If you are aged to go cinema with a friend, then they ask you if they could invite another friend along you don’t know, would you mind ?

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Thinking of asking another friend along as both asked me to go and see a certain film with them
bit don’t want the first one to feel bad about it or anything

Yanbu invite the other one along as long as your friend you already made the plan with says she doesn’t mind
(although I know she will say she doesn’t mind m, even if perhaps she does)

yabu stick with the first plan you made

I wouldn't mind at all. If it was a drink and a chat, that would be different

It wouldn’t bother me. It’s not as if you can chat during the film!

I wouldn't as it can change the dynamics of the meet up, assuming you'll be chatting before or after the cinema.

Say to friend 1, 'friend 2 also wants to see this and I think would like me to go with her. Is it OK if she comes?'
Friend 1 says 'no, that's fine'.
You invite friend 2.
Everyone sees the film and friends 1 and 2 might make a new friend!

I would mind, but I would pretend that I didn't!

Ditto

I would ask the friend I have already arranged to go with if they minded. I probably wouldn't mind if you asked, if you just turned up with your other friend without saying anything I would be annoyed because I would have turned up expecting it just to be the two of us.

I find it rude.

A friend of mine does this a lot. We'll talk about meeting for dinner/cinema/activity and she’ll ask if she can bring someone else who she thinks will enjoy it.

Have to say, I love it and have made friends with her friends. We went for dinner last week, she brought a friend and so did I- it was so nice and everyone hit it off.

Fine, it’s the cinema, you’ll all be sitting in the dark gazing at the screen anyway. Ask your other friend first though, if you’re not sure how they’ll take it.

Me too, although logically I know it's not

Yes, it'd bug me

• not rude.

Generally on here folks tend to hate it if they have to meet new people, maybe make a friend,

for me the more the merrier,.

I wouldn't mind.

I think for a film most people wouldn't mind. I would mind though if you didnt ask and had already asked her. The simple answer is to say to your friend "l was with my mate Rosie last night and she mentioned wanting to watch X. I thought she could come with us but ghought I'd better check with you before I asked her"
I would feel differently about other 'events' but cinema is pretty passive so no concerns.

Yeah - no, that’s rude. It’d piss me off.

To literally all sit silently and watch a film together, of course, go ahead. If you’ve planned a longer catch up- coffee before/dinner after I’d expect to just have 1:1 time without someone I didn’t know tagging along.

I wouldn't mind , but just the cinema Are you going for drinks/a meal before or after ? That would change it for me

I'd hate it, but I'm an introvert who needs time to be comfortable around new people. I'm sure a lot of people wouldn't mind.

I would ask first. I wouldn’t mind and have met new friends this way and had a good time. It equally I can see how it changes the dynamics, especially if the 2 strangers don’t click with each other

Cinema it wouldn’t bother me. Meal not so keen 😄

I would feel very uncomfortable and like you didn't actually want to hang out with me so had to invite someone to make it bearable. But I'm autistic and was very much not popular.

If she's confident and sociable then she's probably like it. If she's shy/introverted, not so much.

I made a baby mum friend who would bring her family when we met up, which would be fine tbh if they didn't then spend most of their time together and I felt like such a third wheel I stopped initiating meet ups.

Best way to meet a friend of a friend, really, no need to chat for the duration but natural topic of conversation afterwards.