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I'm in bed crying..

87 replies

leopardprincess · 22/12/2022 10:07

I had booked to take my little boy to a Santa sleigh ride day today. He hasn't been since before lockdown and is so excited.

I've come down with flu. I've never felt so unwell in my life. I hurt all over, I'm freezing, I'm being sick.

My dads having to take him now as I'm just too unwell. I'm in bed crying because I'm missing it and I feel so unwell. It's 3 days before Christmas for gods sake.

Am I a pathetic excuse for a mother?

OP posts:
booklovingmum · 22/12/2022 11:34

Some people just don't know when to dial down their inner raving bitch and show some empathy.

xogossipgirlxo · 22/12/2022 11:36

He's going, you're staying in bed getting better. Yes, you will miss it, but now you have 3 days to rest for Christmas which is also nice time with your child.

SheWoreYellow · 22/12/2022 11:36

That’s great your son still gets to go. He will have a lovely time. It is sad that you miss it. But there will be many other Christmassy things in years to come. Hope you are better for Christmas Day - you might be.

Bobbybobbins · 22/12/2022 11:41

I'm ill too and very tearful. That's great your LO can still go though

WashAsDelicates · 22/12/2022 11:46

It's not you, it's the flu. Flu is famous for making people emotional wrecks.

You're really poorly, give yourself a break. You've spoiled nothing for your ds - he'll have a magical time with grandad. As for Christmas... it just is what it is. Somebody else will have to do the work, while you are being looked after. Do not rush to get up and doing. Flu takes time to recover from.

Purplepeoniesdroppingpetals · 22/12/2022 11:46

Turn it around by thinking your son will be making a fantastic memory for him and your dad - stay in bed and rest. Look after yourself.

StopStartStop · 22/12/2022 11:49

If you've got the bug that's going round, you'll cry a lot. I did. Cried about my mum (dead eight years now), about not having a 22" waist (as I did in the early-mid seventies, like, not recently!), the women of Iran (justifiably), every bloody thing. My dd had it too, she cried at lot. How it goes.

Iamnotausername · 22/12/2022 11:55

Bless you.

Some of the tears will be the flu. Everything seems a million times worse than it is when you're ill.

I know you're disappointed but what a lovely bonding thing or your son and Dad.

Seasonofthewitch83 · 22/12/2022 11:59

I would cry too! Its ok to feel sad at missing out, but I promise he will have an amazing time. You cant help being sick!

autienotnaughty · 22/12/2022 12:00

I'm also in bed . Had to cancel work so feeling v guilty plus dh having to juggle everything

WonderingWanda · 22/12/2022 12:03

It's rubbish being ill but look on the bright side. At least he has got to go. My dd has been really unwell this week and is so fed up.

RobertsRadio · 22/12/2022 12:05

Just think what a lovely Christmas memory you are giving your son and his grandad having this special day together. I'm sorry you are ill, but I bet your Dad is loving this time with his DGS and you will have other Christmases to do special things with your son. Hope you feel better soon.

Fluffycloudland77 · 22/12/2022 12:08

Have a flu jab next year, Flu can have a long recovery time. It's a horrible illness. I hope their not expecting you to cook on christmas day this year.

PlaitBilledDuckyPuss · 22/12/2022 12:08

I agree with pps - lovely for your DS to have this memory with his granddad. As the years go by, it's likely his granddad will become less and less active with age, so it's great to make the most of this phase when he can be out and about to do things with your DC.

DaftyInTheMiddle · 22/12/2022 12:09

We’ve all had gastroenteritis for the past couple of weeks. Started with DD.. was chuffed she was back to normal on Monday so she could go to her toddler time Xmas party on Tuesday. Except Monday night I started chucking my guts up, DP has started today. We were supposed to do the last minute Xmas shopping tomorrow, we’ve got no wrapping paper, missing presents etc. No food in so hoping DP is better tomorrow so we can get the click and collect if not I’ll have to cancel (I don’t drive). I felt the same, but now I’ll be happy if come Xmas day no one is vomiting 😂 give yourself a break pet, there’s loads of Xmas parties to work yourself up about next year. Promise you’ll forget about it x

Bumpsadaisie · 22/12/2022 12:10

Be kind to yourself! You've got flu, why are you being so nasty to yourself.

(And you'll get better quicker ❤️)

Ijuststoodonlego · 22/12/2022 12:14

Don't be too hard on yourself @leopardprincess
Let his grandad help, he will have a great time. These things happen when you least need it.
You need to rest and to get better.
Let yourself have a good cry as well. You will feel a bit better by Christmas day hopefully 💐

Lochjeda · 22/12/2022 12:17

Aw this was me at the weekend. Was in bed and ill with what felt like flu and missed the panto with the kids and wanted to cry as it was rhe first one in three years. I never cry so think it was just the feeling so ill. No you aren't a pathetic excuse. Get your head down and get lots of sleep and rest and try recuperate. Hope you feel better soon.

NotMeekNotObedient · 22/12/2022 12:23

Are you a bad mum for resting when you're ill and sorting out someone else to take DS so he doesn't miss out?!

My goodness, sound like a great mum to me!

justasking111 · 22/12/2022 12:24

I'm the same three days in bed with gastroenteritis. Was supposed to have grandchildren today. We're hosting on Sunday. OH has been doing everything. So upsetting

Echobelly · 22/12/2022 12:25

Getting a virus does not make you a bad mum! No one can help when they pick something up!

Screwedupworld · 22/12/2022 12:27

OP your poorly. It’s not your fault. Your son will have a great time with his grandad and I’m he will be excited to tell you all about it later. Now, rest, enjoy the couple of child free hours to yourself and most of all be kind to yourself. X

BringMeTea · 22/12/2022 12:30

Feel better Flowers

emotionallyfragile · 22/12/2022 12:31

Me too. For a very different reason though. Heartbroken doesn't cover it.

MooseAndSquirrelLoveFlannel · 22/12/2022 12:32

I've had this horrible flu virus and I cried too, it's horrible and really debilitating. It's taken me 6 weeks to even start to feel human again.

Rest, as much as you possibly can. There will be other christmases.