Rude nasty foul mouthed comments aimed directly at MN posters? AIBU to get angry?

[Bleachmycloths]

I guess this has been covered in the past but nasty comments on MN are cowardly and spiteful. Often , the same idea or message or idea can be conveyed without knee jerk responses which directly ask posters are they stupid/ a moron/vile with a sprinkling of ‘fucks’.
I am not referring to replies which refer to a poster’s problem. For example, if a OP has a horrible FIL who is giving her grief, then, by all means, have a go at him to show support for the OP.
To reply directly to a OP with ‘Are you fucking stupid, or what?’ - or something equally offensive- is inexcusable.
It is the cowardice which angers me. Posters will make awful uncalled for comments which they would never make face to face. Like giving another driver the V sign because you can just drive off.
Is it best to simply ignore and move on? Because, actually there are a lot of helpful posters who give good, useful, sympathetic advice.

Mn hw always advise to report these, and are quick to respond I've found.

I think that’s fair. People are going to behave differently on a huge anonymous Internet forum to the way they would sitting round your kitchen table. It’s pretty naive to think this is worthy of comment or this much outrage.

I do also wonder about people on here who are completely rattled and wail-y when disagreed with. I don’t mean insultingly, but when a response says bluntly that an OP is wrong because of x, y and said, or shouldn’t believe knee jerk tabloid ‘stories’. Sometimes it seems as if these people have never been straightforwardly disagreed with in their lives.

You realise you can report personal attacks?

But if it's just someone pointing out stupidity, that's the nature of this site. People often post on here expecting honesty, as opposed to the breathless cheerleading of stupidity that one finds on the likes of Facebook.

Personal attacks get removed and MN can ban users. Report the comments.
However, some people do post some mad shit and have insane points of view that they deserve an 'are you being an idiot?' comments because they are incredibly, well, idiotic.
People most definitely can and do say insults to other's face to face in real life too.

There's spme totally batshit people on here, I agree with you.

I do think things get lost in translation. I amplified another response to an OP the other day, building on what the responder had put and making a point based on that.
both the responder and another poster launched into a how dare you , you were rude etc…completely missing my point and completely ignoring that I had not disagreed with the responder at all.
It’s quite bizarre
but this is the danger with posting- people miss sarcasm, they miss pathos, and miss even that you can quote someone else’s post and build on it and it’s not disagreeing .

there are a fair amount of people who will see offence where none is meant or take a disagreement as an insult

sure there are genuinely nasty and goady responses - I just report here I see them as a lot of people do.

Saying someone is an idiot or vile can be reported as a personal attack. Saying someones comment or view is idiotic or vile is an opinion ( and if said by a lot of people often well deserved).

Report the comments.

Personal attacks are removed. This thread or a variation of it is posted every single day. All users are here through choice, you can always leave.

To one person, a post is a personal attack; to another, it’s merely a bunch of electrons.

100% This ^

Report it immediately. It’ll be deleted. I read a thread, hadn’t even commented on it but a poster had written something nasty. Not a personal attack, but just rude, nasty and unhelpful. You can report things as not in the spirit of the site - by parents for parents.

I rest my case 😊 But I will add…

• I am not whining; I asked a question which suggests that I really should ignore nastiness
• I certainly don’t think everyone should just be kind. So wimpy.
• I haven’t been on mumsnet long and I wasn’t aware I was starting ‘yet another thread’
• I didn’t say I didn’t like the content
• i am not hurt
• you make assumptions about my resilience when I am actually only sorry for people who get directly insulted
• i am well aware that I do not know the people on this site 🤪
• your reply kind of proves my point
• if I am BU why did you bother replying?

If you've reported such posts and they haven't been deleted then I would agree that you have a point. I doubt anyone is going to say here that it's ok or pleasant for people to post personal attacks. That's why personal attacks are against the talk guidelines and will (should) be deleted if reported to MN.

I had an entire thread created about me by somebody the other day which later got deleted or removed. I just laughed it off.

Thank you for the responses. I am fairly new to the whole Internet forum world and I was just interested in what seasoned Mumsnetters think.
One or two replies kind of proved my point lol 😆 but I am grateful (genuinely! I’m not being sarcastic!) to those who say things like “hey, you’re in a different world now. This is what it’s like.
i have not been personally upset by what I’ve seen and a couple of replies on here are good at, what Basil Fawlty called “Pointing out the bleeding obvious.”
I did reply to one but I regret it now.
By the way, a forum full of nice, twee responses would be pretty boring.

So very bored of threads like this.

p.s. fuck piss shit arse.

Lol 😆 I like this.

🤣. That did make laugh. Like Billy Mack in Love Actually- shit wank fuck bugger arse head and holes 👍

You just ignore it. I posted a property question once and got some helpful advice but a few posters honed in one aspect, of which they knew nothing in reality and decided I was the worst of the worst. I’m not, I’m a good person so I simply don’t waste any time or headspace responding.

if I am BU why did you bother replying?
That's the whole point of AIBU isn't it?
You asked if you were BU and posters replied.
You didn't write AIBU? But only reply if you think I'm not.

Yes, I think things do get lost in translation. This is the kind of response I appreciate. Helps me to put it in perspective and appreciate that I am in a different world on an Internet forum. I’m sharp-tongued and quick thinking and I don’t shy away from confrontation but I’ve always been careful about what I put in writing (my job probably). 👍

But YANBU in that posters can be ridiculously aggressive and rude sometimes. I don't understand why some people seem to get so involved and angry over an anonymous post on a forum.

YABVVVVU to be angry about anonymous Internet randoms on mumsnet (or anywhere)

If you want sweetness and light go to net mums (if that is still going)