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DS drunk as a skunk

153 replies

KissMeUnderTheMistleThrush · 18/12/2022 00:44

I can't help but be angry with him even tho it's a Xmas do! He's 23 and been to town for Xmas food and drinks. He came home at 23.30, but has been out since 17.00!
He managed to get upstairs and laid on his bed face down.
He was then violently sick, he didn't even wake up or move.
I just keep thinking what would happen if he was laid on his back and was sick? There was so much vomit I think he would have choked🥺
I managed to roll him over (6ft 4!) Ro take the sheet off And he fell on the floor where he is now snoring heavily covered in a quilt.
Is he safe to leave like this? It flippin scared me, god knows what he's been drinking. Why do they do it??

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Blanketpolicy · 18/12/2022 01:52

If he Is so out of it he is not moving while vomitting I would monitor him closely tonight to ensure he stays in the recovery position and read him the riot at tomorrow.

We have all been there, vomitting after drinking, but not moving would concern me enough to stay up and watch him.

stitchinguru · 18/12/2022 03:24

Loving @Prettybutdumb’s contribution!
Earned that username, for sure. 😂

RambamThankyouMam · 18/12/2022 04:47

SunshineLoving · 18/12/2022 00:47

It might be an unpopular opinion on here but I don't see anything wrong with your DP coming home drunk. Everyone is entitled to a bit of fun and indulgence now and again.

However, your DP has definitely pushed it too far. The repeated vomiting would definitely concern and annoy me too. I can only suggest you keep him on his side and keep an eye on him. Hopefully the outcome of his drinking will stop him drinking so much again.

Can you read? It's her son.

TheOinkySplit · 18/12/2022 06:05

Hope he's ok and you managed some sleep. It's so scary and dangerous to not wake up if you're being sick. He is 23 but id be worried about anyone being that drunk. When I was 18 i woke up to be sick and ruined my prized accessorize handbag using it as a sick bowl lol.

KalvinPhillipsBoots · 18/12/2022 06:10

Hood you had an ok night with him OP, keep him on his side and keep his airway clear.

MaverickSnoopy · 18/12/2022 06:19

I think it's fine, he's young and it's Christmas, he was even back quite early. I get the sick thing and agree to put him in the recovery position - although it's now morning, but if it ever happens again. I know someone who died due to choking on their vomit in their sleep, very scary. Definitely speak to him about the vomiting in sleep aspect.

Witsendwilly · 18/12/2022 06:27

At 23 I would expect him to be out by lunchtime in the pub to watch the World Cup Final 😂

He will have been in the same state as thousands of others this weekend. The same will happen all over the county next weekend and most nights for the next couple of weeks until New Year.

No drama. Make him clean it up and I have no issue with anyone getting as drunk as they want as long as they don’t abuse or harm anyone else.

Christmas work dos do seem to be the worst for some reason?

girlmom21 · 18/12/2022 06:37

He sounds like an absolute lightweight OP. You'll be able to take the piss out of him for this for years so come! Grin

Happtimescoming · 18/12/2022 06:43

Haha in my 20’s I did this many times unfortunately 🙈. My parents never knew though as I didn’t live with them. Put it down to all part of a learning experience, he won’t want to get that drunk again and at least he made it home and you are around to look after him?

MrsDoyle351 · 18/12/2022 06:54

Who the fuck is posting that the OP is being unreasonable?? The mind boggles.

MrsDoyle351 · 18/12/2022 06:57

HangingOver · 18/12/2022 00:46

I mean...I think nearly everyone has done this at some point in their twenties! He'll feel rotten tomorrow.

I never have been so pissed that I've vomited everywhere and carried on snoring in my 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s,

I have had some hideous hangovers though - one that lasted 3 days.

iloveeverykindofcat · 18/12/2022 07:09

If a person vomits copiously and doesn't wake up, isn't that more like unconscious than asleep? Yes, I'm a huge killjoy when it comes to alcohol. Just because its common for UK men in their twenties doesn't mean its safe. Yes OP, if you were not there, he could have choked and asphyixated. That is precisely how Stuart Cable from the Stereophonics died, and AFAIK he never identified himself as "an alcoholic". I would have this conversation with your son in the morning.

I'm sure I'll be called an overreacting killjoy for this post, and people will tell me that "everyone does it when they're young". Yes, I know. That is UK drinking culture. I don't think its okay, and I can't be convinced its okay. Someone I was close to was unlucky.

ClarathecrosseyedLioness · 18/12/2022 07:27

@iloveeverykindofcat I'm sure I'll be called an overreacting killjoy for this post, and people will tell me that "everyone does it when they're young". Yes, I know. That is UK drinking culture. I don't think its okay, and I can't be convinced its okay. Someone I was close to was unlucky.

