Please help me decide if DD should go to school

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DD (5) was at home yesterday because she had a fever the day before. Yesterday her fever only went up to 37.5. In the night she was in the toilet gagging but was not sick.

her little sister has been having very high temperature (39-40) since Monday with vomiting and diarrhoea that started after a few days of fever. And there’s been this sickness bug going around at school. So I am worried she will be vomiting later if I send her to school, but her current symptoms are not bad.

her attendance was really bad last year but she’s been sick just a few days this year.

Please keep her home!

YABU- send her to school
YANBU - keep her home

Please please please keep her home please. You'll spread it, ruin many Xmas and the NHS is already broken. It's the last day of term she will miss nothing. please

I'd see how she feels, she may be tired if she's been up all night. My kids are high school age so I'd send them in but at 5 I'd be more likely to keep her off.

Keep her at home, today is the last day isn’t it? Don’t risk her being unwell at school or making anyone else unwell over Christmas. Poor attendance last year (presumably genuine) doesn’t impact on sickness this year.

Thanks for the replies, it’s just the attendance I am worried about as the school gave us so much trouble for it last year, where she had genuinely been sick.

Keep her home.
She needs rest so her immune system can see it off properly.
Other kids need to not catch it.
Tlc and vitamin c+zinc (immune system boost) is what she needs.

YANBU. No body wants poorly kids over Christmas. Keep her home and get them both better. It sounds like she may be brewing a bug please don't spread it to the other kids who may be at risk of not seeing vulnerable family members if even a little ill..

It's not the last day of term here. I also doubt many Christmases will be ruined by a potential sickness bug which is likely to be well over within 9 days and almost certainly won't need the NHS.

keep her home she’s clearly unwell 😒

She still has school Monday and Tuesday.

I’d keep her home. It doesn’t sound like she’s fully better yet.

And last year’s attendance and this year’s attendance are two separate things, the attendance percentages reset at the start of each school year.

They will if you give it someone else, who gets it 48 hours later, who gives it to someone else who gets it 48 hours later etc....that's how stomach viruses work. They have a R number(transmission rate) of 10 people. And yes you would not believe how many people access the NHS with a child's tummy bug.

Well should we all stay in forever in case we catch something? People who access the NHS inappropriately are the issue, that's not OP's responsibility.

I hate that our school system makes it so hard to keep unwell children home. She needs to be at home.

Thank you, I think I will email the school to say she’s still sick. She went to bed at 18 last night but she was awake a lot in the night. I know if I was her I would rather stay at home, but just don’t want the school calling us again for bad attendance. They don’t look at the reasons why, they just look at the numbers.

I agree with poster that they monitor attendance annually so last year doesn't count anymore. Get her well so she can go back next week x

Agree and glad you are keeping her home.
I work in a primary and we are going on til next Wednesday. Lots of staff and child illness at the moment.
Children are being sent in unwell and horrible for them in this cold weather.

Who cares what the school says. She's poorly.

It's incredibly selfish to send a child in to school who is suffering the same symptoms her sibling did before she came down with D&V.

Keep her home. If she vomits in school, not only will the TA have to clean it up and probably catch it, there’s a good chance her peers will also catch it, meaning poorly for Xmas (either them or their family by that point).

I’d keep her home and assuming you’re home with them, have a duvet day watching Christmassy movies etc. She’s 5, it’s Friday and they break up soon anyway so it’s mostly going to be winding down activities.

But it is OP's responsibility to stop the bug spreading when it's already in her household.

keep her off you will know by Monday if it is a bug but nobody wants to be ill over the holidays. As for the school just stand your ground, your child is ill they have no say in it, kids get sick some more than others! All they are worried about is their numbers its really annoying, if they weren't such dicks about it there would probably be less sickness going round because people would feel less pressure to send their kids back before they were ready!

Schools have no control over those ridiculous attendance letters. Some idiot in a suit decided they were a good idea.

Children and staff are dropping like flies and there is no provision for poorly children . Those TA’s that mumsnet assign everything to, they don’t exist so if you’re poorly in my school there is NO ONE to look after you. This means you’re sitting outside the heads office. It’s bloody miserable.

I NEVER send mine in poorly.