To book a night in a hotel by myself?

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So I have two DC who are 4 and 7 months. I haven't had a full night's sleep since before eldest was born. Eldest only started sleeping through a few months ago and youngest still wakes at least twice a night. There is a hotel a 10 minute walk away and I am so sorely tempted to book in this weekend! Just for one night of blissful uninterrupted sleep! But part of me would feel quite selfish for doing so? Other people cope with the sleeplessness that comes with small children so why can't I? But I feel if I don't get at least one night of decent sleep and at least a few hours free of 'Muuuuuuuummmmyyyy!' I may crack!

Youngest is combi fed and takes bottles fine but usually needs to be breastfed to sleep so I'm worried DH won't be able to settle him. But it's only for a night and I'm 10 minutes away? I should say DH is happy for me to go and is in fact encouraging it but I still have this nagging feeling of guilt (even though DH has gone on many trips by himself since the DC were born!)

YANBU - do it
YABU - you're being selfish

I did it for the first time ever last year. I have 4 kids between 3 and 10. I haven't done it since then so it's the one and only night I've had away from them in their lives.
I say go for it. But, for me, it wasn't as wonderful as I imagined. I struggled to get to sleep, tossed and turned most of the night, and then woke up at the first sign of daylight. Whether it was because I wasn't at home in my own bed, or because of my anxiety over leaving them with their dad for the full night, I don't know. Definitely try it, but don't pin your hopes on it being this amazing uninterrupted full night's sleep. Because it may not be.

I'm so glad your going. I was at a Travelodge on Sunday night and it was bliss. DS is 3 and sleeps well but just being completely away and not having to think about him needing me was lovely. I slept like a log.

Do it! A night's uninterrupted sleep is priceless.

Be mindful though that you may not enjoy it as much as you hope to. The first time I went away without my kids I kept thinking about them and couldn't relax at all.

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Yes do it, it will be amazing. My DH booked one for me in a posh hotel when our youngest was still disrupting my sleep. He had dinner with me (my mum was babysitting) then went home to look after the kids. I had a lovely night watching a movie and reading and sleeping right in the middle of a huge bed. Then he came back in the morning, had breakfast with me and took me home. It's still the best holiday of my entire life because I really needed that one-night break from the grind of sleepless nights.

DO IT!!! It's my absolute favourite thing to do, and I don't even have a baby or non-sleeping child. I desperately need to be alone to recharge and with a very chatty preschooler at home, it's absolute bliss. First time was a birthday present from my DP and was a very expensive hotel, but I realised I didn't need fancy, I just needed silence and to be alone.

I have my next one booked for April and cannot wait. I stay in a pretty touristy city near us so I take myself out for dinner and go for an evening walk before going back to the hotel for a bath and sleeeeeeep. Don't get up for breakfast, have a leisurely lie in and get ready at your own pace. Do a full face of make up just because you can. Blow dry your hair because no-one is asking you for Hey Duggee on the tablet. Oh it's wonderful!

Just to add, I have to agree with others that I don't always sleep well. But just switching off from being Mummy is restful - I come back a much nicer person!

Ah, that sounds lush and I only have a DH to escape - no non-sleeping children!

I took myself off to work early the other week, when I didn't need to, just to get a couple of hour's peace in a coffee shop with my book. I could've stayed home, DH wouldn't have cared, but honestly he just cannot stop talking! I just wanted a bit of peace and quiet and calm. It was brilliant!

As I was sat there I did wonder whether I could get away with telling him I had to go away for a night for work and do exactly what you're doing. Not having children, it would be a bit weird for me to take myself off to a hotel for a night otherwise! 😂

(I do love my husband, honest, but I lived alone for many years before he came along and sometimes I miss my sanctuary!)

One nights not enough. Go for two lol

It's a really healthy, positive thing to know when you need to take a break, OP.

We're all different re; sleep. I'd be an absolute wreck!

Go, and have a lovely, restful time AND A LIE IN!!

Fantastic update 👏 DS is only 9mo and still bfing a lot. I am counting the days till he's properly night weaned and I can do this. If anything you've just convinced me to upgrade my plans from the local Premier Inn 😂

Have a lovely time!