Friend asking me for petrol money ...a bit cheeky?

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So I got to my friends house (who lives around 25 minutes away)
We went to the local shop and she said can you transfer £6.25 in to my bank so I can withdraw £50 (as she was short and would of only been able to withdraw £40)
So I did
Then later that night she went to the bar.
It was a cheap social club and the drinks were £2.80 for a gin
I gave her £10 and asked her to get me a gin
She came back and gave me no chance
Now she's my friend so obviously I don't want to ask for my change and just assume she forgot.

The next day she gives me a lift home and as we get home..she asks for £5 for petrol
Bare in mind she got £6.25 already and then another £7.20
Aibu to be a bit annoyed ?

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I never understand why people can talk so candidly to strangers on the internet but not to their so called friends, I couldn't be friends with someone if I felt I couldn't have a simple conversation because it was too awkward.

“Now she's my friend so obviously I don't want to ask for my change and just assume she forgot.”

Nope, not obvious. In real world people say, “can I have my change please?”

You didn't give it to her did you?

I hope you said take it from the £13.45 you owe me and you can just give me £8.45

I mean she seems to have absolutely no problem asking you for money but you seem to have the problem asking for it back. Just be upfront with her and say hang on a minute I have already given you xyz.

Harsh but true!

This. It’s weird that you didn’t say “How much was the gin, I gave you £10?” And when asked for petrol money you should have said “Can you take it out of the money you owe me.”

Yeah, no problem just transfer me the 8.50 rather than the 13.50 you owe me and that's us quits

I woudn't even have paid for the Gin - 'can I have a gin, you can take it out of the £6 I gave you earlier'. Ball was already rolling at that point

Ditch. She's not a friend

If she could only afford £40 out - why did she insist on £50 ?

Is she on the bones of her arse ?

Team Friend here. At least your friend is clear about asking for a specific amount of money and what it’s for.

OP. YABU. You live in a fantasy world where friends are mind readers and you think it’s OK to take the huff when they don’t. I’ve ditched friends like you before because I can’t be arsed with their stupid mind games.

Sounds like your friend is ridiculously hard up and trying to make a few bob from anywhere she can. Real friends don't treat each other like an easy source of funds. I presume she thinks you have more money than she does so it's OK?

Just tell her she's cheeky and you want your change back. If she takes a strop about it you know where you stand - don't need friends like that.

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This! OP, surely you spoke up when she mentioned the 5’er petrol
money.

“oh yeah, sure, just take it out of the change if the tenner I gave you for the bar”

Did you give her the £5??? If so YABU

Good grief!

Stop being such a pushover and tell her she owed you money in the first place and she is taking the piss.

If you cant talk to your own friend honestly, well, it doesnt sound like you are really friends.

Ffs, grow a pair OP.

Are you not able to speak?

"I got to my friends house" so presumably under your own steam. You said it took 25 minutes. Walking? Public Transport or did she pick you up?

25 mins drop-off back home in a car isn't a fiver. But maybe she thought you'd been taking the P on previous occasions if you hadn't agreed this?

Either way, just talk to her and sort it out.

You are clearly nice and don’t want confrontation or to embarrass her, but she needs it as she is BU. I think this one is really easy and all you need to say now is “Just take the petrol off that tenner I gave you for my drink.” Why would you be in any way embarrassed about saying that in reply when it’s an absolute fact? And next time she returns from the bar, hold your hand out for the change. Say ‘Change?’ if she pretends to look puzzled. No need to let this pisstaker do this to you.

Don’t be so judgemental / nasty. Save it for someone who is clearly a total cow, not OP who seems very kind. Some people worry about having minor conflict with others. They won’t necessarily share those reasons with you or even be aware that that is what they are doing.

Sounds as if she is very short of money at the moment. Tell her to keep the petrol money from what she owes you. Does she think you are rich ?

Absolutely. If she doesn't recognise she actually owes you money, she's not your friend, she's a user. And you don't need that in your life.

She’s a cf ,learn to be more assertive all people like that will walk all over you .when she asked to transfer money ask why and when you will get it back .
£10 for drinks say was there no change ?
the money for petrol say yes absolutely that’s fine as long as you pay me back for other things.

If she's willing to mention petrol money (I wouldn't charge a friend petrol money at all) then you definitely should mention the money she had

This.

Or she'll try it on again.

I think you must realize that she'll continue to take the piss unless you speak up. If your friendship can't take this kind of questioning, then it's not one worth saving anyway.