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If you are aged to go cinema with a friend, then they ask you if they could invite another friend along you don’t know, would you mind ?

95 replies

FrenchOnionSuper · 10/01/2023 17:50

Thinking of asking another friend along as both asked me to go and see a certain film with them
bit don’t want the first one to feel bad about it or anything

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JustDanceAddict · 10/01/2023 18:10

I was the mutual friend- I ate first w the original friend and we met the other one afterwards for the film.

Onnabugeisha · 10/01/2023 18:12

More the merrier imho. A film at the cinema isn’t going to be a intimate catch-up session anyway…

PugInTheHouse · 10/01/2023 18:12

More the merrier in my opinion, I am quite sociable though so wouldn't have an issue even if it was drinks and a meal.

shreddies · 10/01/2023 18:13

Yes I would. I would always have a coffee/drink and catch up with a friend if we saw a film.

XenoBitch · 10/01/2023 18:15

Personally, I would not like that at all. It changes the dynamic of the meeting. But then other people are different and would welcome it.

Rauha · 10/01/2023 18:15

Thingsthatgo · 10/01/2023 17:55

I would mind, but I would pretend that I didn't! Grin

Same 😬

Floralnomad · 10/01/2023 18:17

It’s fine , surely that’s how you make new friends

RobertaFirmino · 10/01/2023 18:17

Yes, why not? She might be nice and if she wasn't then it wouldn't matter too much because you don't talk at the pictures anyway! I think it would be considerate to ask first though.

GolfEchoRomeoTangoIndia · 10/01/2023 18:19

Partly depends on the vibe. If you chat all the time with friend A and see her regularly, then no reason not to invite friend B: there will be other occasions for her to tell you about her DH's ED.

If it's an infrequent meet up with friend A then tread more carefully.

FoxtrotOscarFoxtrotOscar · 10/01/2023 18:23

GolfEchoRomeoTangoIndia · 10/01/2023 18:19

Partly depends on the vibe. If you chat all the time with friend A and see her regularly, then no reason not to invite friend B: there will be other occasions for her to tell you about her DH's ED.

If it's an infrequent meet up with friend A then tread more carefully.

😂

WoofWoofWoofMudToys · 10/01/2023 18:24

JustDanceAddict · 10/01/2023 18:10

I was the mutual friend- I ate first w the original friend and we met the other one afterwards for the film.

@JustDanceAddict I can see your logic in that, but I think that's really unfriendly rude.

'@FrenchOnionSuper this isn't going to help much, sorry. But for me it would depend on which friend it was that I was going with, whether it was a situation where they felt the should invite the other person, or if I felt they were asking then because they'd rather have someone more interesting there - if it's someone I see often or only occasionally etc.

& thsts only because it's the cinema, not dinner or a day out. Unless we agreed to 'go out' and invite other people to make a bigger group thing.

PinkSyCo · 10/01/2023 18:26

What about asking friend 1 if she’d find if your other friend comes along? Or is that too obvious?

BertaHoon · 10/01/2023 18:28

GoingtotheWinchester · 10/01/2023 18:06

Cinema it wouldn’t bother me. Meal not so keen 😄

This.

lunar1 · 10/01/2023 18:31

It would piss me off to be honest, I'd go along with it once, but cancel on you if you did it on a second occasion.

youshouldnthaveasked · 10/01/2023 18:32

It depends on what they are both like I guess. Do you think they’d get on? You know them both well I’m assuming

TedMullins · 10/01/2023 18:35

I wouldn’t mind. I’ve done it and had friends do it with me. I find it weird how antisocial so many people on MN are (and I’m not an extrovert, I definitely need alone time to recharge!) I’d mention it to the first friend though.

TedMullins · 10/01/2023 18:36

For people who would mind, why is that?

Rosecoffeecup · 10/01/2023 18:37

I wouldn't mind, it's the cinema, there's hardly going to be awkward silences

Hazey19 · 10/01/2023 18:38

This wouldn’t bother me at all x

butterfliedtwo · 10/01/2023 18:44

Once I wouldn't say no, even though it would annoy me, but if it was more than that, I'd bow out.

Passportpondery · 10/01/2023 18:45

I wouldn’t mind at all for a cinema/theatre trip, you barely get to talk to each other anyway.

For a meal out or drinks I would feel a bit put out as it changes the dynamics of conversation.

CellarDoreen · 10/01/2023 18:46

I wouldn't mind

Gensola · 10/01/2023 18:49

I hate it when people do this. I feel obligated to say I don’t mind when I actually do mind, but usually then cancel if I can do that without losing money.

XenoBitch · 10/01/2023 18:49

TedMullins · 10/01/2023 18:36

For people who would mind, why is that?

I might meet for a film, but we would most certainly be having a coffee/meal and a catch up afterwards. Having a stranger to me there would change the dynamic. Personally, I would struggle to talk as I am very shy around new people. It would be a miserable experience.

I don't want to meet new people right now.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 10/01/2023 18:54

Wouldn't bother me at all.