Am I stingy with my Christmas gifts?aibu?

[singlepringlee]

My friend of 16 years has 2 kids (I have none yet )
Every Christmas ,birthday I get them something
This year money isn't as available as it once was but I got them something
I got them pjs from M&S each which were £12 a pair (she said they didn't need toys ) and a selection box each.
For my friend I got her a £20 gift card for our local shopping centre and a box of chocs
And it's her sons birthday Xmas day so I got him a birthday card and put £10 in

Anyway I gave her them and she said
"Eeeee not as much as usual from you Lucy"
And laughed
Now I don't know if she was joking or being serious
Now I'm worried I was stingy
Was I ?

She was incredibly rude.
I don’t think your gifts were stingy at all.
Honestly even if they had been she would have been really rude. You just keep it to yourself. Anyone who criticises the amount spent on a gift is an insensitive arsehole.

I got nephew the same M&S PJ's and a selection pack. Xmas morning he will ring me and say thank you. My sister would never dream of being so rude. Your friend is ungracious and spiteful for making you feel bad.

That sounds like just the right level of gift value to me!

Wow she is so rude! Is she like this generally? What does she get you, as a matter of interest?

You have nothing to feel bad for at all. You could say when it's getting near to next Christmas 'let's not bother with gifts this year'. And if you can afford it give the money you would have spent on her and her family to a food bank, and/or toys to a toy collection for children from struggling families. I am sure they would appreciate it more than your ungracious friend.

Not stingy at all. That's very generous.

Your friend sounds rude but you'll know her better than us.

What a rude, entitled woman your 'friend' is!

How awful of her! I thought it sounded like you’d still bought quite a lot. Did you reply when she said that? At the very least I’d have said “I beg your pardon? What did you just say??”

They are lovely presents!

None of my friends exchange gifts for either adults or kids. I would hate for anyone to comment like that if we did.

What did she get you and your kids?

She was extremely rude. What did this paragon get you?

Why what do you normally get them?!

What does she get you considering it's just you?

That's a perfect gift!

She's really rude. You've spent the best part of £60 on her family.

I'd message her and tell her that from now on you'll do kids birthdays but not Christmas, as it's too much. I agreed that with a couple of friends this year, in advance of Christmas.

But I'd be telling her that now in the hope that she makes the connection with her shit attitude.

What a rude friend and ungrateful. I hope it was a poor taste joke and not a real criticism.

She’s extremely rude. What does she get you?

Lovely gifts, don't mind her! Neck like a jockey's bollocks to say that!

Money is tight here this year. I got my grandchildren pyjamas (Boden sale - £6 each) and a small book for Christmas and we’re not doing adults. You have been extremely generous and your friend is incredibly rude. I would tell her that you are going to stop doing gifts going forward.

Ew that is so rude. It's the thought that counts - not the presents. Wonder what reality she is living in

Those would be the last gifts she would get from me.

What a cheeky cow. Id be getting her nothing next year. It's the thought that counts

You sound very generous. She doesn’t sound very nice, I wouldn’t make a joke about how much or how little someone may have got me as I wouldn’t want to come across as ungrateful and hurt the other person.

Your friend is rude

You sound very generous. She sounds like a total cow!!! Who says that!!?? I'm a very easy going person but that would be the last time I got anything for them.

Your friend sounds like a bitch. Did she get you anything?

You're not stingy. You're kind.