WIBU to ask him to walk the dog every morning?

[DottyGrey]

I WFH, DH does not. He leaves the house at 7.30 am. Every morning, he will give the dog and hamster fresh food and water. I get our DCu up for school, chivvy along and then do both school runs. On the school runs I will usually take the dog that will do a no.2, I feel the dog has that bowel routine and prefers to eliminate on a walk than in garden.

It means though that allowing time for a no.2 takes 10 mins off my morning and I get home, rush to tidy around and do chores before logging on for work.

Dh gets up at 7, which is approx 45 mins before me and DC7. WIBU to ask him to work the ten minutes into his morning or does it seem fair to keep our current arrangement? He has 50 minutes commutes at either end of his day.

your DH gets up at 0700 am.
he leaves the house at 0730 am.

this gives him only half an hour to get ready and leave - where on earth do you think he will fit 10 mins into that tiny allocation of time, in order to do a chore you can’t be bothered to do any more?

he gets up 45 mins earlier than you because he has nearly an hour to commute!!

YABVU, this whole WFH stuff has distorted your thinking.

Sure the answer is for you and the children to get up 15 minutes earlier to allow for it? Or you to get up with your DH so you can run the dog out while he gets ready?

You could always get up at 7 as well and walk the dog so your Dh is around for the kids

YABU. He’s got a hell of a long day already. What time do you start work?

If he insisted on getting a dog and it’s ‘his’ dog, then he should walk it.
If it’s a family dog, you do the mornings and he can do evenings and weekends.

You should get up 10 minutes earlier, you're already having a lie in for an extra 45 minutes; it costs you less to cut that down than it would do him to make him get up that much earlier.

Genuinely, I'm not sure what would make you believe your suggestion would be in any way reasonable??

What hours do you work?

Do you work full time too? If so it seems you are doing a lot more than him with regards to getting the kids ready and to school plus tidying up so yes he should be helping by walking the dog.

Does your dog really just get a short on lead walk every morning ?
he seems to be a chore not a living breathing animal with needs for proper off lead exercise twice a day plus attention and affection.
get up earlier and give the poor dog the walks he deserves.
Yabu to expect your dh to do more from what you have said.
why on earth did you agree to having a dog?

Is his work time fixed? So he could say do twice a week and start later?

YABVU!

Get up at 7 with DH.

Walk the dog and get home sort ds whilst DH does his hour commute.

Then do the school run whilst DH works.

Then both do your days work.

Make sure that when he gets home again it's equally split so you aren't taking on more of the evening stuff.

If you're WFH surely you can fit a couple of chores in during the day eg have a shorter lunch break etc?

He also has a 50 minute commute twice a day.

Your suggestion doesn't sound even remotely reasonable.

How is the dog pooing on a walk you are already taking, meaning a 10 mins delay? A poo and a pick up is a 2min job.

Personally, I think taking it in turns to get up an hour early and give the dog a proper/dedicated walk might be a better idea for all?

How old are the kids?

Do you take the dog out for another proper walk in the day? This is important info as if you both agreed to get a dog then it’s unfair you do all the walking. Or could DH take him out again when he gets home? Or do more at the weekends.

If dog only gets 10 mins then both of you need to take it in turns to get up a good hour earlier to walk the dog?

Why don’t you both get up at 7am and h to en you’ll have time to walk the dog?

Sorry, just seen it’s one child at 7 years old. So not a huge amount of work- child can dress and feed themselves.

YaBU

You and the kids get up at 7:45?? Wow, that's late. Get up earlier!!

And your point is?

You are so unbelievably unreasonable I'm actually questioning if this is a reverse 🤔

Why don’t you get up at 7 and walk the dog for 20mins without dc? I don’t know anyone with school age children that sleeps in until 7:45 every day!

As a teenager I used to get up at 6.30 to walk our dog for 30 minutes before I left for school at 7.30. Because that’s what you do as a dog owner. Ya both bu if you don’t factor a recent walk for the dog in.

Yes my role is full time too, yes dog has other walks but thus is the one where I would wait for dog to No.2. I tend to work through rather than take a lunch break to allow for time doing school runs, Mum jobs etc. I drive the school run then walk dog when I'm on my way home when we pass a field.

It's fine if IBU, that's why I asked her as in a good place with DH and don't want to upset that with something he would feel U.