Wondering how to refer to my sister's daughter now?

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I always referred to her as my niece - but she is going into a sort of non-gender stage..... Her name is a very neutral one now. But I still cannot stop referring to her (them??) as my niece. Relation/ships are usually gender specific, and a bit hard to avoid using I have found, but I really don't want to offend. It is the "non-gender" bit that is causing me some difficulty.
Help......

Feels like you're over complicating this, how often will you really need to use the term?

If my brothers kid came out as NB then I'd either use their name or say something like 'oh have you seen Johns oldest kid recently? Yeah they've recently changed their name to Moonchild III.' Then I'd use their name from that point on.

@WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll, you're being a drama queen! Nope, it will go, how many nieblings do you have or what are their names or whatever and then the OP will say or not say that the person in question is "they." Then anyone with any sense will say "OK." Problem over.

As the parent of a trans gender person, just ask what they prefer.

No matter what she chooses to do to herself, she is still your niece.

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Niblings confused me the first time I heard it used but I was too embarrassed to ask (for fear of ignorance) and now I know with it means it makes sense. I did always hear it in the plural initially. But I think with a singular niece @WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll 's point means it may just cause confusion.

Nibling sounds like you want to eat her.

I'm an American (and am in very progressive circles) and no, this is not standard. Most people who have family or friends w/ gender identities simply do their best to not talk about them as there's always a new offense.

Nibling?

Just use their name. If it is wider family you are talking to they would probably know who you mean.

Not sure I could take nibling seriously - spell check has not heard of it. I would end up resorting to nibbles, which could be a good pet name.

Agree with PP that she is your niece.

Nibling.

Works as a collective noun for a mixed gender group of your sibling's children.

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'Nibling'. It's just so ridiculous - in sound and in concept!

This whole regressive gender-reinforcement stuff is depressing most of the time, but at least there are opportunities for a good old belly laugh.

Absolute eye roll. I'd keep well away until she's realised she's being an utter plonker.

The undertone from you OP is not great. Thats what you should be working on rather than wondering this. You were looking for validation for your negative thoughts on your 'situation'. The 'what do I call my niece' is not why you posted.

Ask your sister what she wants to be called.
strangers on tinternet won’t know.
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Nibling. That’s what my sister calls my kids.

My mum/dads sibling...

Why is it ridiculous? It’s just a word to refer to your siblings children. Do you find the word sibling ridiculous? If not, why not?

Another vote for "nibling". She is your nibling. Her/their brother is also your nibling. Spell check seems to say it's got 2 b's. Nibblings. It's a lovely word.

@WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll, you're being a drama queen! Nope, it will go, how many nieblings do you have or what are their names or whatever and then the OP will say or not say that the person in question is "they." Then anyone with any sense will say "OK." Problem over.

Neither of us can really know for sure. All I know is that, if you introduce "My baby" to people, the first question will almost certainly be 'boy or girl?' It's natural to seek the additional information you need to continue the conversation - especially as most people will want to know whether to refer to somebody as 'he' or 'she'.

Maybe it's just me, but I find it really odd when people use deliberately confusing terms to refer to known individuals - like when people on MN keep referring to their partner as 'they', when the likelihood is that they probably do already know what sex their partner is. 'Nibling' is already a bizarre enough word to use, knowing that barely anybody will know what it means, when you could have said niece or nephew, which every English speaker is fully familiar with - people will just wonder what you're trying to hide or thinking you're showing off your vocabulary.

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Niobe knows what a niebling is

Just say niece. No big deal.

How often do you use the word niece, in front of your niece?

This is a non issue. Just continue calling her your niece.

I'll probably be told off, but I would still call her your niece because that is what m she is. Just because she is jumping on the non binary bandwagon doesn't mean you have to as well.