To want to know where I stand in this situationship?

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I've not dated in 10 years or so, and I'm well aware that the dating world is very different now (seeing eachother is apparently different to dating which is also apparently different to being exclusive which is ALSO apparently different to being in an actual couple... wtf?!)

I've started seeing someone, we were friends for years first and we've been romantically involved for about a month and a half. We both have busy schedules (I'm a single parent and he works 2 jobs) so we only really get to see eachother once or twice a fortnight, which means we've actually only seen eachother about 6 times since becoming romantic. We have sex every time we're together which us great, he's very caring and sweet and I don't doubt that he cares for me.

HOWEVER..... I very much want to be the type who can go with the flow, take things as they come, not get caught up in "what are we" or "where is this going".

But, WHERE ARE WE??

I'm seeing him this weekend, and part of me wants to get it over with and ask the question but the other part just wants to let things progress naturally and not be such a nag.

For context, we're both 31, he's a very open person and a fantastic communicator, and I'm definitely not lol and I avoid confrontation or awkward conversations at all costs 😂 most of the time to my own detriment.

What should I dooooo?

What on Earth? You go through 6 or 7 labelled "stages" of a relationship and have to have repeated discussions about moving between these arbitrary labels, most of which sound very similar to each other? Sounds about as much fun as the descent into the circles of hell. 🤣

Well I don't personally - but I know many people do, and some can be very sensitive about it. So to avoid misunderstandings it's best to say something when you feel things have moved on a step to check that you're on the same page.

Jesus. Why have some been so downright rude and nasty in their responses on this?!

To @Christmasnero 's point, could you contrive to have the next 1-2 meet ups as dates in the traditional sense, eg go out for a meal, go out for the day together with no expectation for there to be anything physical, to see if there is more basis to the relationship than just the physical aspect?

See if you genuinely enjoy each other's company, whether the conversation flows and you find additional things that you have in common, or interesting differences to explore.

When you have a relationship with a friend it tends to be quicker in all departments including sex as there is already trust, shared interest. Some of these replies have been shocking.