30. Then the sort of hanging about until check out at 11 seems a bit wasted so end up leaving early. Some places will let you check out at 12 though, which could mean you either ended up with a massive lie in and then breakfast or you could do what I do and then come back and have an extra little snooze!

Amazing! The jealousy is real. Have a wonderful time 😴

Just go! Honestly, your husband is capable of looking after the kids. Do it. Nothing to feel guilty about.

Do it if you think it will work. Personally, no matter how tired I am, I can never sleep in a hotel room on the first night!

My husband pays for me to have a night in a hotel every year for my birthday. It’s always a really nice one, I go for check in and leave after breakfast. It started as both my kids were terrible sleepers and I was always the one that got up with them as he has a high pressure job. Kids are now 7 and 4 and sleep like a dream but I still love my one night away on my own!

Yes absolutely do it.

But I’d also recommend reading Dr Ferber’s book on sleep… Best thing we ever did. Might mean you get a full night’s sleep in the not too distant future.

Do it... I plan on doing the same thing next month. I am taking my 8 yo DD and 17 mo DS Disneyland Paris next month with my mum. My husband will be at home and I have told him on my return I'm booking a night in a hotel for myself. I want to order room service, have a bath and just lie in the quietness. He's happy for me to do this.

I asked my boss to send me on a work overnight for this reason 🤣