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DS drunk as a skunk

153 replies

KissMeUnderTheMistleThrush · 18/12/2022 00:44

I can't help but be angry with him even tho it's a Xmas do! He's 23 and been to town for Xmas food and drinks. He came home at 23.30, but has been out since 17.00!
He managed to get upstairs and laid on his bed face down.
He was then violently sick, he didn't even wake up or move.
I just keep thinking what would happen if he was laid on his back and was sick? There was so much vomit I think he would have choked🥺
I managed to roll him over (6ft 4!) Ro take the sheet off And he fell on the floor where he is now snoring heavily covered in a quilt.
Is he safe to leave like this? It flippin scared me, god knows what he's been drinking. Why do they do it??

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HollyDollyChristmas · 18/12/2022 08:08

In my capacity as FPO I’d be asking him how he got home, how he got to bed, does he have any memory of getting home, getting to bed and throwing up? If he doesn’t I would let him know that he put himself in a extremely vulnerable position and he’s been lucky that he wasn’t taken advantage of.

LovingTheAbbreviations · 18/12/2022 08:11

I’d defo make DS help clear up and tell him how worried I was about him drinking so much that he was sick without even knowing. I’d be super annoyed if the vom had wrecked anything in the house but mainly glad he was in the house so I could make sure he was ok at the end of the day!

I’ve been sick a few times from overdoing it but always known I was doing it. Last time I did this to myself was Aug at a cocktail making night (why are they so delicious???!) and I haven’t drunk alcohol since! I can’t face it! I. We have a toddler so it was such a day from hell with the hangover - never again!!!

I hope he learns from his experience but I seem not to have as I’m 40 and last time was about the 5th time. It’s rare but I’ve finally learnt!!! Hope he is ok and that you have a good talk with him xx

Whyareblokesonhere · 18/12/2022 08:13

Tell him it was embarrassing when he stripped off in front of you and started dancing round naked saying he was serenading you, if that drunk he wont know if it's true or not but 99.9% of 23 year olds would be so mortified by doing that in front of their mum that he'd never get that drunk whilst at your house again

AcerbicColleague · 18/12/2022 08:20

The saddest part of this is how many people will claim that it's "normal" and "all part of growing up".
Alcohol abuse is such a scourge on our society, it is behind the bulk of crime and violence. Alcohol addiction is rampant. And your poor son sounds as though he has poisoned himself; he might well have choked on his own vomit and suffocated if you hadn't been there. There is nothing normal or funny or cool about this. It's a crap reality that we all contribute to.

gogohmm · 18/12/2022 08:23

Leave him, he'll learn his lesson by how he feels about now!

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 18/12/2022 08:28

The amount of posters who think this is normal and that OP needs to stop mothering him is quite shocking. I know of two people who died choking on vomit in their sleep after drinking too much, one was my friend's 18 year old son. It's not funny this happened to OPs son, it's fucking dangerous

cptartapp · 18/12/2022 08:28

Me and a friend did similar on vodka at 17 or 18 when she passed her driving test. We were only hanging out in her bedroom and awoke in the early hours with the tv still on and vomit everywhere. God we were ill. Had to ring in sick for our Saturday job and told her dad it was the dodgy Chinese.
Got in similar states over the next ten years but that first time was the worst.
50 and don't drink at all now.

Ringmaster27 · 18/12/2022 08:31

I did this so many times as a teen/young adult.
My mum would just lay me on my side, leave a bucket next to me, then the next morning be incredibly unsympathetic about my hangover and tell me it was my own fault 🤷🏻‍♀️😂
He will learn soon enough that feeling like death the next morning is just not worth it!

ChessieDarling · 18/12/2022 08:33

‘Tis the season. He’s (relatively) young and (still!) dumb, lots of us have been there. I would probably worry a bit too and I’d be very annoyed if he made any mess he couldn’t, or wouldn’t, clean up himself asap, but the hangover will be bad enough 🤣 so id say no more about it.

WeWereInParis · 18/12/2022 08:33

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 18/12/2022 08:28

The amount of posters who think this is normal and that OP needs to stop mothering him is quite shocking. I know of two people who died choking on vomit in their sleep after drinking too much, one was my friend's 18 year old son. It's not funny this happened to OPs son, it's fucking dangerous

I agree. Getting drunk and throwing up is one thing, but vomiting while unconscious is dangerous.

WeWereInParis · 18/12/2022 08:35

I'm also surprised at the number of people saying "we've all been there". Do you mean throwing up from alcohol, or do you mean throwing up while unconscious? I agree plenty of people have thrown up from alcohol, but have that many people really woken up in a pool of sick having thrown up without stirring?

RampantIvy · 18/12/2022 08:37

I agree @WeWereInParis

Boomboom22 · 18/12/2022 08:40

Agree, throwing up on the way home or waking up to vomit in the toilet is one thing. Being actually unconscious and vomiting without waking up is something else entirely and very very dangerous.
It might be lack of reading comprehension, I hope it is and not pp thinking this is the same!

