About flying business class

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DH has fibromyalgia & MS. It’s extremely difficult for him to sit in a plane seat for any length of time whether short or long haul.

We were talking about holidays and he suggested he flies business class and me and DS fly economy. I said I didn’t feel that this was appropriate and would rather save up the extra money and we all fly business class.

He seemed genuinely put out by this and is acting like I am being unreasonable? Interested in other peoples opinions please

gogohmm · 07/01/2023 11:33

Depends on where you are going. Business class within Europe isn't much different from economy, a little extra leg room, wider seat but the main perks are in flight meal and priority luggage on arrival (aimed at business people in a hurry) it's not that expensive either, £100 more when we did it. Long haul business class seats are amazing but very expensive too, however premium economy is good and I highly recommend it as a half way house for the whole family, lots of room.

This is the solution surely? And yes, I would be seriously put out if my hubby wanted to travel business & make me fly economy with the kids alone, health condition or not...3 musketeers have it right, "All 4 one and one 4 All" (together, or not at all - is my motto). Of course there are other options since he has MS:

1. holiday in the UK (no flight)
2. trains (Rishi too)
3. ferry (eg to France, Across the Mersey, etc.)

RunRunRunSomeMore · Yesterday 00:38

This is clearly abusive. Fibromyalgia and MS my arse, he wants you in economy class to demonstrate his superiority over you. And so he can shag the stewardess in the business class loo.

LTB, obviously.

I reckon this too, what is his agenda, why not all go PE or get an extra leg room seat in E...I'm really confused by why he believes BC specifically will serve someone with FM & MS better than any other option; especially that he ought to fly BC alone. Its just weird. I have health conditions & me, DH (who wants to be a Vicar btw, so would quite literally never suggest this, very humble guy, not at all materialistic) & son would fly together. Son is only 7 tho & has ASD & ADHD, so more care needs than a 17 year old. Plus why go somewhere like New York or Abu Dhabi if you have MS, why not simplier like: UK or south of France so you can get back to UK easily for med attention...I don't believe his MS is that severe if can take long haul flights to countries with a different culture...look at Selma Blair & Christina Applegate, they've given up working due to how bad the symptoms are. I think he wants BC alone either for the treat (so then all of you should have it).

@AprilFools2015 the post you quoted was a joke!

@TerraNostra fair enough, but you never know do you, what goes on behind closed doors. If there are similar examples of him getting better treatment / package other times, then maybe that is why he wants to fly BC??

I just smell a rat, that's all. Only an opinion though, might be a perfectly nice bloke, who needs the space and wants a lovely holiday abroad again before he reaches point where that would be too physically demanding...in which case all the more reason to share a family treat together.

Especially if you have the expendable income to save up to treat everyone, which OP seems to suggest they do.

fair enough, but you never know do you, what goes on behind closed doors. If there are similar examples of him getting better treatment / package other times, then maybe that is why he wants to fly BC??

I'm puzzled as to what on earth people think goes on in BC, other than the advertised package?

fair enough, but you never know do you, what goes on behind closed doors.

I think this forum and it's excitment over potential affairs has turned your brain to mush.

@AprilFools2015 you are a loon 😂

I think your marriage is doomed if your conversation includes the sentence 'I don't think its appropriate' it's very sort of business like and impersonal

I have MS but have only taken short haul flights. It is not just the pain and discomfort side of it, there's also a mental drain too. All of it is terribly overwhelming and I have go through extra steps before boarding, including having to declare injectable medication in my luggage. I find flying absolutely exhausting and fatigue kicks in. I try and find somewhere at the airport to sleep before I get on the plane. Once the exhaustion and extra pain kicks in, it's hard to stay awake, and I am ultra sensitive to sound and touch. Any little movement can be excruciating. Having people bump into you, lean over you, talking all around you, which leads to sensory overload, and can lead to panic attacks, fainting, and nausea at the least. My body can have involuntary spasms which I can't control, and are exhausting and cause more pain.

My family do everything than can to make the flight bearable. We often go away the day before our holiday starts, just so I can have a full day to get some kind of recovery in place. The flight staff do as much as they can to help, but I have to sit in a middle seat, in certain specified rows, which make the flight easier for everyone. I would leave the rest of my family behind just to fly BC!!

No one will ever know what life with MS is like, unless they have it themselves. I wouldn't wish it on anyone, and I would happily give up all the "perks" of being disabled for just one normal day without pain and fatigue!

I genuinely thought about this with my ex-wife whenever we travelled. I had some back issues at the time and tried that (didn't get away with it).

The one and only reason was because I didn't actually want to travel or be with her at all anymore, thanks to over four years of , well... that's another story. I'd reasses your relationship immediately.

Seems like a sliding doors moment. You can either be the woman who takes no shit or the woman who tolerates any old shit her DH doles out. This is a great opportunity for you. You should grasp it.

That is it in a nutshell