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Should I report my colleague for this?

272 replies

ZZTopp · 22/12/2022 13:55

My colleague had some kind of seizure about a month ago. She lost consciousness whilst out walking. She was upset and confused when she regained consciousness and was taken to A & E.

She spent a few days in hospital having tests, luckily everything appeared normal. She was told at the hospital she cannot drive for the foreseeable future.

She has been getting a lift to and from work, but I saw her one evening by coincidence driving from the shops.

I asked her the next day in work how she was finding not driving to see if she would admit driving but she just said it’s ‘quite difficult’. I then said I had seen her and she admitted she had driven to the shops. She then said she didn’t tell me because she feels judged. She said the doctors have found nothing wrong with her and she feels well. I said well I think the doctors know best and she replied with, ‘the doctors can only base their decisions and diagnosis on information and test results- my test results are normal and I know how I feel’.

should I report her to the DVLA / police / manager at work?

OP posts:
Red7EC · 24/12/2022 07:55

Grouchy.

Lynz78 · 24/12/2022 08:04

Sounds like she is a liar and just saying anything to keep driving ! You need to be 12 mths seizure free to drive again even if on medication. So many people get behind the wheel saying they felt fine. I think you are doing the right thing as currently she aint insured either with no licence.

Cakeandcoffeea · 24/12/2022 08:06

I have epilepsy and had a seizure in my sleep 2 years ago. I had to stop driving for a year but the paramedics also reported it to the dvla so she should soon get a letter to tell her she’s not allowed to drive until it’s all sorted and confirmed. She will likely need to stop for a year. I would never want to put anyone in harms way by continuing to drive

rosemarysalter · 24/12/2022 08:43

Do not interfere!!!!

Lapland123 · 24/12/2022 08:52

The posters who think you should do nothing clearly don’t mind if she kills a child, including theirs.

Supergirl1958 · 24/12/2022 09:04

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runningonberocca · 24/12/2022 10:45

You’ve done nothing wrong and potentially prevented her and others from serious injury or death. If she is ok to drive ( and not driving illegally) then reporting to the DVLA will have no consequence.
And she’s lying- why would she tell you it was difficult not being able to drive and then the next day it’s that you didn’t understand and she’s fine to drive.
Don’t feel guilty for reporting. Feel guilty if you don’t and she kills someone

JustLyra · 24/12/2022 10:47

So the OP is an interfering busybody who should mind her own…

Yet when the Glasgow bin lorry crash happened it was all that someone should have reported him

You can’t have a someone without people doing what the OP has done. And it doesn’t sound remotely like the colleague has been told they can drive

WTAFhappened123 · 24/12/2022 11:02

If she injured or kills someone and you didn’t say anything you’ll never forgive yourself

threatmatrix · 24/12/2022 11:14

You you fail the police exam?

maltisha1921 · 24/12/2022 11:44

You could advised her to get a second opinion, ie comformation definitely not to drive, or for a period of time. An ultimation, to get a second opinion and does not drive till then, or you will have to report it.

widowtocricket · 24/12/2022 12:54

Usually when you have had a seizure you have to wait 12 months before you can drive again. If you have another seizure that resets the 12 months. If you are seizure from for 12 months they reinstate your license.

Rather than report her I would make her aware that not only does she have no insurance if she is not medically fit to drive, but if she was to actually kill someone she would be sent to prison for manslaughter.

I had this very conversation with someone recently who is in the same circumstances & what I said really hit home & made the realise the consequences of choosing to drive.

if you then she driving again I would report her to everyone as she clearly hasn’t got the message.

DaughterofZion · 24/12/2022 13:58

YANBU
she shouldn’t be driving.

send her this from the government website.

her insurance is invalid if she has an accident

Should I report my colleague for this?
BrimFullOfAsher · 25/12/2022 08:55

I don't think OP is coming back...

I also don't think people like to RTFT. Or even just OPs posts before commenting

pocketvenuss · 25/12/2022 17:26

@Westernesse so you are exactly like the others who didn't report the Glasgow bin man. Well done 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

Littlechickenhead · 26/12/2022 14:18

pocketvenuss · 25/12/2022 17:26

@Westernesse so you are exactly like the others who didn't report the Glasgow bin man. Well done 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

Funny that this thread was started on the anniversary of the Glasgow incident. Almost as if the OP wanted to whip up some self-righteous froth.

CrazyLadie · 28/12/2022 16:55

ZZTopp · 22/12/2022 13:55

My colleague had some kind of seizure about a month ago. She lost consciousness whilst out walking. She was upset and confused when she regained consciousness and was taken to A & E.

She spent a few days in hospital having tests, luckily everything appeared normal. She was told at the hospital she cannot drive for the foreseeable future.

She has been getting a lift to and from work, but I saw her one evening by coincidence driving from the shops.

I asked her the next day in work how she was finding not driving to see if she would admit driving but she just said it’s ‘quite difficult’. I then said I had seen her and she admitted she had driven to the shops. She then said she didn’t tell me because she feels judged. She said the doctors have found nothing wrong with her and she feels well. I said well I think the doctors know best and she replied with, ‘the doctors can only base their decisions and diagnosis on information and test results- my test results are normal and I know how I feel’.

should I report her to the DVLA / police / manager at work?

Due to the fact this is such a serious situation I think ya have little choice in if you will report its just a case of who to report it too. My ex was told to hand in his driving license, then he left and went and got a job as a bus driver. I called his work and reported him, I would hve never forgiven myself if he crashed that bus and killed people

saltinesandcoffeecups · 28/12/2022 18:35

Anyone but me want to hear the lengthy details and subsequent fallout? @ZZTopp don’t leve us with a cliffhanger

catgirl1976 · 28/12/2022 18:44

God he sounds annoying. As many others have said better to just give the money to a relevant charity than tit about in the Ukraine like some sort of war tourist.

i work in HR and we wouldn’t really be interested in what he does in his spare time. We might however choose to revoke occupational sick pay were he to be injured as we have a clause about risk taking (eg we can choose not to pay if someone injured themselves off piste skiing etc). But we are probably quite unusual on having that clause and I don’t actually think we’ve ever invoked it to

catgirl1976 · 28/12/2022 18:45

Oops wrong thread

Naddd · 28/12/2022 19:25

ZZTopp · 23/12/2022 13:23

I’ve received a lengthy text from her, it appears I made a mistake by not considering the details and context. It wasn’t that black and white at all. This has resulted now in a problem between me and my colleague which will now escalate in to work. I’m embarrassed 😞

Well instead of listening to all these posters telling you to report her, perhaps you ought to have spoken to her first.

I'd b horrified if a friend reported me without talking to me first.

LonginesPrime · 28/12/2022 20:56

it appears I made a mistake by not considering the details and context. It wasn’t that black and white at all.

Do you mean that the information from your OP was incorrect and you got the facts wrong, or do you mean that she told you it was a grey area because of the context of her apparent need to drive in that instance when you spotted her?

Her life circumstances obviously won't be black and white as no-one's are, but the law is pretty clear.

Did you actually end up reporting her to the DVLA or did you just text her to say you were going to?

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