To think I’ve just been banned from mumsnet

[Letsallgototherapyagain]

I recently wrote a post sharing my experiences of being hit by an au pair when I was a child.

I got an email notification saying someone had added a reply to the thread but when I clicked on the link to see my thread, I was shocked and confused to find that it had been deleted for breaking talk guidelines.

I also noticed that I was no longer logged in. It says my account has been deactivated.

I NC for the first time when I wrote that recent post but I’ve been here for years.

I’m really shocked and feel really upset about it actually.

I have no emails from mumsnet explaining what’s happened or why this has happened.

When I tried to sign up again it came up with an error message stating that no new registrations are being accepted!

I wondered if this was personal to me (I.e my email has been banned from being registered) and I think that’s the case because when I attempted to register with my Apple ID and chose not to share my email, it let me sign up and I created this account.

I have emailed Mumsnet and asked them what’s going on.

I will also report this post in the hopes of getting the attention of a moderator so they can help me.

Has anyone ever had this happen to them? It’s a really horrible experience.

Does anyone remember my post? If so, have you any idea at why it got deleted?

I read your original post and couldn't imagine why it would be reported. I'm also sorry about what happened to you and Joe this doesn't add to the distress.

Hope - not Joe!

Hey OP yes I recall reading your post earlier today, it was a long one and I remember feeling moved by all that you experienced as a child at the hands of those au pairs and wondering if you have ever spoken to your parents. I saw other posters commented. It seemed like a normal thread to me

No idea why it's been deleted

It's so unprofessional and unethical I feel to block or ban with no clear details why. Especially in your situation where you are outlining abuse only to get a feeling of being shut down

I typed in later to add my story and the poster above me accused you of being a troll OP.

I think I briefly skimmed that thread but chose not to comment to avoid coming across insensitive.

Some of us derive from cultures where severe whoopings were standard, thus I'm less sensitised to such what was obviously a traumatic experience for you.

Good luck with your healing journey

I should add the previous poster on your original thread accused you of being a troll.

I should've added that coming from a culture where severe beatings are standard wasn't/ isn't a good thing.

Yes I read the thread, and I don't know why it was deleted. I'm so sorry for you and your brother for what you went through. 💐

Thank you everyone, it’s really good to feel connected again.

I didn’t see the accusation about me being a troll…

Surely Mumsnet can see all my posting history? In which case it should have been really obvious that I’m not a troll?

Hopefully someone will come along soon and reactivate my account.

Thanks again. Your replies are really appreciated.

I read the OP and a few replies. Seems strange for it to be deleted, especially considering some of the posts that are permitted to stand. I hope you get some answers as this has clearly had an effect on you

Hi Op
I hope, very much expect this is just a mistake, by behind the scenes mumsnet, and I can see them sorting this out for you in your favour a.s.a.p too,
it does happen from time to time,

I read your thread Op earlier, and I found it quite interesting/insightful to read too,
It sounds like you had confusing, unsettling childhood at times ,having had so many various different Au pairs in your life ,likr revolving door constantly,
I think you have done well to have come out of that, as emotionally sound(stable as you come across, that's impression, I got, and struck me
Best of Luck with everything you do in life
Happy New year too
x

Hi Op
I think you come across as strong, intelligencent, who overcame trauma in your life with the incident of one Aui pair who very nasty,
I felt quite angry reading how Aui pair mistreated both of you ect.

@Letsallgototherapyagain

I'm sorry this has happened to you, I think it's probably a mistake, it does happen occasionally & the threads are usually reinstated.

I did see your thread, but I'm sorry I didn't read it, I assumed it would be upsetting & I just couldn't face it today 🌸

This happened to me and essentially MN accidentally deleted me whilst deleting some other posters.

Email them and ask what’s going on - that sorted it for me.

I had my account deactivated without warning or communication once for saying I would like to see certain members of the royal family in prison. And had to beg to be reinstated which really stuck in my throat.

It's a particularly shite thing to do to someone who has posted something very personal and heartfelt though.

Thank you all so much. I really appreciate you taking the time to reply. I’m sorry to hear about other similar deletion experiences.

it’s really odd, but as has been suggested, I’m hoping it’s just a mistake.

In other news, I just opened the fridge and one of those blue solid brick ice block things just flew out and landed on my big toe. I honestly cannot describe the pain! I’m hobbling off to bed now (I was meant to be getting an early night!)

Here’s hoping this post is still here when I wake up.

Thank you all so much for your kind words.

This happened me a few years ago on a thread and I felt the same as you why am I not able to log in where did my post go, why was it taken down without any consulting from Mumsnet never got sorted with mumsnet.

they should at least tell you why your banned

Hi! I just clicked on the link in my email to see your reply to me and you post was deleted. I thought, Hmmm I wonder what posts happened after mine?
If you remember, I replied to your reply that I thought you were brave.
What happened after?

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I had that happen to me once. I posted about an incident where I really needed support where my whole family was in hospital and I was separated from my DCs and it was awful. A few posts in, some muppet called me a troll and said my post was clearly invented but of some ridiculous reason (that showed they either hadn’t read the OP or had no understanding of basic science). Despite clear posting history, my post was taken down and I was declared a “previously banned poster” even though I’d never been banned before.

I was then in hospital, in the early hours of the morning, unwell and alone, banned after posting for a hand hold. Mumsnet never contacted me or emailed me or said anything about why it’d been taken down.

I’m sorry that it happened to you OP.

Yeah, mumsnet did the same to me for talking about my multiple miscarriages on a thread! They thought I was trolling because how can someone lose so many babies and be flippant about it (black humour is a coping mechanism)? I got a lame apology but I was outraged actually. MN has some questionable moderation decisions, the stuff they let through etc.

but yes OP, they don’t tell you your account has been blocked, you just can’t log in - people at least deserve to be told what has happened and why!

@lilymumsnet