to think guests turning up on Xmas eve unannounced is rude?

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Aibu to think that guests turning up unannounced on Xmas eve for 2 hours is rude?

Same here but it was yesterday. I was just dropping and running but was invited in and stayed an hour or so.
Anyone who calls in this week it's very much take me as you find me and that's fine

Depends. My mother was a complete extrovert. One year she had eight or ten guests round on Christmas Eve and an aunt and uncle with their four kids turned up uninvited and she loved every minute as I remember. Her house was tiny but everyone piled in the sitting room with a drink and so far as I remember, had a good time.

My father was an introvert but it was his family who turned up, so I think even he was ok with it.

Sounds ok to me. I know mumsnetters usually want family and friends to make a visiting appointment at least 2 months in advance though.

I'm very social-phobic nowadays. I'd have had a not so mini nervous breakdown. I can't cope with invited friends for more than 3 hours max at any time - but to be fair, my good friends know this and wouldn't have dreamed of dropping in unannounced especially on Christmas Eve.

Also the people comparing you to the Innkeeper are unfair. I would think it's more than likely that you (and I) would drop everything if the 'unexpected guests' had turned up because they were in need, and done our best to do everything we could to help them.

Completely different scenario.

I definitely prefer notice before anyone's coming round but if someone did turn up unannounced and no one was expecting me elsewhere, I'd welcome them in.

Some people like being spontaneous and if it's someone you like, why not welcome them in?

Wouldn’t care, ds turned up for 3 hours as he was in the area, all good.
Imo ppl can turn up at anytime and if we are available it’s all good.

Its the whole point of Xmas tbh. If and when people turn up here, they know they'll be getting a load of sausage rolls and mince pies.

I doubt OP's unexpected guests are his/her children or parents. I'd think those, especially (adult) children, are the exception for most people who prefer that things are planned.

If you don't like them it's rude.

Now's the best time for unexpected guests because the house is usually all nice for Christmas. 2nd January probably one of the worst days for unexpected guests.

If you let them in then it's all your fault

Depends.

If they want feeding then they can get the fuck out.

Cup of tea with some biscuits and a chat? Yeah my door is open.

This is MN where nobody ever answers the door. Meanwhile in the real world, it’s fine.

If you think it's rude then it's rude for you and they shouldn't do it.

It's not rude absolute end of story rude because not everyone thinks it's rude. I'm perfectly happy to have friends or family show up. But if that's not how you work then they should respect that.

Are you user Hope54321 by any chance?

It’s not rude to me/ in my circle.

I'm at my mums. Auntie and uncle 1 turned up unannounced whilst they were here Auntie 2 turned up having been to Auntie and uncle 1 and found they were out. Both stayed for about an hour or so. It was nice. Low key. They all had a cuppa/Bailey's/mince pie.

I mean, I hate an unexpected guest at any time, but I think at Christmas it really is quite normal.

My best ever Christmas involved my sister turning up on my doorstep on Christmas Eve a few years ago. We weren’t meant to be in but popped home to get something for the baby between carols and the pub and two minutes later there was a knock on the door. She’d flown in from Australia for my baby’s first Christmas. I had a little cry tonight thinking about it. Best. Gift. Ever.

We’ve also had unexpected guests on Christmas Day evening. Lovely friends who’d had a shit day with family and just wanted a drink with people who care about them.

And on Boxing Day actually, they “popped in for a coffee” mid morning after a row with the relatives they were staying with and spent the whole day and 3 meals with us.

I’m in favour of healthy boundaries but also welcome people we care about dropping in if they need company, hugs, cake or - as it turned out with the latter - 3 meals so they could avoid going back to wanker in laws.

I'd like the surprise I think. If my best friends turned up at my door now, I'd cry and be so happy. Haven't seen them in 3 years and I miss them so much!

My door is always open

I don't celebrate Xmas, but I know from trying to see friends who do in the run-up that they usually can't do much socialising because of all the organising so, yes, it does sound pretty unreasonable to turn up the literal night before for a anything more than a chat on on the doorstep.

Well I don't like people turning up unannounced any time so this would piss me right off. But I'm a miserable boot. Merry Christmas one and all! 😂

It can be difficult. We have relatives who eat at about 4.30/5 and like to go out for a drink afterwards. We prefer to go for a drink and then eat about 8. So they think nothing of rocking up unannounced at 7 and are happy to stay until 10…..whereas we are all starving and wanting them to go home!

MN is full of unwelcoming people.

dont like visitors unless they pre-book a slot, and dont like telephone calls, just text messages so they can ignore and dictate who and when they contact back.

would hate to know you lot in real life