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Please help me decide if DD should go to school

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LongStoryShorty · 16/12/2022 05:57

DD (5) was at home yesterday because she had a fever the day before. Yesterday her fever only went up to 37.5. In the night she was in the toilet gagging but was not sick.

her little sister has been having very high temperature (39-40) since Monday with vomiting and diarrhoea that started after a few days of fever. And there’s been this sickness bug going around at school. So I am worried she will be vomiting later if I send her to school, but her current symptoms are not bad.

her attendance was really bad last year but she’s been sick just a few days this year.

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BogRollBOGOF · 16/12/2022 06:56

Keep her off, she's not right and could easily go downhill and share it around.

DS's attendance is through the floor at the moment as he's had 3 rounds of coldy-fluy illness that have wiped him out for days. It's frustrating, but fortunately school haven't chased him up over unrealistic arbitary targets and it would do no one any favours sending him in in that state.

Cwcwbird · 16/12/2022 07:01

I agree with keeping her off too, she's still so little, her attendance will improve as she gets bigger and her immune system strengthens I'm sure.

As an aside, it's not last day of term until NEXT Friday here. My kids are fuming!

Tonsiltrouble · 16/12/2022 07:01

This is the reason my child is still off school post tonsillectomy despite the fact he could have gone back by now. His wound is mostly but not completely healed but there is so much illness around and so much bad decision making re attendance that we have decided (with school support) that he’s better riding it out, especially as he’s had more than a fortnight not seeing other children now.

kids and teachers are apparently dropping like flies and I’m worried that he would be more vulnerable to invasive strep, or vomming would be awful with a still sore throat.

please keep your child at home, she’s not better yet.

Palmtree9 · 16/12/2022 07:03

As a teacher, I'd be saying please keep her home today! It's presumably the last day before the Xmas hols, she's unwell as it her sister, I wouldn't want to catch a d and v bug now

Joshanddonna · 16/12/2022 07:05

She obviously can't go to school. Why on earth are you asking us. It's obvious

ThaiDye · 16/12/2022 07:17

@CeeceeBloomingdale so you think it's ok to go about knowingly spreading bugs? What has become of society that this is considered acceptable?

SunThroughTheCloudsAt6am · 16/12/2022 07:25

Our school has sent around a letter virtually begging people to just keep their kids off if they are sick, and for 48 hours after last episode. Theres a vomiting bug going round (right after the flu) and it's been spreading like wildfire. I currently have my youngest off with it since Wednesday, and I'm praying I don't get it myself!

CeeceeBloomingdale · 16/12/2022 07:34

Can't be bothered to tag everyone but my last response was replying to @Botox30k@Botox30k

AdaColeman · 16/12/2022 07:36

She sounds too poorly to go to school. Keep her at home so she can get some rest.
Hopefully they will both be well enough to enjoy the run up to Christmas next week.

I do think all fuss and hassle about school attendance has got out of hand.

Underroad · 16/12/2022 07:36

Please don’t send her in. She’s clearly unwell and she’s only little - she needs her mum and a blanket and to

CeeceeBloomingdale · 16/12/2022 07:36

Posted too soon. I'm not suggesting sending a sick child to school. I'm saying it's not OP's responsibility to keep her child at home forever in case others abuse the NHS.

However school will not advocate keeping a well child off incase they have something their sibling had.

Underroad · 16/12/2022 07:36

and to stay warm at home. Plus nobody else wants to catch a nasty bug.

Beezknees · 16/12/2022 07:38

Palmtree9 · 16/12/2022 07:03

As a teacher, I'd be saying please keep her home today! It's presumably the last day before the Xmas hols, she's unwell as it her sister, I wouldn't want to catch a d and v bug now

Schools here in Derbyshire don't break up until next Thursday! It's not the last day of term everywhere. There's a lot of variation around the country.

I'd keep her home though op.

stayathomer · 16/12/2022 07:39

It's not the last day of term here. I also doubt many Christmases will be ruined by a potential sickness bug which is likely to be well over within 9 days and almost certainly won't need the NHS.
Eh as someone up at 430 the other morning cleaning puke off a mattress and trying to soothe a crying 10 year old who had gotten so sick his throat was burning I beg to differ! Do you like having a bug?!?!

