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Suicide because of Benefits Being Stopped

235 replies

StridTheKiller · 26/12/2022 13:58

Another casualty of our brutal benefits system. RIP.

www.dailyrecord.co.uk/news/uk-world-news/dad-who-took-life-days-28813953

OP posts:
Gonnabegrandma · 27/12/2022 02:11

As a disabled person the way you are treated at reviews is dreadful . They have untrained staff who preform odd physical type examinations ie touch yours toes bend down ect . These people have NO medical training . My husband had a stroke during a review !!!! They told him to come back next week . I know other people on different benefits and once a case has been opened they are very quick to stop all kinds of benefits regardless of the genuine havoc this can cause in honest peoples lives ( people who aren’t cheating the system ) . Mental health is not taken seriously by the dwp

ganachee · 27/12/2022 04:13

usernamealreadytaken · 26/12/2022 17:09

@helford in France benefits are only paid at that rate if you have worked long enough to qualify, and are only payable for two years. I think many in the UK would vote for that, would you?

Does that include sickness and disability benefits? These benefits are usually a separate stream to out of work benefits whilst capable of work but looking for employment.

I know other European countries with similar size economies give much higher rates for jobseekers who have lost their jobs, but there is a time limit for the higher rates. I haven’t research other similar sized economies disability and sickness benefits in comparison to a U.K. I do know though the U.K. assessments for both disability (PIP) benefits and too ill to work benefits are as another post said set up for the claimant to fail and many have to appeal to get the correct word causing stress and hardship.

ganachee · 27/12/2022 04:14
  • typo in my comment above, ‘Correct award’ not ‘correct word’
ganachee · 27/12/2022 05:12

usernamealreadytaken · 26/12/2022 17:09

@helford in France benefits are only paid at that rate if you have worked long enough to qualify, and are only payable for two years. I think many in the UK would vote for that, would you?

I just googled Germany’s unemployment benefits for those capable of work which work similar to France’s I believe. Like France, Germany’s is considerably more generous for up to 2 years (12 months for those under 50) if you have been working for at least 12 months in the previous 30 months. But even if you don’t fulfil that criteria or reach the end of 12 or 24 months depending on age unemployment insurance at 60% of salary, Germany still provides income support. This is according to google €502 euros a month plus housing and heating is covered as long as reasonable costs. In the U.K. the universal credit basic allowance is £334 so £100 less a month and of course no 60% (67% if you have children) of salary for the first 1-2 years if you have been working. I presume France will also still have some sort of support once the 2 years is up and the person is still not working whilst capable of it.

I haven’t looked at German benefit rates for those too sick to work and disability benefits.

Sugarplumfairy65 · 27/12/2022 14:56

XenoBitch · 26/12/2022 22:24

Disabled on UC did get the uplift. The uplift was applied to the basic amount that every on UC gets. I am in the LCWRA group and got it.

I'm on contribution based esa and pip. I didn't get the extra £20 uplift. I'm not entitled to uc

XenoBitch · 27/12/2022 16:20

Sugarplumfairy65 · 27/12/2022 14:56

I'm on contribution based esa and pip. I didn't get the extra £20 uplift. I'm not entitled to uc

Disabled on UC did get it though. That is what I was saying. You didn't get it as you are not on UC.
I am not entitled to ESA as I live in a full UC area.

usernamealreadytaken · 27/12/2022 19:17

Gilead · 26/12/2022 19:40

Just so that you get an idea.

France only pays that for two years. I'd say our system is far more generous, being pretty much indefinite.

usernamealreadytaken · 27/12/2022 19:17

@Sugarplumfairy65 yes, that's because we were discussing unemployment benefits.

usernamealreadytaken · 27/12/2022 19:21

@Puppamumma the benefits system is hardly cruel if somebody can choose to leave their job, claim money to live on and not be required to know the actual laws around whether they are entitled or not 🙄

usernamealreadytaken · 27/12/2022 19:35

@ganachee I looked up French unemployment benefits. We're told time and time again that UK sanctions are cruel, but France seems at least similar, and the t&cs do state several times that unemployment benefits are only payable for a maximum of two years (which is reducing to 18 months).

"Unemployment benefits can be stopped if claimants fail to meet their obligations by:
• being unable to document their job searches,
• rejecting a reasonable job offer on 2 occasions,
• missing required appointments scheduled by Pôle emploi,
• refusing to enter a training program, etc.
Benefits can be stopped for a period of 1 to 4 months, depending on the type of violation. Payments can be permanently stopped if the claimant declares false information."

https://www.cleiss.fr/docs/regimes/regimefrance/ann_5.html

www.thelocal.fr/20221121/french-government-slashes-unemployment-benefits/

Cheeseandlobster · 27/12/2022 19:40

usernamealreadytaken · 27/12/2022 19:21

@Puppamumma the benefits system is hardly cruel if somebody can choose to leave their job, claim money to live on and not be required to know the actual laws around whether they are entitled or not 🙄

The ignorance in this post. I am not even going to bother other than saying educate yourself maybe before posting next time

Sugarplumfairy65 · 27/12/2022 20:05

XenoBitch · 27/12/2022 16:20

Disabled on UC did get it though. That is what I was saying. You didn't get it as you are not on UC.
I am not entitled to ESA as I live in a full UC area.

