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The shit Christmas presents of 22 thread.

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ChristmasPresentsof22 · 25/12/2022 17:10

Another year, another round of presents from family that I cannot use. I have a serious food allergy and another health condition that means that I can't eat or use some foods/cosmetics. These are not new health issues, had them since childhood, yet there is not a single gift out of the few that I received that I can make use of. I decided to be blunt this year (after years of unsuaitable gifts) and tell the givers that I can't use their gifts due allergy etc but thanks anyway. Now I'm an ungracious brat. Am I? "It's not their fault I'm fussy." I'm really not, I just don't want to get sick. I would prefer not to do the gift thing as I'm not overly bothered about that part of Christmas, but I would be ruining it for everyone else, everyone else who gets decent thoughtful presents based on knowing what they like, it's shit when those thoughts are not reciprocated.

Anyone else want to join the naff presents club.

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SilverLilacLilac · 25/12/2022 21:22

Piplette · 25/12/2022 17:39

I for the usual cheap primark pjs in a size too small from my mum - I've given up even mentioning the size issue after several years - last year she and her partner got me slippers 2 sizes too small and when I mentioned it I was told "I'm sure they'll stretch".

They and my brother and SIL also went down the usual route of buying my kids lots of cheap tat presents rather than just 1 nice thing/vouchers as requested - including things that are too old for the or that they know I don't want in the house ie slime.

Will be gifting them to the charity shop in the new year.

Save another parent and put the slime in the bin, I hate it, and have had to spend pounds on carpet cleaners because of it

kitchenSink5 · 25/12/2022 21:25

My son was given these sticky, stretchy AWFUL monster things - they were open for less than 5 mins before they were in the bin - they have left marks all over my walls - nothing seems to be getting the marks off - so this cheap shitty present will cost us a tin of paint and days out of our lives to redecorate. I've a year to plan the pay back....

JustKittenAround · 25/12/2022 21:25

ThomasHardyPerennial · 25/12/2022 21:06

One of them had the price on still - £4. At least I'm all set for picnics next summer.

I’d check really hard if I had something on my face, because why in the world would anyone thing paper napkins were a good gift?!? I can’t even spin it as a “cultural” thing, it is such an embarrassing gift for any reason.

Time to have the talk about not exchanging gifts anymore. If pressed I’d tell her I don’t need anymore paper wear thanks.

If you just get her a gift then I’d get her paper napkins right back. The hell is she smoking?

BoosMum11 · 25/12/2022 21:33

I got the same gift I gave my SIL last year. It’s a gift set and the packaging has changed for this year, so no doubt it’s the exact same one. Shall I regift it to her next year? 😂

LunaBlueSkies · 25/12/2022 21:35

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ReformedWaywardTeen · 25/12/2022 21:39

Ireolu · 25/12/2022 19:52

This is horrible. I don't know if I would be able to spend any type of time with a person like this. Do you have to?

God no, I swerve it as many times as I'm able to. We've been together for over 25 years and it's amazing how many migraines you can have that happen the minute her bloody car turns up. That and she barely comes to our house.

Thedogscollar · 25/12/2022 21:43

Joint present from MIL was a steam iron🤔we are in our 60's and have an iron. Maybe not a rubbish present but random none the less.

freesoul12 · 25/12/2022 21:51

JanesSadLittleLife · 25/12/2022 17:28

I haven't drunk alcohol for 25 years, but I still received 3 bottles of wine, some pink champagne and a bottle of...Chocolate Cream Vodka?

Luckily DH is a total lush.

They don't believe you, do they ? Cheeky f***s

bridgetreilly · 25/12/2022 21:54

PMT soap.

I am post-menopausal.

BinturongsSmellOfPopcorn · 25/12/2022 21:57

Katypp · 25/12/2022 19:09

I often wonder what the people who are so dismissive of gifts people have bought them (HC chocolates clearly are not vile) buy other people? Do they take the same amount of effort to find out the likes/dislikes/allergies of their giftees as they expect their gift givers to put into presents for them?
Caveat: if you are genuinely allergic then fair dos, but there seems to be an inordinate amount of people with eczema that only seems to be triggered by Bayliss and Harding - I wonder why that could be?

My guess would be because it contains an ingredient that commonly triggers eczema.

My office had Bayliss and Harding soap in the loos instead of the usual generic stuff last time I went in for a meeting. I'd never used it before and had no opinion on it, but by the end of the day my hands (no eczema at the start of the day) were having a distinct flare. That was after just 3 uses.

ThomasHardyPerennial · 25/12/2022 21:57

JustKittenAround · 25/12/2022 21:25

I’d check really hard if I had something on my face, because why in the world would anyone thing paper napkins were a good gift?!? I can’t even spin it as a “cultural” thing, it is such an embarrassing gift for any reason.

Time to have the talk about not exchanging gifts anymore. If pressed I’d tell her I don’t need anymore paper wear thanks.

If you just get her a gift then I’d get her paper napkins right back. The hell is she smoking?

I mentioned it to my DH (she is his sister), and he said she must just think I like napkins. It is really odd, but I am laughing about it!

