to think guests turning up on Xmas eve unannounced is rude?

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Aibu to think that guests turning up unannounced on Xmas eve for 2 hours is rude?

When I was growing up it was normal. If it was family dropping in some would phone ahead, some wouldn't. We always had a booze tray on the ready and cold cuts/ buns/ cheese/ pickles to eat.

Our door is figuratively open to family and friends. It would be wonderful to have people come to visit. That’s what being a friend is about. Why would you not want friends or family to drop in unexpectedly for a couple of hours and feed them.

I’m amazed some folk don’t value an unannounced friendly visitor. Our neighbours moan when their few friends drop in. They’re just not our type of folk.
Is this a South of England problem?

This is me, but I don't really want pre booked visits either 🤣

Depends. If it isn’t a relative then that’s very rude of them.

If it’s a relative who you never invite round and who desperately wants to stay in touch with your kids then 🤷‍♀️ you’ve driven them to it.

I intended to visit a friend unannounced this afternoon. In the end I didn't because I got distracted by a different friend visiting me unannounced. So I guess I feel that unannounced visits are part and parcel of Christmas

No I'd be happy with that, always nice to see people I like/love. But if they stayed for two hours and you needed to be doing something else even if it's just a TV show or book you planned to read then it's your fault for not turfing them out politely

If we’d got plans I’d probably say ‘lovely to see you but we can we take a rain check.’ If we had no plans I wouldn’t mind at all.

I actually prefer to let people know I'm coming, as I hate wasted trips. They could be out, sleeping, ill, entertaining, working, etc. I don't expect people to be home simply waiting for guests to arrive anytime.

@Thelongwayround pretty much everyone hosts and everyone visits too. So weirdly I could host my friend in the AM when she's making her rounds, she could host me and my family in the afternoon when I'm making mine, and we'd both bump into each other when visiting another friend/relative too.

So there is always food/snacks, in one house you might have a biscuit and cuppa, the next some chicken legs, the next picky meats, the next a biscuit again.

It's complete and utter chaos but fabulous too.

If I happen to be out while someone pops round then they'll go to their next visit and circle back at some point.

Intriguing.

Can you elaborate?

Totally agree

Your username is gloriously contradictory to the content of your post

Close friends - I’d be thrilled.

Not so close, I’d be intrigued or miffed depending on how much I liked them.

Sounds lovely to me, but, as has already been mentioned a few times.....

It depends.
YABU to ask a vague question without giving us any detail and then expect us to be able to make a fair judgement though.

Depends who it is but 99% people I'd be delighted! Provided it was after I'd finished the cleaning, showered and literally let my hair down. Have had 10am callers in the past when I was mid bathroom scrub, they were not massively welcome lol

Its Christmas eve. Lighten up or pretend you're just off out! I'm so thankful for my family and friends when I read posts like yours!!

What an utterly wanky thing to say. I’m sure it’s possible to dislike spontaneous visitors and still have joy in your life!

No. We turned up two hours late on Christmas Eve at in-laws...bad traffic. We were expected though...... Think depends on who guest is and other reasons

What an unnecessarily nasty comment. I swear some people just come on here because they can’t get away with being so spiteful in real life 🙄

For the record, I have plenty of joy in my life and I love having guests when I know they’re coming. I’m autistic and have a severe anxiety disorder, which means that I don’t do well with unexpected company, even if it’s people I like.

Your previous post was deleted for a nasty comment.

I wouldn't even answer the door. Zero unexpected guests any time of year, I'd be a flustered mess anxious about being in slobby clothes in a very much lived in house. I like everything tidy when people come round. To me it's incredibly rude, how hard is it to text or call in advance?