To ask whose responsibility is it to check pockets before washing?

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Random Mumsnet opinion check please brought on by tissue disaster in our load of washing for Christmas Day outfits

In a house with two adults. Who has the responsibility to check pockets in hoodies and trousers before putting the wash on (ie straight from laundry basket)?

The person who put their clothes in the basket should empty pockets first-YANBU

The person putting the wash on should check pockets as items go into the machine-YABU

Both. The person putting the things into the machine also gets all the money.

Top tip: to train children to do this, spike clothing with cash. Mostly coins, but if they find a fiver when they're about five years old, they will never forget to check theirs and everybody else's pockets.

Two adults in our house and we both do our own washing. Therefore the person who puts the clothes in the basket is the same as the person who does the washing in our house. We both sometimes miss a tissue, probably me more than DH.

Interesting mix of replies. And I'm surprised by how many say both but I do get the logic of a double check

As many suspected, it's me putting it into the washing machine and DH who forgets to empty his pockets.

Sometimes I check but we also have two under 3 so I often have a clutch of time to put wash on

My argument is, at the end of the day, you check one set of pockets before putting into the basket. Versus me checking loads of pockets at once (I only do washing twice a week so then means I have loads to check)

We've had tissues, pens, lighters, credit card go through the machine

It drives me mad!

He doesn't forget, it either never occurs to him to do it or he just expects you to.

Checking pockets, unballing socks etc should be second nature as it goes in the basket.

Tell me this OH never leaves his phone, money in his pockets he remembers to take those out so why not his Bloody tissues. I hate handling the disgusting things. He leaves them all over the bedside table and my dressing table!!

I've successfully laundered a passport, a credit card, a train paper season ticket and old style (non polymer) notes but tissues are the absolute worst

Ultimately the responsibility lies with the poor fucker who has to organise and pay for the replacement machine.

Both are responsible, less chance of missing a tissue if both get into the habit of checking

On another note, I once told DH I would be keeping any cash I found in his pockets (after the rent money went through a cycle). It's been 15 years and he's never left so much as a dust bunny since...

My argument was the same OP about time OP.

If it is the washing basket it gets washed. If you don’t want it washed don’t put it into the washing basket.

For adults ..The person taking clothes off all adults put wash on when they see it needs doing ....if you don't pull your socks out they are returned to you on the same state all clothes on your bed for you to put away.

Pockets should be emptied by the wearer (but as the washer-in-chief, I always double check, as it's me who is affected if a tissue gets into the wash, or coins cause my machine to break down).

YANBU! You take responsibility to check the pockets of your own items when you put them in the wash basket. I put the wash on in our house - if my partner hasn’t checked his own pockets (and he regularly forgets), this is sooo not my problem!

Person who puts it in basket empties pockets.

Adults - the wearer, no question.

I do the majority of the washing in my household & I'm the only one who sticks tissues in my pockets, so this job falls to me! 😆

Hard to argue with this!

Husband expecting you to do it brings to mind "she divorced me because I left the dishes in the sink." Not that I'm saying LTB quite yet...

It's the responsibility of the person putting the clothes in the laundry basket. By putting them in the basket it means they are ready to be put straight into the washing machine. If I'm lifting off the floor then I'll always empty pockets. If the clothes are already in the basket, pockets should be empty. YANBU.

My husband does this too - infuriates me un doing dirty socks. I always mean to ask if this is something they had to do growing up to keep socks together? It's not doing me any favours. I'm going to start doing what you're doing and he should get the message then.

My partner used to drive me nutts doing this, until plastic notes started and I said 'good all the money I find in your pockets will be okay to spend now' he's checked ever since

It’s the responsibility of the person putting the wash on.

The person who was wearing the clothes should empty out their pockets but it's sensible to do a double check when putting a load on.

I agree with this. It's the wearer's responsibility, but I don't want crayon/lip balm, etc., on my clothes or in my machine, so I double check.

In an ideal world, the person putting their clothes in the laundry basket. But as the person who does the washing in our house, I always check because, in the end, if someone leaves a tissue in their pocket it affects everyone's clothes, including mine.

My mum's carers sometimes chuck her fleece straight in the washing machine with the pockets bunged full of tissues. I have no idea why she needs so many every single day, but believe me, I only neglected to check the once. It was like a bloody snowstorm when I unloaded the machine. Not blaming the carers by the way!

Both. Because nobody wants tissues everywhere. The person putting them in the basket should and the person doing the machine should double check.