My husband has a friend who he used to work with who he hasn’t seen for years. They’ve stayed in touch and I’ve never had a problem with this. He had said in the past that nothing had eve happened between them but he had wanted it to. (When I confronted him about it he admitted they had kissed before) Recently, I found texts between the two of them that I feel were improper between friends. E.g. I’d like to unwrap you for Xmas, I love your t*ts etc…he’s also said unkind things about me and our children and some other family members. She has sent him self-indulgent, overly filtered selfies. He has sent her pictures of cards that he has kept that she sent him almost 20 years ago and notes that she had sent him. He claims that it is all an ‘in joke’ between them from when they worked together and that there is nothing romantic between them. I’m failing to believe this. Am I being unreasonable by not accepting what he is telling me? Any advice and opinions would be gratefully received as I’m going out of my mind with it all.