to think guests turning up on Xmas eve unannounced is rude?

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Aibu to think that guests turning up unannounced on Xmas eve for 2 hours is rude?

Depends. Don't be so vague, give more detail.

Christmas is the time for goodwill to all men, no?

I don't celebrate Christmas but I enjoy friends and family coming over because it shows I'm cared about. Maybe something to think about in between unwrapping presents and eating your turkey?, @user3443455

Depends. Did they bring booze?

I’d be ok with it. But all depends what you are doing. Can we have some context?

Not in my house! My brother just turned up. I haven't seen him for a year, I'm thrilled. 😊

It's not like I don't have anything to offer him. Who's next?

🙄Who said OP doesn’t like family and friends coming over or showing her that they care? They could do both of those things and check that it works with her plans first rather than just ringing the bell unannounced and dropping in for two hours. The latter is really inconsiderate!

Yes I think so, especially if they're expecting you to 'host' them.

Depends on who it is, if they brought gifts, why they dropped by etc etc

🙄Who said OP doesn’t like family and friends coming over or showing her that they care?

TBF we have zero detail. 😂

I guess it depends, in my culture an unexpected guest is totally expected on Christmas eve so you always have food and drink on the go throughout the day.

Family and friends all make the rounds, popping in is the name of the game so I wouldn't get het up at all.

It would be really weird if no one turned up at all on Christmas eve but it's never agreed or discussed beforehand, just assumed.

Her post obviously suggests she doesn’t

🎄We’ve had one too 🥴🤣

Wouldn’t bother us, unless we had plans to be somewhere else! It would bother some friends though and I think most people on MN seem
to hate visitors at all times so I’d expect most here to think it is the worst thing in the world.

Family and friends should understand and respect each others' culture and traditions.

OP hasn't said much but by calling them 'unexpected guests', it already says they don't have that sort of relationship and tradition, so it's rude. If they did, then it wouldn't be rude and i doubt OP would have asked this question.

This was totally normal in our house growing up- added to the excitement to have friends and family dropping in.

We’ve had a couple today but I’ve had to say they can’t come in as I’m really unwell.

um, no not really 🤣

I'm always open to an unexpected guest, I realise this makes me an outlier on MN though. Having said that they would've been disappointed at our house today we were out from 10:30-4:30

It would depend on who it was for me personally. For a couple hours on Christmas Eve I would be happy to accommodate most people who would give enough of a shit about my family to show their face, but appreciate not all visitors would be welcome!

I’m really curious, how does this work? If everyone is out visiting who is at home hosting? Is it generational like grandparents stay home and younger people go round paying their respects?

For me unexpected guests is what Christmas is all about. I remember feeling really low one Christmas Eve when I was 12 or 13. The magic had gone for me, and believing in Santa had been magical for me, my mum had started a full time job and was working really hard in the run up to Christmas, and I just felt completely unfestive. Then I remember my great aunt turning up, my mum cracked out the mince pies and drinks, and suddenly all felt Christmassy again. So I’m all for the unexpected guest!

Yes it's rude. I don't understand turning up uninvited at any time, it's putting people in an awkward position.

Think it depends who and what time. If it’s a pull up a chair at the kitchen table with a glass of wine while I finish doing my bits and bobs type of thing then glad to have you. If it’s I’m sitting in your living room expecting to be entertained and still there at midnight then it’s a no from me.

You should shout out of your window at the the closest youth on a moped, and ask them to ride straight into town and buy the biggest free range , organic turkey they can find or you might have three more visitors at midnight.

Depends who it is and why they are there.

This. Who, when and why?