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to ask what your biggest red flags are?

12 replies

Belowhuns · 01/01/2023 16:14

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I'll go first

A New York canvas in his bedroom
No profile pic/profile pic is a motorbike
Enjoys rides out every weekend on said motorbike.

GO!

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Spaghetti201 · 01/01/2023 16:15

What’s wrong with NY canvas?

PineappleBrazilNutsandMaccasFries · 01/01/2023 16:16

Kids he doesn't see
Psycho ex (clue: it's probably him)
Stingy with money

FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 01/01/2023 16:17

Photo holding a fish.

Newusernameaug · 01/01/2023 16:17

No profile pic is a swipe left isn’t it?!?! That’s a black flag not a red one!

Red flags for me are:
Smelly breath / bad teeth
No manners
Closed minded
judgemental
controlling
jealousy
being money driven
flashy items
designer brands

Motorbikes for me are a green flag!

Seaweasel · 01/01/2023 16:18

@PineappleBrazilNutsandMaccasFries You beat me to 'Psycho' ex! 😁

DrManhattan · 01/01/2023 16:23

Talking about excessively and / or slagging off an ex.
Saying just want a laugh and nothing serious.
Being critical about other women - what they are wearing etc.

jooliewolters · 01/01/2023 16:24

Divorced, especially with kids.
Badmouths people unkindly (former girlfriends, parents, friends, strangers, whoever)
Financially extravagant/careless

confessionstoday · 01/01/2023 16:25

Not seeing kids
Psycho ex
Ignoring really small boundaries.

GreenSeaGlass · 01/01/2023 16:25

Love bombing. Seriously- we only just met dude.

Mentalpiece · 01/01/2023 16:29

Foul language and name calling.
I hate foul language. If I ask someone to please not use it in front of me and they persist, then it shows a complete disrespect for me, as does name calling.
Example...man says ' I went to the pub with John last night and we had a f.ing brilliant time, p ssed out of his head he was'
I ask him not to swear, he persists. I walk away.
Name calling example. ' what have you done, you stupid cow! '
I walk away.
It might sound crackers to some, but being disrespectful of someone's boundaries and feelings are a big red flag to me.

Floogal · 01/01/2023 16:56

Guys who put women on a pedestal. "I respect women" "I'm a nice guy". More red flags than a Communist rally

Belowhuns · 01/01/2023 17:00

Almost forgot - only tagged in photos at the pub.

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