Can I ask if anyone has kids 9 years apart, what’s it like?

[adayinparis]

Hi all

Posting here for traffic. Im pregnant after a long battle with secondary infertility. It took us five years to conceive, so this baby is a miracle. 💫 I am very curious to think about what it’s like to have two kids with a 9 year age gap. We have one son who is 8 and baby is a girl.

Im an only child so don’t really know what it’s like to have a sibling. What’s it like to have two kids 9 years apart? Any older boy/younger girl combinations?

Hi there,

ive a DD who is 13 and son who is 4, there is 9 years and a few weeks between them.

what I find difficult is the different phases they are in. With my son it nearly feels like starting all over again, like primary school when daughter has moved to next level.
also this year she had no interest in going to panto, Santa visit, etc.

but overall it’s great, they get on very well. She can watch him for an hour or two and they will play a computer game or Lego.

I did, son first and then a daughter, same ages as you and it was wonderful. My son was so proud of his sister and was showing all the nurses in the ward his cute sister. There was no falling out or arguing and were best friends. When she went to school he was the 14, I took her the first day and he insisted he took her himself from then on. They are 45 and 36 and still best friends. You will be fine.

Got a few of these in our family, including myself and DB with a slightly less 7 year gap

We get on great, always have

Can’t think of any negatives to it. Always played fine as kids despite the gap and are very close as adults

I have 2 children my eldest is 9 my youngest is 9 weeks, both boys. Older brother is helpful with little brother and is a proud brother. Eldest has adhd often looses his temper more at me and dad not his brother which causes problems when babys asleep as hes loud and wakes baby up. We try to treat our eldest the same as we did before by making sure he gets to do activities he used to and pay him attention. Everything happens for a reason. Good Luck with bew baby💚

Thank you for all the responses. I really appreciate them 💕💕💕
Baby is here and so far it’s been lovely

My boys are 8 years apart. Unfortunately due to my mh being shit ds1 spent more time with his grandparents who basically gave him what he wanted, so when his half brother came along he didn't like it. Unfortunately I didn't know how much if an arsehole he had become until it was too late.
It devastated me because I no longer gave a relationship with my sister who is 2 years older than me, so I was hoping that my boys would have a better chance.
I don't think you will have the same problems though.

DS13 & DS4. Generally a happy household. At times oldest finds youngest annoying and looses patience. (but I presume this happens with any age gap) Oldest sons friends absolutely love DS4 though and are so great with him when we are at sporting events.
Oldest can also help me out even with simple things like getting stuff in/out of the car so I can strap youngest in.
Downside is finding days out in school holidays can be hard to accommodate both.

Me and my youngest sister are 12 years apart. I’m 29 she’s 17.. honestly she’s my best friend. We get on so well, can speak to each other about everything. I have siblings closer in age but she’s the one that I’m closest too.. :)

We had almost the same with our two. My son( eldest) was so proud of his sister, they never fought or argued and when the youngest started school he would take her in every morning. She loved him to bits and they are still very close 37 years later.

How is the age gap now?
If you don't mind me asking.

Hello @Joeee 👋

It is absolutely perfect. DS is so gentle and loving with DD. He absolutely adores her; he laughs at her silliness and thinks she’s the cutest buddy ever.

She is crazy about him, he’s her favourite person in the whole world.

Its been wonderful for our family, the best decision we ever made.

Hello @Joeee 👋

It is absolutely perfect. DS is so gentle and loving with DD. He absolutely adores her; they laugh together all the time and he thinks she’s the cutest buddy ever.

She is crazy about him, he’s her absolute favourite person.

Its been wonderful for our family, the best decision we ever made.

Mine are 26, 23, 19 and 17, so eldest and youngest have a 9 year age gap. They get along pretty well but don't have much childhood in common iyswim - by the time youngest was ready to play (rather than be played with) eldest was off doing teen things with his mates.

I have a similar gap between child 2 and child 3. It's been brilliant. I was worried it would be too much but child 3 adores their older siblings and they adore them back. The age gap meant I had time for the baby whilst the older two were at school and they didn't have jealousy or felt pushed out. I did worry about doing out as a family in terms of catering for everyone but we make it work. I don't regret waiting.