Dh, 3 year old, can't hack this all week!

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I'm 8 months pregnant so admittedly being slightly useless, I feel like Christmas has taken it totally out of me and I'm just exhausted and huge.

3 year old has been cooped up in the house all week and the novelty of new presents has worn off a bit and he's going mad, he just needs to get out. I don't have it in me and I keep asking my husband if he can just take him to do something as he clearly needs it, I suggest taking him to softplay and he says "no it'll be too busy" I say why not the park or a walk and he says "no it's raining" it's rained for days it's not due to stop so I say just puddle suit and wellies and go out anyway, I regularly did before I was this pregnant and DS loves it, "no thanks I'm not getting wet" everything I suggest he just shoots down which whatever fair enough I guess I'm not taking I'm out either, but he's getting so pissed off at DS who is starting to misbehave, he's getting annoyed about him constantly asking for snacks, being a bit destructive.. he's bored! He needs attention. I really am trying but dh just seems to want to lie on the sofa napping or on his phone and wants DS to totally entertain himself. I said this and he said that I want to do the same, yes fine but I'm very heavily pregnant!

We have plans at new year which will get us out the house for a night but it's still days away, the forecast is solid rain, I can't hack days of a bored toddler and grumpy husband! I'm going to have to try and brave softplay with him tomorrow and just hope he'll go in on his own as I don't have it in me. Dh is usually really active and hands on with DS, as am I, but it feels like because I'm taking it really easy he is adamant he has to do the same because it's that time of year but it feels a bit tit for tat when DS is clearly fed up and I have a valid reason?! AIBU?!

That's shocking. Your husbands a complete and utter arsehole. Is there nobody else who can take the little one? Or who you could move in with to get away from that prick?!

Your husband is an absolute twat.
Time to go nuclear.
Will he be this useless with the new baby ?

Swimming?

He is a twat though

Huge OTT outburst usually works for me.

This is a great suggestion. Swimming to wear out child and then cafe for coffee and to feed both of you.

All go out together, you are both being unfair. It's not about you two, it's about a cooped up toddler who needs exercise and fresh air. The fresh air will do you all good. You getting out might motivate your husband too. Fair enough he should help more but you're both off work so do something as a family. You can sit on a bench under an umbrella, your husband can run around in the rain with your son.

Leave DH and toddler in the house and take yourself out for the day; to a friend, family, the cinema; the library. a walk in the rain. While you're out, get your self a nice meal. Because when you go home, you're not going to make their dinner. You're going for a long bath then an early night.

I had to extract my 2yo from the fifth floor of a soft play whilst 38weeks pregnant when she wouldn't come out. I'm surprised it didn't start labour! Crawling through a tunnel was the worst bit.

I was very active until the end ( painting living room/ walks/swimming) but I would expect my partner to be thoughtful and take my toddler out to let me rest in this scenario. I'd be having words about expectations when baby No 2 arrives as he in for a shock.

However active the OP is, she's 8 months pregnant. Yes pregnancy is not an illness, but this probably means that she can't bend over very far, run very fast, climb stuff or squeeze through small spaces. All useful skills when toddler-herding. She may, like I had, have reached the stage where she struggles even to put her socks on and do up her shoes, let alone wrestle a wriggling toddler out of a wet swimsuit in a small swimming-pool cubicle. She's probably not that keen on getting kicked in the stomach or jumped on either, which is what toddlers do in swimming-pools. And she'd struggle to outrun a toddler scootering towards the road. These are just some of the reasons why it makes more sense for someone other than the heavily pregnant woman (like, say, the perfectly healthy and able father?) to be taking the toddler to swimming, soft play and the park where possible.