If you are aged to go cinema with a friend, then they ask you if they could invite another friend along you don’t know, would you mind ?

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Thinking of asking another friend along as both asked me to go and see a certain film with them
bit don’t want the first one to feel bad about it or anything

Why don't you just ask your friend and tell her its fine if she minds?? I wouldn't mind the cinema, but would if it was a catch up over drinks. Its irrelevant what we think. Just ask your friend!

That would be fine by me.

I wouldn't mind at all

I would pretend it was fine and agree if asked, but I’d be very unhappy about it.

3 is a crap number and if two of them know you and not each other, its awkward for both of them. Especially at a cinema where they can’t get to know each other or move away to talk to other people like in a bar.

Is this the Mumsnet rule then. No merging of friends? I'm having a couple over for dinner soon and was thinking of asking another couple as think it would be fun, is this allowed? 😂😂😂

Absolutely love it when things like this happen. Over the years this is how my social circle has grown - when friends bring other friends along to dinner, the cinema, the party, the walk, the gig etc etc etc. The more good people in my life the better. Sometimes you don't hit it off as much/immediately and that's fine too, you can still have an interesting conversation with someone you won't see again.

Nothing to do with introversion. I like to be alone and recharge by myself, while too much socialising exhausts me. But I enjoy a lot of things that tire me out! I find travel exhausting but I love seeing new places. I find socialising tiring but love meeting new people.

If the other friend you want to invite is anything like some of the commenters here (talking about the bully one’s who think there is only one way to live and calls people who don’t like it when more people are imposed on them names) then don’t add this other friend, no one deserves that misery.

You have to ask the first friend, don’t push it though and make it so that she has to say yes, and give her space to cancel going if that’s what she’d want to do.

Oh wow extremely split ! This is no help !!

It depends.

Is the first friend, the more the merrier type or more one on one? Is their time limited or is it flexible? Do you see them often? Are they really wanting to see a movie and go with someone or is it simply a catch-up including a movie?

It is a movie so you’re not or at least you shouldn’t be talking during it anyway. If there’s a meal included, I’d think it would be better to only invite one, drinks both but it does depend on the first friend.

I hate that situation. Yes, i would mind.

Like every single thread. 😂

I would be pleased, I like meeting new people.

But would expect you to check with me first.

And be careful how you present it. In your OP it sounds slightly as if bringing the friend solves your problem in being at the centre of too many friends.

I would feel as if I wasn’t entertaining or interesting enough to spend an evening with.
“Can I bring a friend?” sounds like “You’re a bit boring so I will bring another friend to entertain me, just in case.”

Sorry I wouldn’t like it (although like others I wouldn’t say anything). I always really look forward to spending 1-1 time with friends and someone else being there change the dynamic completely

Me too 🤣

I think it depends on the plan, normally I dont do just a movie when meeting friends but would do a coffee first / or dinner/drinks after. It depends based on the existing plan and if you think you have the social grace / energy to make sure its not awkward - like if two of you are clearly going off for dinner afterwards...

I'd probably do the same, after cinema you'd probably go on to at least have a drink somewhere so I would hope the other friend would be someone they think I would get along with.

It depends really. If you see the friend you're going with fairly regularly then it wouldn't bother me. If it's the first time we've me up in like 6/12 months then I'd be a bit irked if someone else was invited.

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest. I've been friend 1 in this situation before. You're going to the cinema with a friend, not to dinner with a date!

It's the cinema, where you sit in a row not talking to each other (ideally). Wouldn't bother me a bit.