Thisisconfusing · 16/12/2022 07:42

Primary School governor here of many years experience - yes children need to be in school learning & there is a real focus on attendance but that doesn’t extend to unwell children . I would say that your daughter is simply not quite well enough to be in school right now . I hope she and her sibling get well soon. ( Also as a parent I would not send her in either ) .

OhChristmasTreeOhChristmasTreeFaLaLa · 16/12/2022 07:48

Seriously you can't make a judgment based on what you've written?

"In the night she was in the toilet gagging but was not sick."

So she was awake and feeling unwell during the night (she'll be shattered) and chances are she'll be vomming later. Why inflict that on other people. Seriously keep her off.

Both my children have had this virus going round and have been v unwell, they returned yesterday but still aren't right so are off again. They arent quite dying ill, but not well enough to go. End of term they are doing fun stuff, I don't feel at all bad keeping them off, my threshold for a day off is pretty high too.

FestiveAF · 16/12/2022 07:58

As a teacher please keep her home. Her immune system will be low and there are so many diseases around at the moment she’ll just catch something else!

ifonly4 · 16/12/2022 08:00

I doubt you'll get a reply as teacher will be busy, but you could message teacher asking if there's anything you can work on with DD over the weekend if she seems better - that way you've appeared willing to try and support her education.

CeeceeBloomingdale · 16/12/2022 08:00

stayathomer · 16/12/2022 07:39

It's not the last day of term here. I also doubt many Christmases will be ruined by a potential sickness bug which is likely to be well over within 9 days and almost certainly won't need the NHS.
Eh as someone up at 430 the other morning cleaning puke off a mattress and trying to soothe a crying 10 year old who had gotten so sick his throat was burning I beg to differ! Do you like having a bug?!?!

Yeah I love it 🙄. Don't be ridiculous.

I was replying to the dramatic PP who said Christmas would be ruined for many and the NHS was broken due to people misusing it so OP should keep her child home.

I said if she's ill keep her off. Nowhere at all did I suggest sending in a vomiting child. But to be clear this child hasn't vomited.

titanicteaspoons · 16/12/2022 08:03

There will always be parents who send their kids in ill, unconcerned about the consequences of passing on illness, or the fact their child is poorly and better off at home.

However, for those who wish to keep their children at home because it’s the right thing to do both for child and society, but are worried about attendance, please, for the love of God, just keep them at home.

My DC has always been susceptible to everything going and I’ve always felt that pressure of attendance versus recovery. I knowingly sent her in earlier in the year when covid was tearing through the class. She was one of the last to catch it. It hit her immune system so badly that fast forward to now, she has long covid ME and cannot attend school at all.

Obviously this is an extreme example, and we could not have avoided covid indefinitely, but it just goes to show how pointless their bloody attendance letters are, as those writing them don’t give a shit about our your child or my child.

Keep them off, get them well and let their immune system recover for the next round of bugs.

Choccolatte · 16/12/2022 08:05

Why worry about attendance? She is 5 years old. What is going to happen?

stonebrambleboy · 16/12/2022 08:07

girlmom21 · 16/12/2022 06:39

Who cares what the school says. She's poorly.

This.

Fleurdaisy · 16/12/2022 08:08

Please keep her home. As well as spreading it she’ll not feel 100%.
Your response to any criticism from the school could be I keep my daughter home when she is ill to prevent spread of infection and care for her. End of.

underneaththeash · 16/12/2022 08:24

Of of our schools sent a letter to everyone after half term reminding us of the importance of good attendance etc....... 2 weeks ago, they sent out another begging us not to send in any child with a cough, sore throat, temperature, rash or respiratory illness! Multiple horrible viruses seemed to run through school and all the poor teachers are really unwell

Prescottdanni123 · 16/12/2022 08:28

If you say that she has been sick, they won't want her in because guidelines say to keep them off for 48 hours afterwards.

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