He don't cook

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Me and the kids dad are not together. But we still see each other. He stays over some times we do family days out in the summer. Meals out as a family. Because its been Xmas and he's got a bit of extra time of work. He's stayed a bit longer than normal. Generally we get on.

But this is my AIBU. In the 8 years he has only ever cooked a family meal at Xmas time. (Apart from this year) Nothing through the year what so ever . When he stays a couple of nights. he will pay for take away which is nice. But I sort of feel cheated. Because I always have to cook. Yes I can choose to get a take away now and then. But my childish side is thinking he has it so easy.

Or not done a healthy and mature way?

He provides meals
You provide meals.

Are you jealous because he has the spending power for takeaway and you don’t? If he cooked he would still have the money, but wouldn’t be spending it on takeaways for you and the kids.

But that does not mean I have ti like or can't moan or be jealous about how easy he gets it

Well you make it easier don’t you? You choose to live this way.

Why not have at least one night a week where he takes the children to grandma’s house and you get a night off? Eat what you like, watch what you like etc. imagine that? He’d have to do all the parenting.