colleague drives past my house every morning...

[BarrelOfOtters]

That part is fine, it's on her way to work. But I get a comment almost every day - saw a van on your drive - are you getting more work done? Saw your husband putting the cat in the car - off to the vets? Whose is the blue car?

I'm not particularly bothered by it but just enough to think - you know?

Wondering what I can say/do to put her off a bit.

I'd say politely that you think she's a bit over invested in the comings and goings and your house and if you want to share you will but you'd rather not be questioned every day on it.

@Brightstarowl it was constant , - what am I having for tea ? Few hours later text message - how was my tea ? 9am text Saturday morning asking what my plans are , Sunday text asking the same . Honestly it was constant if I said I was thinking of booking a holiday I would get asked every day had I sorted it.

Answer her with the MN tinkly laugh.

Watch her car in the morning and say things like “you had a bit of mud on your car tyres
this morning..been joyriding in fields last night?”

or “Your car passed my house three mins early today..why’s that?”

seriously though I think you should just let it go- she’s being friendly and trying to talk to you and be interested. Maybe she’s a bit lonely? The only grown up conversation I have with adults are my colleagues and maybe it annoys them but it saves my mental health.

I’d ask,”are you obsessed with me?”
Laugh it off like you were joking then add, “are you though?”

A massive piss-take would be very tempting, but in practice I'd say "mmm", and "can't remember" in a tone of utter indifference and repeat every time she made some intrusive remark. If you think she's doing it because she's lonely, then I'd try to turn the subject away from anything to do with you and onto something else.

Start driving past her home, and ask nosy questions, she will soon stop OP.

Blow this up with “Hey Pam …. “

This ^^

This is by far the best reply

I would just say, I don't know. She'll soon stop asking, if you don't answer her questions.

Yes I have a colleague the same oh my good if I go on holiday she wants to know everything before I go and after, she goes away I don’t even know she’s going until days before and then it’s all very vague. I can’t work out if she’s just nosey or it’s her way of getting people to like her as in asking a lot of questions about them she’s a huge people pleaser. I just think it’s strange that will not talk about herself hardly and even if I ask it’s all very vague.
that would drive me mad op the constant moseying I’d have to say something.

Yes my colleague is the same we haven’t got the same one ?
I’m really not very interesting and I hate being asked about myself constantly.

@gettingolderandgrumpier it's so draining isn't it ! I put a stop to it unintentionally about a month ago . When she asked me something about a traumatic event at the weekend and I just said I didn't want to talk about it as I was emotionally drained and just wanted to get on with my work . She didn't like that and has backed off a lot since , which is great !

Oooh, yes!

Get this!

Pampas grass. Big clump of it out front. 😉

🤣🤣🤣

On the upside at least they'd notice if something was wrong.

This would annoy me and I would have to say something.

plenty if useful suggestions in the thread.

I like your lovely attitude.

Neighbours across the road (don't like our kids) chased off a guy hanging around the house. Told me they knew he didn't live there, that we were at work, the kids at school, and the charity collection van had already been. Didn't even know we were under such close surveillance.

"Alright Miss Marple! Just to let you know, if you see a red car parked outside, it's my lovers car.."