I live in a full uc area too but I'm in the support group and have been for over 5 years

HiyaCaath · 27/12/2022 20:17

ThreeblackCats · 26/12/2022 14:19

If he was suicidal, it wasn’t the fault of the benefits system. if he wasn’t suicidal, a “brutal” benefits system could not make him hang himself.

Suicidal people will always have a reason.

Its sad, but nobody else is to blame for this. I speak as someone who moved across the country for a man, ended up unemployed and was ultimately left to starve. I didn’t hang myself because I’m not mentally vulnerable.

Really? Try having an illness where you can’t really work without it meaning that you can’t look after yourself/travel/have to live in places you can’t use the bathroom because you can’t walk up stairs etc but have to because despite a diagnosed terminal illness you’re told you’re ‘fine’ then come back.

XenoBitch · 27/12/2022 20:26

Sugarplumfairy65 · 27/12/2022 20:05

I live in a full uc area too but I'm in the support group and have been for over 5 years

Then you claimed ESA before your area went full UC. I rang the number to claim ESA, and was told it was no longer available and I had to go down the UC route.
I think my area was full UC for a year before I tried to claim.

Eventually, everyone on ESA will be moved to UC. My understanding is was that 2023 was the year for this, but it has been moved.

I have a friend on ESA who moaned he did not get the £20 uplift.. but there is no Severe Disability Premium on UC, so on ESA he was still better off even without the uplift.

XenoBitch · 27/12/2022 20:33

"If he was suicidal, it wasn’t the fault of the benefits system. if he wasn’t suicidal, a “brutal” benefits system could not make him hang himself.
Suicidal people will always have a reason.
Its sad, but nobody else is to blame for this. I speak as someone who moved across the country for a man, ended up unemployed and was ultimately left to starve. I didn’t hang myself because I’m not mentally vulnerable"

You don't have to have a mental illness or be mentally vulnerable to feel suicidal.

People kill themselves in prison, people kill themselves to escape a painful situation.

No money and no hope can drive someone to take that final step. No amount of pills or therapy could change that in some cases because it is a life issue, and not a mental health issue.
The man in the OP would not have killed himself if he was not having issues with benefits

Lilyhop · 27/12/2022 20:36

I currently live on benefits and I feel it’s enough to live on - for our situation personally- but also agree with PP’s saying how hard it is with a disability.
Despite one of of my four children being severely disabled, we still have to fill in a ridiculous 40 odd page form for DLA every few years, with ‘evidence.’
I get £69 a week carers, my sons on the highest DLA which is roughly £380 a month. On top of that is child benefit for 4 and universal credit.
The total I get each month is around £3400.
we also have higher mobility so we have a car that we only pay petrol for, and a new car every 3 years.
but for a single disabled adult, or couple/single without children, it’s abysmal.

TreadLight · 27/12/2022 22:36

@Lilyhop , for comparison, that is about the same as me earning £60k, after all the tax and NI is deducted, and without the free car. It's essentially a lower middle class income, and you are right. It is more than enough to live a comfortable life.

And I have to fill in a ridiculous tax return each year to make sure I am contributing an appropriate amount.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 27/12/2022 23:02

Florenz · 26/12/2022 18:08

I've got little to no sympathy to people who miss or are late for DWP appointments. It's literally the only thing they have to do and their money is dependent on it. Get an early bus. Set an alarm on the phone. Make it your utmost priority to be there on time. People with jobs have to be on time every day.

Well are all the suicides enough blood for you. FFS mind you don't over do the compassion.

Florenz · 27/12/2022 23:13

What is the alternative? Give people benefits and don't expect them to meet their commitments in terms of attending appointments etc? No matter how low you set the bar, some people will fall under it.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 27/12/2022 23:15

notyourmam · 26/12/2022 18:47

Me! I had that shock! I was raised in a Conservative household and genuinely believed nearly everyone on benefits was at fault and therefore undeserving of much help. And that, because our welfare spendings are relatively high, that meant we had a generous benefits system for the individual, as @Cuppasoupmonster believes.

Lord no. When I got Long Covid, I suddenly found myself with £95 a week in SSP to live on. That was it. Try going from a healthy salary to just over £400 a month to live on overnight, to cover everything, while your bills remain the same. The state expected me to live on bread and beans while seriously ill and just shrugged their shoulders. Then, after the 28 week SSP allowance ran out, I went onto ESA instead - at £324 a month. Great bloody fun that was. The financial stress absolutely worsened my illness, and has had continued impacts.

