Thank you so much. That’s a relief. I’ll go and check my inbox now.
All in all, it’s actually been a good learning experience. And I do appreciate why things have to be investigated.
I rarely assume other people are trolls, unless it’s obvious. But what is obvious? It’s completely subjective.
If you thought I was a troll or you are someone who is immediately suspicious of posts like mine and jump to conclusions, I understand that a degree of suspicion is wise- this is an anonymous online forum.
If it runs deeper, and you often assume the worst of people and don’t easily trust others, even in real life... Then I imagine you have good reasons and I am sorry you experience the world this way.
We see the same threads and comments yet we each have completely different reactions and make completely different assumptions (that’s one of the things I value about mumsnet)…
I imagine those assumptions are largely based on our previous experiences.
It makes sense that those of us with less trauma are generally more optimistic about other people’s intentions and find it easier to trust. And those with more trauma are more aware of potential danger. It’s self preservation and it’s understandable.
If that’s you, then I respect your suspicion and I recognise you carry a burden you never asked for and didn’t deserve.
When I realised my post had been reported by someone, resulting in a ban, I felt angry.
If it was you, I want to say:
Even though you were wrong about me, you weren’t wrong to feel that way about the risk. I’m sure you have your reasons and the way you responded may serve to protect and safeguard vulnerable people in other contexts.
I just hope you have plenty of trusting and happy interactions alongside that. I wish you well.
As a society our anger should be directed at those who make others feel unsafe, not those who have been hurt and feel less able to trust as a result.
@DawnMumsnet, part of feeling safe and free to trust others is knowing that the people in charge are acting fairly. I don’t dispute anything that’s been done but I would have felt a whole lot better if someone had communicated with me- just a simple acknowledgment by email would make a world of difference.
To everyone who reserved judgement or simply responded with kindness, whilst waiting for confirmation- thank you. This is a relatively trivial matter, but it truly meant a lot to me.
Even I was starting to wonder what on earth Mumsnet were going to say! Like when you walk out of a shop, through the scanner thing and panic about them going off even though you KNOW you haven’t stolen anything.
I’m glad to be back.