Working from home with a 1 year old?

[Janedoe95]

Is it possible? Or completely unrealistic.

I work a 9-5 but I’m lucky that my job is more task based I’ve only been back to work a week but have managed to get all my work done using nap time, bedtime and sending the odd email whilst DS is distracted.

is it unrealistic to think I can survive like this for maybe 6 more months hopefully by the time DS is 18 months or even two it will be easier?

im only in my office two days a week so was initially planning for DS to be in nursery 3 days but the prices have just gone up and it’s so expensive!

I'm on almost 28K which I thought was a fair salary to have a baby on but 5 days a week would cost me nearly £2000 a month! Which is obviously more than I earn.

i think I’d probably be better off on benefits staying at home with my baby whilst my partner works but I’d be completely reliant on my partner and then have no pension too.

(my work do know my baby is around when I work from home some days as I breastfeed but they also don’t expect me to be looking after him and working so “legally he’s being watched by someone else”)

I really don’t know how other women do it especially single mums the I’m 26 and the majority of mums I know my age don’t work and others are having babies mid to late 30s and 40s

Someone I know does this with a two year old. Apparently her work are ok with this. He can club out of his play pen. So not sure how she can maintain adequate supervision now he's mobile.

I'm a teacher so need to work at home after school hours. Even with school aged children it's impossible. I have to do my work when they are asleep.

When they were toddlers they constantly tried to tap on my keyboard and in order to fully concentrate on anything I had to completely ignore them or the work needed redoing.

I'm amazing at multi tasking and can't see how it can work.

Well then I don’t really think you’re in a position to talk about normal employees?

You’re clearly a 007 secret agent….

I earn so much I’m going to Hawaii for new year, my surbordinates earn £65k, you do no work on some days….

I think perhaps you need to understand, that’s not how the real world works..

enjoy Hawaii, make sure you get DD into holiday club, so you can rest!

I work in Martech.

I probably ‘do’ a couple of hours a day at most, today for example I did absolutely nothing but finish some Christmas crafts with DD and go to a local Christmas carol service at the local school. Some on here have very low understanding about jobs outside of their bubble which is why the OP is silly for posting, never going to get relevant responses.

Yep. Everything gets harder in the toddler years. I can't change my 18 month old's nappy without performing a physical restraint with one arm whilst wiping with the other. I need eyes everywhere... Every 10 mins or so I'm saying "no, not that!". Stopping her from climbing on dining chairs and falling off etc. I have to take her out to the park or soft play on my days off as I just cannot contain her in the house for longer than an hour or two, and that's with my full attention on her. I literally cannot imagine trying to type a report or answer emails with her whizzing around the place causing havoc. I'd have an actual breakdown 😳

who is talking about normal employees?

The OP asked a question about her job, she works in digital marketing where this is very common to not have to be bum on seat for 7 plus hours a day. Most of my team do the same as me, as long as targets are met no one cares, people are adults, can manage their own time and workload.

You seem to be confusing someone asking for advice on their particular situation with asking about an average worker, strange.

Total bullshit 😂

Again with replying multiple times to the same post, are you OK?

you seem oddly invested in someone else’s job, one you have no idea about (clearly) and have decided to act out.

Maybe have some wine, it’s Friday after all

It will get harder not easier....

No it's not possible.

I worked 16 hours over 7 days around my son and this was tough even with my super laid back baby and I didn't have meetings. Was doing copywriting at the time.

Even if you have an iron tight nap schedule it's not possible and you'll feel like you're not doing well by your baby if you're working all day.

Just looks at your other posts, you’re on a bit of a mission tonight!

not asked your job, not replied multiple times to the same post, not “acting out”

I’m fine….. enjoy Hawaii hun!

See you in 2023!

Completely unrealistic and also not fair on your child/ potentially dangerous. Young children need to be properly supervised.

Presumably your partner will pay half, full time care would be till they enter primary school. So depending on where you live is in 3 or 4 yrs time(sounds like a long time but it goes fast). Factor in your free nursery hours. Work out the cost with your partner and take it from there. In the long run it's far better financially for you to stay in the workplace than leave .

Total bullshit 😂

Totally agree

exactly this

it would not go down well at my work

I think it’s a wind up!! 🙄

One of the people I lead is going to go on a performance plan unless she manages to improve her performance in 2023. One of the things I suspect is that it takes her so long to do her job because her 2yo child is there so instead of doing her work she’s really paying attention to her child. Her team is really unimpressed with her. Don’t be this person yourself

Work with a similar person

Nope. I have a 15 month old and it would be impossible. It's unfair to your child and employer

You definitely have, most of my posts you’ve replied twice to, very caught up over it, it seems.

It’s sad that posters instead of just accepting they don’t know the ins and outs of peoples jobs resort to pretending it’s bullshit, shows a very childish outlook to life.

Why not just be happy there are some people able to balance working, being parents and get paid well to do so, it’s what most strive for is it not?

Thankfully the OP seems like she has a good head on her shoulders, there is no harm in trying either, if it doesn’t work out she can always adapt.

Absolutely not a bloody chance! Covid taught us that parenting and working at the same time isn’t possible. Throughout that painful experience my husband and tag teamed throughout the day and invariably ended up working at midnight to get stuff done.

Mine are now 8 and 9 and I can wing the odd day in the hols, but they spent a lot of time watching telly. Which makes me a bit of a shit parent and employee.

Save yourself the pain

Totally unrealistic. If you've had a good week I can see how you might think you can wing it but baby's naps will decrease and add teething and various illnesses into the mix and it just won't work. You are paid to work and it's not unreasonable for an employer to expect your commitment during those hours. It would be a disciplinary in most places and potentially make it harder for others to get wfh requests approved.

Research tax free childcare, consider a nursery, see of there is a way for you and your partner to compress your hours if you can.

Why not just be happy there are some people able to balance working, being parents and get paid well to do so, it’s what most strive for is it not?

I do exactly this, working 4 days a week and having the other 3 with my toddler. I don't (and personally couldn't) do both at the same time. But overall, I have a reasonable balance. And I get paid well. 🤷‍♀️

I think the key message I'm getting from this thread is that it only works if your job doesn't actually involve any working.