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Should I report my colleague for this?

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ZZTopp · 22/12/2022 13:55

My colleague had some kind of seizure about a month ago. She lost consciousness whilst out walking. She was upset and confused when she regained consciousness and was taken to A & E.

She spent a few days in hospital having tests, luckily everything appeared normal. She was told at the hospital she cannot drive for the foreseeable future.

She has been getting a lift to and from work, but I saw her one evening by coincidence driving from the shops.

I asked her the next day in work how she was finding not driving to see if she would admit driving but she just said it’s ‘quite difficult’. I then said I had seen her and she admitted she had driven to the shops. She then said she didn’t tell me because she feels judged. She said the doctors have found nothing wrong with her and she feels well. I said well I think the doctors know best and she replied with, ‘the doctors can only base their decisions and diagnosis on information and test results- my test results are normal and I know how I feel’.

should I report her to the DVLA / police / manager at work?

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Teder · 22/12/2022 16:23

Those of you saying to leave it alone, this isn’t a petty crime like a person stealing a freddo from a supermarket. It’s the law for a reason. You don’t have a god given right to operate a great big hunk of machinery without the adequate safety checks.

I’ve had my licence revoked on medical grounds and I’m currently on a 3 year driving licence due to medical reasons. It’s a pain the backside and dealing with the DVLA is a nightmare but it’s for the safety and protection of all road users.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 22/12/2022 16:24

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This!

Iwannabeacrocodilehunter · 22/12/2022 16:26

I passed out once in a St John’s Ambulance first aid course. The instructor had been talking about blood. Combined with not eating in 24 hours, my BP dropped and I fainted briefly.

I underwear tests following this, but they found nothing and I was told that my fainting spell was likely due to LBP and not having eaten. I was not instructed not to drive and it’s not happened since. However, I probably did milk it a bit for works sake, being in my early 20’s at the time.

Emiliaswrath · 22/12/2022 16:26

My partner had a seizure last year, the dvla rules are very clear you are not supposed to drive for 6-12 months depending on if its your first and only seizure.
My partners drivers licence was revoked, he can reapply in the new year, yes its a pain in arse but we would far rather deal with this than him maybe have another seizure behind the wheel and possibly kill someone.

JinglingXmasbells · 22/12/2022 16:27

I have not read the whole thread but my understanding is that anyone who has a seizure needs 12 months free from any seizures before they can drive again.

BashfulClam · 22/12/2022 16:28

From experience the rule is you must be seizure free for 2 years before you can drive again, apply for a licence. So one seizure sets the clock.

Madamecastafiore · 22/12/2022 16:28

2 girls were killed outside our doctors surgery on the way home from school after being hit by someone having a seizure at the wheel. It was horrific. I'd report her in a heartbeat.

2bazookas · 22/12/2022 16:28

I do feel bad because I believe she has a disabled child and has a lot of hospital appointments etc.

THen it's even more important that she doesn't break the law, become uninsurable/pay a huge fine/ get her car confiscated/face criminal charges. You've saved her from a terrible mistake with longterm consequences.

If all is well , she will later get her licence and insurance back, no harm done.

Justhereforaibu1 · 22/12/2022 16:32

I think you should report. Trouble is she will probably know its you now that you've confronted her.

cloudsandream · 22/12/2022 16:35

So not only did you trick her to admit what she did, but you’ve sent a text literally saying you’ve reported her. Your posts and writing style comes across very goady and you’re pleased to snitch in on this woman. You wasn’t there at the appointment, you aren’t a doctor, you don’t fucking know what’s wrong with her. Maybe your concerns are in the right place but the way you’ve gone about this is absolutely dickish.

TimBoothseyes · 22/12/2022 16:39

BashfulClam · 22/12/2022 16:28

From experience the rule is you must be seizure free for 2 years before you can drive again, apply for a licence. So one seizure sets the clock.

No it's 12 months from the date of the seizure. if you have another within that 12 months then the clock is reset and it's 12 months from then.

bloodyplanes · 22/12/2022 16:39

For a start they very rarely hospitalise a person ( especially for "a few days") after just one seizure and if it was just one seizure and tests showed no reason for it then they most certainly wouldn't be deeming her unfit to drive!

