DH told me to butt out

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DH and his mother are having a disagreement and DH has decided to completely blank her. In my opinion, he is wrong and I’ve told him he should at least speak with her about it rather than switch off - which is classic him. It’s Christmas and she’s overseas so blanking her really isn’t fair in my opinion and I’ve expressed this to him for him to tell me to “butt out” as it has nothing to do with me. Is he right and AIBU? I guess I just feel like there’s ways to say things and this wasn’t it.

Yes, keep your nose out.

next time he starts shoot him down in a rude & abrupt manner
'dont start'
'give it a rest'
'stop whining'
etc

Eh, that would ruffle my feathers too. He could've used a different choice of words, however in the heat of it he probably wasn't thinking. From now on just stay out of it, it's between him and DM and I don't think spouses she really get involved.

Thank you for this. I agree

I'm currently going through something very similar OP. I've stopped butting in now.