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Friend asking me for petrol money ...a bit cheeky?

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idloveitifwemadeit · 09/01/2023 09:46

So I got to my friends house (who lives around 25 minutes away)
We went to the local shop and she said can you transfer £6.25 in to my bank so I can withdraw £50 (as she was short and would of only been able to withdraw £40)
So I did
Then later that night she went to the bar.
It was a cheap social club and the drinks were £2.80 for a gin
I gave her £10 and asked her to get me a gin
She came back and gave me no chance
Now she's my friend so obviously I don't want to ask for my change and just assume she forgot.

The next day she gives me a lift home and as we get home..she asks for £5 for petrol
Bare in mind she got £6.25 already and then another £7.20
Aibu to be a bit annoyed ?

OP posts:
C1N1C · 09/01/2023 11:15

I'm sorry, what sort of friend pockets change from drinks???

There's a difference between say two cinema tickets costing 35 and paying for it for the both of you... with the other spending 40 on dinner... and actually pocketing change!

Is she in financial hardship?

cathcath2 · 09/01/2023 11:16

Just say "Of course, just take it out of my change from the gin."

Shoxfordian · 09/01/2023 11:17

Tell her you’re not a cashpoint

DomPom47 · 09/01/2023 11:19

She does not sound like a decent friend.
if you gave her the money for the petrol as she put you on the spot and you were surprised etc then send her a message about your change and ask her how she worked out the cost of petrol while you’re at it.

tattygrl · 09/01/2023 11:23

I cannot stand tight fistedness like this. Charging a fiver for a lift home?? It's so, so tight.

What did you say when she asked for petrol money? I'd have probably said "what about the money I've given you yesterday, does that cover it?" Not because I think you should be essentially paying her what an Uber would cost to drop you home, but to address the fact you've already GIVEN (not lent) her money.

jtaeapa · 09/01/2023 11:24

Just ask her if she has forgotten that she has your gin change of £7.20 and your loan of £6.25 that she needed to withdraw cash. Ask her to transfer you £8.45 which is £7.20+£6.25-£5 = £8.45. You need to meet CF with CF. See how she responds to you "invoicing" her - in the same manner as she's happy to invoice you. Seriously - grow balls and do this - or you will forever be taken advantage of.

JudgeRudy · 09/01/2023 11:32

Wet lettuce 😆haven't heard that in years!

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 09/01/2023 11:36

Well. If you always use bank transfer to pay the exact amount of petrol requested, which is really easy you have a record that you have paid it and don't need to do swapsies on drinks which fogs the issue. Give her the benefit of the doubt if its not usual behaviour but if it is speak up for yourself. Use text and bank transfer to talk payments with her and try to avoid those situations.

ShesNotTheMessiah · 09/01/2023 11:44

ReiRay · 09/01/2023 09:48

Lash her

first post nail it Grin

Witchymcwitch · 09/01/2023 11:47

£2.80 for a gin? I doubt it!
That would barely get you a cup of tea!

BodenCardiganNot · 09/01/2023 11:48

Think the op is on a wind up mission!

JoyPeaceHealth · 09/01/2023 12:07

I can't believe people carry on like this!

Abigail69 · 09/01/2023 12:08

I'm quiet old nearing 60-ish

OP, you call her a "friend"?
ditch ASAP

LlynTegid · 09/01/2023 12:23

Put it down to experience but don't accept it again.

PinkyFlamingo · 09/01/2023 12:26

I dont why you didn't ask for your change because "obviously she's a friend"??

ABBAsnumberonefan · 09/01/2023 12:28

Just say oh you can just keep the change from the drink and transfer I gave you - let me know if it covers it 🤨

pinkyredrose · 09/01/2023 12:29

MoscowMules · 09/01/2023 09:51

Depends, do you want to cause a fuss over £13.45 or do you just want to politely decline next time knowing she pockets change.

It's fair to be annoyed, like it was your change, but personally I'd let this one go, and just move forward giving the odd polite decline to borrowing small amounts of cash, such as "I'm really sorry I wish I could but I'm a bit short this month,so sorry" sorta thing.

It's not the amount, it's that it wasn't hers to keep.

WetLettuce2 · 09/01/2023 12:34

You - ‘Yes, let’s settle up’

You again - ‘so add last nights transfer to the change from the drinks - that comes to £x you owe me’

You still - ‘and I owe you petrol of £5 so take that away’

You lastly - ‘so you owe me £y’

Friend - ‘perfect - here you go’

You - ‘bye then, thanks for a lovely time’

Friend - ‘byeeeee see you soon’

thisplaceisweird · 09/01/2023 12:41

If you want it back ask very soon or just let it go and be more forthcoming in future

Bollindger · 09/01/2023 12:54

Either tell her she owes you money, or give her the £5 of you can afford it and make sure you never give her money again.

Museya15 · 09/01/2023 13:00

She is not a friend my dear. Get rid of her.

Zonder · 09/01/2023 13:00

So I got to my friends house (who lives around 25 minutes away)

Did she pick you up as well as drop you home? If so I'd count about a tenner for petrol and just point out she's already had £13 so let's call it quits.

StoppinBy · 09/01/2023 13:01

YANBU to be annoyed but just message and say to her that you realised she never transferred back the money you loaned her or gave you change from your drink so she can just keep that in lieu of petrol money as it more than covers what she asked for.

Why did she not just get 40 pound out? I don't understand that part.

Mouse24 · 09/01/2023 13:05

ReiRay · 09/01/2023 09:48

Lash her

This 100 % 😂

Tinkerbyebye · 09/01/2023 13:11

Yes,
point out what you gave her and tell her she is still quids in

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