She is really rude when she receives presents she doesn't like, so maybe I need to take a leaf out of her book and be the same about these bizarre napkins.

raspberrytinsel · 25/12/2022 21:59

just buy presents for children, forget all the adult stuff.

EricNorthmanYesPlease · 25/12/2022 22:00

BelleNoir · 25/12/2022 20:45

MIL got me a box of Poundland liqueur chocolates, I'd rather she didn't bother

They're my xmas guilty pleasure!

TooManyEggsInTheBasket · 25/12/2022 22:10

I'm possibly a crap gift giver. I don't mean to be, I just find it really hard.

DD's teacher, who is going on maternity, got some body shop creams because I didn't know what sex her baby will be and she already has a child so I imagined she has most things already. I suppose she can regift them. It's something I wouldn't mind and it was more about a nice gesture. Maybe I shouldn't have bothered 🤷‍♀️

DH is so so hard to buy for so I got him a voucher for an activity he does. Otherwise it would be clothes or beer, neither of which are exciting.

Family secret Santa is nice PJs. With gift receipt. I thought for ages but it's so tricky sometimes. Hopefully I haven't got that too wrong.

I'd love to be one of those people who can think of thoughtful unusual gifts. I'm just not ☹️

Tiredo · 25/12/2022 22:13

chevvyroo · 25/12/2022 20:41

Thats awful and I don't blame you for crying but there has to be a back story right?

@chevvyroo no back story, he litterally went on Vinted, found a pair of second hand trainers that have a bit of leopard print on (I am partial to a print) and thought they’ll do and bought them 😞

WomanhoodIsABirthright · 25/12/2022 22:16

kitchenSink5 · 25/12/2022 21:25

My son was given these sticky, stretchy AWFUL monster things - they were open for less than 5 mins before they were in the bin - they have left marks all over my walls - nothing seems to be getting the marks off - so this cheap shitty present will cost us a tin of paint and days out of our lives to redecorate. I've a year to plan the pay back....

Glitter or music instrument toys for their kids.

MrsToothyBitch · 25/12/2022 22:19

I got very lucky this year, only present I'm not wild on is a pair of bathbombs- not wild on the scent of these particular ones, I don't mind the occasional bathbomb in general. Also got one of those therapy bracelets from my mum which is really thoughtful but I'd prefer to have chosen the style for the item myself- but it's still v nice. Happy to have any rejected HC goodies or decent handcream!

Hoppinggreen · 25/12/2022 22:22

My Mum bought 14 year old DS a Harry Potter bath set from Boots that we are pretty sure is meant for a girl. I know boys can enjoy owl shaped glittery bath bombs, face masks and velvet make up bags but mine doesn’t.
Hes not a Harry Potter fan either.
He actually did very well when he opened it and pretended to be grateful because as he said later he’s “not Dad”

TinaTeaspoons · 25/12/2022 22:26

Got very lucky with gifts this year. Only 2 things I wasn't keen on. A handcream which is too overpowering and some granny style slippers but other than that, all lovely.

beastlyslumber · 25/12/2022 22:27

I got given a quite expensive looking card holder. For my business cards? I don't have a business. For credit cards? I pay for everything on my phone. I don't know what the hell to do with it but it looks like it cost a lot of money. Should I tell the gift-giver to pass it on to someone else? I doubt they've still got the receipt.

beastlyslumber · 25/12/2022 22:29

BoosMum11 · 25/12/2022 21:33

I got the same gift I gave my SIL last year. It’s a gift set and the packaging has changed for this year, so no doubt it’s the exact same one. Shall I regift it to her next year? 😂

YES you absolutely have to!

RedToothBrush · 25/12/2022 22:30

BoosMum11 · 25/12/2022 21:33

I got the same gift I gave my SIL last year. It’s a gift set and the packaging has changed for this year, so no doubt it’s the exact same one. Shall I regift it to her next year? 😂

100%!

Let it become a tradition. That way you never have to worry about buying another present ever again!!!

MrsToothyBitch · 25/12/2022 22:31

@TinaTeaspoons I got granny slippers for my birthday- initially I wasn't keen but the backs have trodden down a bit and they make quite nice mules and are super comfy with decent soles on.

My friends mum got a pair I initially wanted and almost fell down stairs in them. Friend also had a fall in the same style. Don't write off the granny ones yet!

Rainbowsparkles29 · 25/12/2022 22:31

I know that this is tongue in cheek but I'm just wondering what the perfect gift givers on here actually do buy their distant relatives?! The reason most gifts are 'generic' is because most people simply don't know you well enough to come up with anything else. I have a child and sorry but every ounce of the energy I have after navigating an incredible job goes into making sure her Christmas is perfect and that I'm fulfilling the requirements to attend the multiple nativities/charity events/write christmas cards to her entire school. I simply don't have the mental reserve to buy the perfect gifts for bunch of adult relatives who don't even need a gift really. This post cements the reasons why every year I try and persuade my family not to buy for each other. It's pointless. I genuinely don't care about receiving gifts and just want a nice relaxing day and the best gift my family could give me is just to cut the crap and agree for grown adults to stop exchanging pointless gifts

Rainbowsparkles29 · 25/12/2022 22:32

*after navigating an incredibly stressful job that was meant to say

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