Eventually, thank god, I got assessed as having LCWRA (i.e, I'm deemed long term unfit to work), which upped my allowance to £689 a month. But that was on the strength of now being so disabled I can't walk more than 50m with any reliability. The criteria to meet eligibility for the higher rate I'm on are so extraordinarily stringent that few meet them, and it does not catch everyone who is too ill to work, who are suddenly thrown into poverty living a mean little existence on £324 a month, with no ability to improve their circumstances.

PIP is even worse. It's literally designed to deny as many people as possible, and the assessors set out to do so.

I can't begin to describe just how inhumane our benefits system is towards the long term ill. It's been utterly demoralising having to fight DWP for scraps, while already chronically exhausted.

You really do feel like you're thrown on the scrap heap if you lose your ability to work. You go from being a person who is seen worthy actual respect to someone unworthy of any quality of life. Subhuman almost, or certainly a second tier. We're made to feel like we're bludging off other people's taxes. Well, no - those were my taxes. This is what we pay in for. Life throws a curveball sometimes, and it can happen to any of us. It's not my bloody fault a pandemic happened, and someone sneezed in Asda.

Part of me wishes everyone with these beliefs had their own wake up call like this, just for a few months (cruel though it may be). Our society would sure as heck be better for it afterwards.

So being on benefits and having to live or rather just about exist on a pittence isn't quite the lark that you anticipated it to be, then. Funnily enough I didn't think it would be.
At least you're being honest about it though.

MichaelFabricantWig · 27/12/2022 23:18

Poor man

so young

Lilyhop · 28/12/2022 01:22

TreadLight · 27/12/2022 22:36

@Lilyhop , for comparison, that is about the same as me earning £60k, after all the tax and NI is deducted, and without the free car. It's essentially a lower middle class income, and you are right. It is more than enough to live a comfortable life.

And I have to fill in a ridiculous tax return each year to make sure I am contributing an appropriate amount.

yes, that’s exactly how I see it as well. But I know that it is not the same as say a single disabled adult, as they seem to barely get enough to scrape by.
when my son is 18, he will have the option of going into a residential care setting. He is 14 at the moment, but I’ve already been asked a few times what our plans are for when he is 18, as waiting lists for suitable places can be long. I find it hard to think that far ahead, and think it’s more likely he will be 21 when I make that decision. Once he leaves his school setting at 19, I can’t imagine I would be able to provide a good quality life for him, or for me, and some of the residential settings might be the best for him. As an adult, his DLA is then his, and he will be receiving the benefits and I will go back into full time work (which I know will be hard after so long out of work.) I honestly wish I was at work most
of the time. I have a degree that I was not ever able to actually get use out of. I will be 40 when he’s 18 so have a lot of years ahead of me to work. He has the mental age of a baby, and is 24 hour complex care. Also spends a lot of time in and out of hospital. But the one thing I haven’t had to worry about is money, so for that I am very very grateful.

Zebedee55 · 28/12/2022 08:32

OhmygodDont · 26/12/2022 19:05

A lot of disabled people can work. As this man was looking to be declared too just maybe not the job he wanted or originally had. Not that many people are actually so disabled to an extent they cannot work at all.

When I was at the age of claiming ESA, in the support Group, I had various minor strokes, and a couple of bigger ones.

They left me semi/fully paralysed for days and weeks - totally flat physically.

Perhaps I should have seen if I could have found a job as a draft excluder? 🙄

I have worked for the DWP, I have (afterwards) done voluntary stuff with welfare benefits, and I (and DH), are now permanently disabled - thankfully now on pensions and not ESA.

I can see all sides of the argument, and, trust me, as far as disability is concerned, it can be brutal.😗

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 28/12/2022 08:58

Zebedee55 · 28/12/2022 08:32

When I was at the age of claiming ESA, in the support Group, I had various minor strokes, and a couple of bigger ones.

They left me semi/fully paralysed for days and weeks - totally flat physically.

Perhaps I should have seen if I could have found a job as a draft excluder? 🙄

I have worked for the DWP, I have (afterwards) done voluntary stuff with welfare benefits, and I (and DH), are now permanently disabled - thankfully now on pensions and not ESA.

I can see all sides of the argument, and, trust me, as far as disability is concerned, it can be brutal.😗

(Maybe i could get a job as a draft excluder)

Or As that was joke that Kevin Bridges said. What do you mean you cant work because you're paralyzed from the neck down. There's a farmer down the road looking for a Scarecrow.

notyourmam · 28/12/2022 18:41

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 27/12/2022 23:15

So being on benefits and having to live or rather just about exist on a pittence isn't quite the lark that you anticipated it to be, then. Funnily enough I didn't think it would be.
At least you're being honest about it though.

Well, unless you bother to look into the sums (which most people not reliant on benefits don't have any particular reason to do) you do tend to buy into the rhetoric you're fed over and over. I.e, the benefits system is overly generous and sickness benefits are a doddle to claim. How many threads crop up on here with people complaining about their cousin receiving more in benefits for not working than they do working full time at a minimum wage job?