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Work scapegoat ?

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Homedeco · 06/01/2023 17:59

I was told to join a failing department. The manager said how awful her team is, how she wants to get rid of them, and she imposed loads of stressful asks. Things significantly improved but the rest of the team disliked manager. I wasn’t involved in any conflict, I kept my head down, working overtime/during breaks to fix things .

Big boss then gave me new role. Manager was unhappy about this as she wrongly thought I requested the move. She stopped speaking to me.

Now, she’s really close to the rest of her team. She blamed all of the stressful changes she implemented on me? One of them sent me an arsey email today about “problems” I caused and wants me to “sort” a customer issue out, but this has nothing to do with me. Aibu to feel like a scapegoat?

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Eeiliethya · 06/01/2023 18:12

Who do you report to now? Old boss or big boss?

If big boss, I'd reply and cc in new boss advising they take the matter up with the party responsible for the issue. Regards and go fuck yourself. Sail off into the sunset.

If you still report to old awkward boss, go back cc her in and respond with much of the same. Any further comeback, I'd sit down with old boss (if you still report to her) and ask what the issue is as you feel tension and would like to resolve whatever is going on, as it's not conductive to a healthy working atmosphere. If this doesn't work then it's time to speak to HR.

Homedeco · 06/01/2023 18:28

Thank you. The big boss is the line manager of my current manager and old manager.

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BashfulClam · 06/01/2023 18:41

You go back to start e-mail copying you manager and their manager in. Advise it was not a process you were involved in and therefore their query should really be addressed to [insert person responsible]. Also signing it ‘Regards Homedeco’ is office speak for go fuck yourself with a rusty implement.

Arsey e-mails don’t fly with me.

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