BeautyGoesToBenidorm · 18/12/2022 08:48

My nephew once got absolutely leathered on a night out, when he was 18. He phoned my sister, making no sense at all, so she went driving around looking for him.

He'd passed out in the middle of the road - it was dark out and my sister very nearly ran him over 😬😬 She got him home and into bed, where he proceeded to projectile vomit everywhere, piss the bed, and pass out face down in a pool of vomit.

My sister was LIVID. The next day, my nephew obviously had the hangover from hell. She made him scrub the vomit (which he'd even managed to get all over the curtains) and piss up, then refused to let him have the day off work. He worked on a deli counter and apparently he was green all day, the smell of meat made him feel even worse.

He never, ever did it again. Hard lesson learned!

Brrhitscold · 18/12/2022 09:01

You are right to take this seriously www.nhs.uk/conditions/alcohol-poisoning/

I also sadly know a friend whose uncle , in his 30s, got very drunk and passed out . Vomited and choked and died on it . His mates in the flat left him alone when he passed out and didn’t do anything, hence he died as they didn’t move him to his side or check he was ok.

Hellothere54 · 18/12/2022 09:06

@CatServant2020 (love the username) agree that this sort of terminology gives skunks a bad name. Prefer to use ‘drunk as a bishop’ or ‘pissed as a fart’ but now wondering what farts have actually got drunk?

cptartapp · 18/12/2022 09:07

WeWereInParis · 18/12/2022 08:35

I'm also surprised at the number of people saying "we've all been there". Do you mean throwing up from alcohol, or do you mean throwing up while unconscious? I agree plenty of people have thrown up from alcohol, but have that many people really woken up in a pool of sick having thrown up without stirring?

Yes

Daffodilis · 18/12/2022 09:10

I bet he has been mixing his drinks to get in that state. He's likely to wake with a banging headache and feel like he's in hell. Don't pamper him and make him clean up. Hopefully this will be a good lesson.

SnowStupid · 18/12/2022 09:10

Both my sons have done this once. DS1 in such spectacular fashion I do think he's probably only alive because of the kindness of strangers who brought him home. DH stayed up with him all night, he frightened us so much.

Nether of them have ever done it again though and in fact barely drink at all now. It seems to be a lesson that needs to be learned.

Passthechocolatesplease · 18/12/2022 09:12

Been there, seen that, many moons ago with my son, I didn’t understand it then and still don’t but it’s apparently what they do for fun. I was terrified that my son would accidentally walk off a cliff or something as he was so drunk on more than one occasion.
There is hope, my son is now married with three beautiful children, we still discuss his antics and have a laugh about them now, but I certainly didn’t at the time.

Han99 · 18/12/2022 09:13

It's the unconsciously throwing up bit that's the worry. I do know of a teenager in my school who choked on his own vomit and died. As a result when I was I university I watched over housemates who were in a state like a hawk all night. I was by no means tea total and enjoyed a good night out but vomiting when unconscious isn't just 'being a lad'. Hopefully he will learn from it. I would have filmed him and shown him the state he was in the next day.

Pothoswithasparkle · 18/12/2022 09:14

This is why my family and I were always happy I moved abroad at 19. I didn't have to think about how they would react and they didn't have to worry that I came home drunk (though never like that) at 4am.

No need for what ifs, nothing happened. You should have left him in it and hea would deal with the vomit in a morning. He would never drink that much again. We all had our lesson in life about drinking, this could have been his. But now it's not as bad

Hungrycaterpillarsmummy · 18/12/2022 09:15

The puking and not waking would definitely concern me.

But at 23 I had been living on my own for 7 years.
Time for your son to grow up.

Daffodilis · 18/12/2022 09:18

AcerbicColleague · 18/12/2022 08:20

The saddest part of this is how many people will claim that it's "normal" and "all part of growing up".
Alcohol abuse is such a scourge on our society, it is behind the bulk of crime and violence. Alcohol addiction is rampant. And your poor son sounds as though he has poisoned himself; he might well have choked on his own vomit and suffocated if you hadn't been there. There is nothing normal or funny or cool about this. It's a crap reality that we all contribute to.

I agree, I grew up in a culture of drinking and violence. If you didn't drink you were considered wierd. I would get hammered with them from the age of 12. I remember realising one day that it all tasted disgusting really. So lucky it didn't become an addiction. Been tea total since I was 25 around the time I cut contact with most of my family. 52 now and thankfully my sons are the same.

Redebs · 18/12/2022 09:19

AcerbicColleague · 18/12/2022 08:20

The saddest part of this is how many people will claim that it's "normal" and "all part of growing up".
Alcohol abuse is such a scourge on our society, it is behind the bulk of crime and violence. Alcohol addiction is rampant. And your poor son sounds as though he has poisoned himself; he might well have choked on his own vomit and suffocated if you hadn't been there. There is nothing normal or funny or cool about this. It's a crap reality that we all contribute to.

Yes, definitely
If he'd come home off his head on a different drug, comments wouldn't be so complacent.

People do die of alcohol poisoning- often surrounded by friends or family who think it's just normal to binge.
It's a horrible, dangerous drug. We need to wise up.