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WIBU to ask him to walk the dog every morning?

66 replies

DottyGrey · 01/01/2023 12:11

I WFH, DH does not. He leaves the house at 7.30 am. Every morning, he will give the dog and hamster fresh food and water. I get our DCu up for school, chivvy along and then do both school runs. On the school runs I will usually take the dog that will do a no.2, I feel the dog has that bowel routine and prefers to eliminate on a walk than in garden.

It means though that allowing time for a no.2 takes 10 mins off my morning and I get home, rush to tidy around and do chores before logging on for work.

Dh gets up at 7, which is approx 45 mins before me and DC7. WIBU to ask him to work the ten minutes into his morning or does it seem fair to keep our current arrangement? He has 50 minutes commutes at either end of his day.

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ZooMount · 01/01/2023 12:37

Me and my dh alternate getting up at 6.30 to walk the dog and always have done.

WomanhoodIsABirthright · 01/01/2023 12:39

Yabvu

MajorCarolDanvers · 01/01/2023 12:39

rush to tidy around and do chores

Either skip this till after work and you both share this in the evening or get up earlier.

TolkiensFallow · 01/01/2023 12:40

I think you could get up earlier rather than ask your DH to get up earlier. You are in bed until 7:45 which is a lie in by most peoples standards. I think most of us would be a in a massive rush for the school run if we stayed in until then…

MajorCarolDanvers · 01/01/2023 12:41

What are Mum jobs ?

Unexpecteddrivinginstructor · 01/01/2023 12:42

It might be hard to break the habit of the approx hour between food and walk, it might not just be the garden issue. Maybe you and dc get up 15 min earlier then leave for school earlier and have a more leisurely walk.

EverestMilton · 01/01/2023 12:42

Get up at 7am and have more time to do everything. It's not even that early!!! Do the chores in your lunch break or in the evening instead. I've got two horses. I get up at 6am, to get them done and dusted. Part and parcel of having animals. My DC is also 7, she gets herself up, dressed and starts putting her breakfast stuff out ready for when I walk through the door at 7am to finish it for her. It's not that hard.....
Or is the issue that you just don't like dealing with the dog poo??

crazeekat · 01/01/2023 12:45

Both get up at the same time, 15 mins earlier, then take it in turns.

Whydidimarrythis · 01/01/2023 12:45

This makes next-to-no sense. It doesn't take 10 minutes for a dog to poo. You've now said you're waiting around for 10 minutes for the dog to poo - so, you're making the bloody dog poo whilst complaining that the dog "prefers to eliminate" then. If the dog wanted to poo on the walk then you wouldn't need to wait around for it to do it - if it doesn't go on the walk then it'll go in the garden, where you want it to go. Just literally stop doing it - stop waiting around for the dog to do a poo that it doesn't need to do and you're going to whine about it doing. You've completely invented this entire problem over nothing.

Stag82 · 01/01/2023 12:46

pre Baby I would get up at 6:40 for a quick coffee and to get a few jobs out the way. I’ve always incorporated the dog walk into the school run with and can be sat at my wfh desk by 9am. Dog gets a 40 min walk

is your school drive walkable? I find mien the best start to the day.

harrassedmumto3 · 01/01/2023 12:47

YABU.

AGoodDayForSomebodyElseToDie · 01/01/2023 12:49

I'm more concerned about any dog that takes ten minutes to have a shit. It can't seriously take that long?

And yes, YABU. Get up earlier yourself and walk the dog properly.

Sparklefoof · 01/01/2023 12:50

I WFH, DH does not. I walk Ddog every day, other than when I need an early work start for any specific reason, in which case he will fit it into his morning before he goes / go in a bit later.

For me making sure Ddog has a walk she enjoys / has time to do her business without being rushed is way more important than doing housework, she's a family member who deserves to have her needs met as a priority, not shoehorned in as an additional 10 minute chore :(.

7.45 is a massive lie in on a weekday btw, at that time I'm already tramping around muddy fields and DH is on his way to work!

MilkshakesBringAllTheCoosToTheYard · 01/01/2023 12:51

Why on earth are you driving the school run then doing the dog walk? Walk to school and do the dog walk at the same time. If too long, drive halfway, walk the rest, walk back to the car. It's so inefficient basically leaving the house twice.

treesandweeds · 01/01/2023 12:52

Why on earth don't you get up earlier. You have way too late a get up time. Problem solved.

Gh12345 · 01/01/2023 12:53

i think it would be too tight in the morning for him to walk the dog.

kingtamponthefurred · 01/01/2023 12:53

It depends. Whose idea was it to get a dog?

FirstTimeMaybes · 01/01/2023 12:54

Getting up at 7:45?

Even 7 is a lie in for most people who work full time.

Just get up earlier.

whattodo1975 · 01/01/2023 12:54

MajorCarolDanvers · 01/01/2023 12:41

What are Mum jobs ?

Ordinary jobs you martyr yourself over.

Choconut · 01/01/2023 12:57

YABVU. Why don't you get up at the same time as your DH, then there wouldn't be an issue surely?

Stressybetty · 01/01/2023 12:58

Or feed the dog when you get back from the school run and let it out in the garden later for a poo or walk at lunchtime

Whatmarbles · 01/01/2023 12:59

So you take the dog in the car and them stop on the way back to let it out for a poo?

That is not walking the dog, that is doing the bare minimum.

Whydidimarrythis · 01/01/2023 13:00

Whatmarbles · 01/01/2023 12:59

So you take the dog in the car and them stop on the way back to let it out for a poo?

That is not walking the dog, that is doing the bare minimum.

And yet it actually seems like more work

Dotcheck · 01/01/2023 13:02

Can he do a longer walk in the evening with the dog?

TheCatterall · 01/01/2023 13:08

I’d suggest he does it at least two mornings a week @DottyGrey

you may not have the commute but you both work full time.

both dog walks during the day fall to you as well as childcare, school runs and probably a few household errands and cleaning etc before you’ve even begun you’re working day. You then have to work through a lunch so you can do the school run (does DH gets a nice lunch break?).

it’s not unreasonable to ask him to give you a break once or twice a week on set days or whatever works for you.