Hello.long post so feel free to skim! I’m reasonably new here it was recommend to me by my sister. She said you are all a supportive but honest bunch of people. She did say this was not a great first thread to start with as I might get some hurtful responses. But I’m already so angry at myself so be honest!
I was the woman of honour at one of my best friends wedding (he was marrying his long time fiancé in Malta and it was gorgeous)as he explained to me it’s basically the female version of a best man! It was a brilliant wedding and I was fine for the duration of it. However, after the two grooms had gone to bed and most guests had left, his sister was having a few people
up to her hotel room for late night snacks and some more drinks. It was supposed to be loads of us , grooms bridal party etc but people were exhausted and headed to bed. I’m not a big drinker in any shape or form- rarely have it. And have a bad tolerance as I’m not a regular drinker. But I stupidly was caught up in the fun of the night and went back for ‘one more’. I ended up doing a shot which I can’t handle and a little bit more vodka.
Long story short I started vomiting in front of everyone. I was wearing a light gold (expensive!!) dress and vomited all over myself too. The dress and shoes! (The dress has been cleaned since but the shoes I had to bin as they were too bad) It all gets worse! the groom’s sister was holding a bag for me to get sick in and I projectile vomited so it went on the hotel carpet and some sick got on her too which I’m horrified about. I had an apology gift and card sent to her. She was lovely the next day - told me I did an amazing job as bridesmaid and I just had a bad response to the drink after. She said I was beating myself up way too much and to forget it and that I’m a wonderful friend to her brother. (Been there for him a lot in the past).
I have complete blanks in my memory then at parts but basically paramedics were called for me as I was so drunk . I was told
I was ‘passing out’ but I think it was more a drunken stupor. I’m so so embarrassed. I was found out I was brought to the ambulance in a wheelchair but I’ve no memory of this. I remember some parts on the way though it’s like my memory goes in and out. I know I threw up in the ambulance and on the ground outside the hospital and then was vomiting none stop for a while. I got sick on the floor of the hospital too when I woke up. They had to give me a rehydration drip as it was literally non-stop. Can’t believe it and I’m an adult in my mid-late twenties. Disgusted at myself! I work in a healthcare setting myself back home and I have so much respect for staff and the system. I’d never let this happen sober.not trying to justify but I think celebrating after lockdowns etc got to me.
So, as I said not many went back to the room so it was just his sister, an aunt I think and her best friend and the best friends partner. So not many. The sister told me we are best not telling her brother as it was all sorted, I’m fine and the wedding was amazing. This happened last week and I’ve spoke. To my friend and he’s none the wiser. I don’t like being dishonest however I hate feeling like I’m not telling him. I also don’t want to burst his happy bubble about me being such a mess. And it wasn’t at the actual wedding it was the ‘after party’ and he and his new husband weren’t there.
So is it life ruining?! How much will his family member judge me, will I ever recover my reputation and AIBU to want to tell my friend due to my guilt. I cried for ages after the event as I feel I’ve ruined my happy memories of what was such a good wedding and my chance to be a bridesmaid/woman of honour which I loved doing. Thanks!