Coooosd · 22/12/2022 17:01

Natty13 · 22/12/2022 15:21

Send her a link to the woman who was told not to drive following a seizure, ignored it, and killed a toddler.

For those of you who think it's unreasonable to report I sincerely hope it's your children who get killed by these selfish fuckers and not mine.

There's really no need for that

I agree that the women should be reported but you should never wish any children dead

WeepingSomnambulist · 22/12/2022 17:02

That bin lorry driver who killed 6 people in glasgow was the same. He has lost consciousness driving a bus, but managed to get away with it that time so no one knew. He told his doctor he had lost consciousness in a hot room whilst wearing warm clothes, so it was dismissed. He carried on driving, got a job driving the bin lorry and 6 people died. The doctor said that had they known he had passed out randomly rather than from heat, then he would have been told not to drive and the council said he would not have got the job.

He lied. Six people were killed. She knows she shouldn't be driving. She is doing it and lieing. People could die.

Report her to everyone you can.

Schlaar · 22/12/2022 17:06

Sugarplumfairy65 · 22/12/2022 16:23

Would you say that if it was an elderly person with advanced dementia who was driving ?

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Yes. It’s up to their family to sort out. None of your business. Sticking your nose in other peoples business is how you get your windows put out.

WeepingSomnambulist · 22/12/2022 17:08

Schlaar · 22/12/2022 17:06

Yes. It’s up to their family to sort out. None of your business. Sticking your nose in other peoples business is how you get your windows put out.

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Are you 5 years old? You sound like an absolute child. 'Dont be a grass' is a fucking stupid attitude.

SinnerBoy · 22/12/2022 17:09

Schlaar

No. Mind your own business and stop being a dick. What she does or doesn’t do is absolutely nothing to do with you.

Would you report an obviously drunk driver? Or would you go, "Ah well, they need to get home"?

HiyaCaath · 22/12/2022 17:10

Gosh, how nosy you are.

HiyaCaath · 22/12/2022 17:11

WeepingSomnambulist · 22/12/2022 17:02

That bin lorry driver who killed 6 people in glasgow was the same. He has lost consciousness driving a bus, but managed to get away with it that time so no one knew. He told his doctor he had lost consciousness in a hot room whilst wearing warm clothes, so it was dismissed. He carried on driving, got a job driving the bin lorry and 6 people died. The doctor said that had they known he had passed out randomly rather than from heat, then he would have been told not to drive and the council said he would not have got the job.

He lied. Six people were killed. She knows she shouldn't be driving. She is doing it and lieing. People could die.

Report her to everyone you can.

No-one knows anything. Have you or op read her medical records? You all sound very beaky.

sconeorscone · 22/12/2022 17:23

I live in Glasgow so am somewhat biased after the bin lorry crash.

this is not about getting her into trouble, but about protecting other people on the roads. If the doctors have deemed her unfit to drive then she’s unfit to drive. It’s a horrible situation though, and I feel very sorry for her, but she is not safe to drive.

Don’t report to her work or police. Report to the DVLA let them deal with it.

Tigger7654 · 22/12/2022 17:24

You don't really know what's going on, she's just a work colleague so I wouldn't get involved. Don't bother telling work there's nothing they can do. She's a grown up, whatever she gets up to outside of work is her business not your bloody managers (unless she drives for work vut that's not the case here).

Lotusmonster · 22/12/2022 17:25

if you report her she will 100% know it’s you. So actually you’re in a no win situation now. How about talking to her again and saying you’ve thought about what she said and you did witness her driving. Can she categorically reassure you that this is now medically permitted? Why did she feel the need to lie?

BashfulClam · 22/12/2022 17:33

@TimBoothseyes maybe it’s because my relative actually had diagnosed epilepsy he was told 2 years.

SinnerBoy · 22/12/2022 17:36

sconeorscone

this is not about getting her into trouble, but about protecting other people on the roads.

That's the point exactly, which so many are missing here.

NCNCNCYEP · 22/12/2022 17:44

To be honest… I absolutely would. I can’t bear to imagine if she, for example, is driving towards me whilst I have my 2 sons in the car. I could be driving perfectly however she could have another seizure but at the wheel and completely devastate my life or anyone else who happens to be driving near her. It’s so selfish of her. Sorry, I understand she didn’t ask for this condition or whatever it is that happened to her, however she’s really putting other people’s lives at risk