PIL still expecting dinner

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We were due to host my PIL and my own parents for Christmas Day dinner. My parents live 5hours away and PIL about 20minutes so my parents due to stay 4 nights and are super helpful houseguests, my DH always comments on how helpful they are and asks when they’re next coming so I know I’m not being biased just because they’re my parents!
Myself and DH are both feeling so unwell with flu, just about managing to look after our 11month DS between us and it’s only two days before Christmas, we told my parents not to come as don’t want them to catch anything, they want to be helpful but aware it’s best just to stay away so will come and visit in a few weeks. My DH told PIL how unwell we all felt, MIL reply was “oh that’s a shame, well we’ll just come for dinner and then leave you in peace” WHAT?! You’re twenty minutes away and can’t be slightly helpful and instead still expect dinner?! I’d be fuming but feel too unwell to even answer.

DH needs to reply " We're not making dinner; or having guests. "

How are you to unwell to answer but able to post on here? As said, just be clear. You should have been earlier in the day.

I don’t know why anyone would want to visit sick relatives and risk getting ill themselves, a lot of people around me are ill at the moment, including relatives, so we’ve not visited anyone.

DH needs to nip that in the bud.
He's given the impression that you're both a bit under the weather, so might need an early night.
They need to be told that you are too sick to cook at all and they would be mad to step foot in your house and risk catching it.

If you can gripe about your in-laws on mumsnet, while taking the time to provide an unfavourable comparison with your own parents, you haven't got the flu.

Why doesn’t your husband just tell them no?

Please tell me he's clarified that dinner isn't happening!

It’s your dh who hasn’t told them properly. You told your parents not to come he needs to do same asap.

Plenty of good suggestions already here. Just get him to say no.

Hope you feel better soon.

Accidentally clicked YABU, you definitely are not being unreasonable though. Cheeky PILs, you (ideally your husband) need to set them straight ASAP!

Your DH needs to ring them tonight to clarify so they’ve got enough time to go to get Christmas food tomorrow.

Just tell tell them you are I'll so won't feel up to coolimung. Of they want to come and bring sandwiches them that would be fine or we ca. Rearrange for next year

How can this have been misinterpreted?! If you are due to visit someone and they say they are unwell you obviously cancel or offer to bring them food at least if you are going to insist!

Well, DH has to answer them. Tell them there will be no food.

Get your DH to call them and clarify that you are unwell so no one is going to your house, because you are unwell. Stand firm and repeat like a broken record.

Sorry Maddy 😃. I can't stop giggling at them not being able to coolimung.

Everyone is giving you the same advice, as I do too. Don't pussyfoot around trying to be considerate and nice.. But just say it like it is.. Like all these suggestions on here. It's not difficult you know.. And I hope you both feel better very soon!

Is it actual 'flu or just a dreadful bad cold? Either way the response is - we are so sorry but we are absolutely far too poorly to cook or host you. Let's do a nice meal together on NYD - or whatever.

Or, explicitly ask them to come and cook .

DH needs to let them know this tonight - or tomorrow am first thing - so they have a shot at getting themselves something in for dinner.

Clarify with them that you are too ill to host but since they mentioned coming for dinner you would much appreciate it if they dropped by with some cooked Christmas dinner for you since you are so ill (i.e. give them a taste of their own cheek!)

you'll hafta spell it out OP!

My response would be "sorry far to ill for shopping to buy dinner let alone cook it. Christmas Dinner for us will be dinner be a christmas pot noodle or soup if we feel up to eating" or anything simple you can think of that they cannot stand. Personally my mum would have said in these circumstances that she will cook and run us round a plate incase we felt up to it later.

When is the use by date on your food? Just reschedule for a few days’ time if dates are fine. If it needs eating by Boxing Day I’d tell them to come and pick it up tomorrow and cook it in theirs. Get them to save yo some cold cuts

This is like the in laws from motherland!!!!!

i did not realise people like this existed!!!!

Dh replies, very kind of you to offer to cook the dinner and mind the kids. We were just going to order a takeaway, go back to bed, with the sick bowls, and sleep. Alternatively dh tells them flat out we're sick don't come round. If he won't do either then he gets up, cooks the meal, deals with the pil and kids, you sleep.
We're currently both ill but dh is recovering. He normally cooks, there's only one sibling and dad coming round with cards tomorrow so not a problem. Oh the kittens are all his as well.

Dad, sorry, we have to cancel Christmas here. We’re too sick to buy food or host. We’ll reschedule for the new year.