I agree, it's never OK.
A divorced dad I knew choked on his own vomit and died on his own,at home of asphyxia.
He wasn't found until the next day when his daughter 12 called round.
He was 40+ so not a silly teenager.
It can happen to anyone.

Witsendwilly · 18/12/2022 07:28

iloveeverykindofcat · 18/12/2022 07:09

If a person vomits copiously and doesn't wake up, isn't that more like unconscious than asleep? Yes, I'm a huge killjoy when it comes to alcohol. Just because its common for UK men in their twenties doesn't mean its safe. Yes OP, if you were not there, he could have choked and asphyixated. That is precisely how Stuart Cable from the Stereophonics died, and AFAIK he never identified himself as "an alcoholic". I would have this conversation with your son in the morning.

I'm sure I'll be called an overreacting killjoy for this post, and people will tell me that "everyone does it when they're young". Yes, I know. That is UK drinking culture. I don't think its okay, and I can't be convinced its okay. Someone I was close to was unlucky.

UK men????

It’s just as common for UK women you know 🙄. In my own experience it’s more common in women than men actually

Choconut · 18/12/2022 07:34

Haha I remember clearly doing this at a similar age, told my mum to fuck off when she was trying to clean it all up as well. I wasn't popular the next day.

iloveeverykindofcat · 18/12/2022 07:34

@Witsendwilly Yes, fair point. In my own experience its more common to men, but of course that's not necessarily representative of the general population. I take your point.

Witsendwilly · 18/12/2022 07:45

Choconut · 18/12/2022 07:34

Haha I remember clearly doing this at a similar age, told my mum to fuck off when she was trying to clean it all up as well. I wasn't popular the next day.

Fair enough.

Also why make reference to someone not declaring themselves as “an alcoholic” in reference to someone who choked, in a thread about someone who had too much to drink at a Christmas work do.

Any inference that someone vomiting after a Christmas do has alcohol issues is frankly a bit bizarre and I would suggest that your views are possibly quite extreme as a result of your own personal misfortune as a result of someone’s drinking.

Many of us have drunk to oblivion once or more than once but don’t have issues with alcohol

Bayleaf25 · 18/12/2022 07:51

I think my DS (20) might have been out with him 😱😱😂. To be fair DS did make it to the bathroom though. Yes, have to remind myself we’ve all been there.

rainyskylight · 18/12/2022 07:55

I’m finding these responses really weird.
it’s extremely dangerous to vomit whilst unconscious. People die this way. He’s also put OP in the terrible situation of having to put him in the recovery position, and worry all night.
OP - tomorrow, have a sit down with him, explain how dangerous it was, how much worried you were, and also just how concerning it is that he’s drink himself into that condition. Was he drinking into oblivion because he was upset, or did he just get carried away? Ask him this. Make him have to clean up the rest of the vomit, do not clean up after him. Ultimately, you’re glad that he’s ok, but the situation was not, and he needs to learn from it.

CatServant2020 · 18/12/2022 07:55

I know it's not the point of the thread but has anyone ever seen a drunk skunk ?

Are they known as the heaviest drinkers in the animal kingdom or are other animals known for their heavy drinking, it makes me wonder about wonkey donkeys. Also I heard of animals getting drunk on fermented apples and the like 😀

Seriously OP hopefully a bad hangover will have taught your son a lesson and your entitled to have a conversation with him about the dangers of getting that drunk. Leave him to clear up up the mess he created.

Anotherbloomingchristmas · 18/12/2022 08:02

Ds did this around 20. Dh put him on his side and we took turns to check on him all night.
In the morning ds was up and perfectly fine like nothing had happened, that annoyed me more than the vomiting. 😅

RampantIvy · 18/12/2022 08:04

I mean...I think nearly everyone has done this at some point in their twenties!

I mean most people I know who have drunk themselves sick have tended to be awake and leaning over the loo or a bowl, not unconscious/asleep and in bed.

It's no wonder Brits have a reputation for being uncontrollable drunks. Don't get me wrong, I like a drink or three, and have been drunk several times in my youth, but not so dangerously drunk that I have puked up in bed in my sleep.

A bit disappointed that posters are minimising the potential dangers of being this drunk.

UniversalAunt · 18/12/2022 08:05

@KissMeUnderTheMistleThrush hopefully before you went to work, you
pulled back the curtains, threw the windows open to let in lots of lovely fresh air, put on some of his fave music on loud.

Let him know how much you appreciated him coming home in the early hours. After all, every mother just yearns to clear up the copious vomit of her adult son & make sure that he sleeps safely. You woke him up to make sure that he was OK before you left for work.

He’ll thank you for it. One day.

Zanatdy · 18/12/2022 08:07

It happens, not great. But he’s young and reckless

stitchinguru · 18/12/2022 08:07

Sorry @Prettybutdumb I meant @SunshineLoving .
That went well!