Hi - ok will start with some context here.
In September a childhood friend’s mum passed away suddenly - we are not close at all now but we were close growing up so I reached out to her and sent her a message etc.
The funeral was a couple of weeks later and unfortunately I couldn’t get the time off approved from work so I was unable to attend. As I was unable to go I asked my mum to go on my behalf and she did.
Fast forward to last night and I was on a Xmas night out with my girlfriends.
The friend whose mum passed away came up to me and took me away to have a chat. She proceeded to tell me she was so disappointed I wasn’t at the funeral and I should have been there as we were good friends growing up - this conversation lasted for about 30 mins. I found this really difficult and quite upsetting, I really didn’t know what to say. To top it off while we were talking, her sister then came up to us both and she said don’t speak to her she’s not a real friend and they both left. I felt like the worst person in the world.
I wouldn’t for 1 second say we are friends now, we WERE childhood friends - I couldn’t make it to the funeral my mum went on my behalf…. AIBU?