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Would you find this bad manners?

36 replies

Baobuns · 14/12/2022 20:43

If a friend asked you to meet somewhere (to help her with something) and you arranged to meet at 2pm. It takes you an hour to get there. Then at 1:40pm she tells you she'll be there at about 5pm now as she's ended up meeting a friend.
Surely this is incredibly rude? So I've got there 3 hours early for nothing? If she had an emergency or traffic etc. It's different

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PearlclutchersInc · 14/12/2022 20:44

Personally, I'd go home and leave her to it. Downright ignorant.

Milesty1 · 14/12/2022 20:45

Taking the absolute piss. Talking of piss, mine would be boiling… As you say, it would only be understandable if an emergency had happened.

Scoobydoobydoobydoo0987 · 14/12/2022 20:45

It's selfish and thoughtless and she'd be getting no help from me!

Notimeforaname · 14/12/2022 20:46

Yeah I hope you didn't wait around for the 3 hours! Did you tell her how this wasn't acceptable or did you go along with it ?

StormInaDcup99 · 14/12/2022 20:47

Extremely rude, selfish and entitled

SnarkyBag · 14/12/2022 20:47

Very rude but you’d be a mug to hang around for 3 hours

Original poster
Baobuns · 14/12/2022 20:47

I told her it was unacceptable and she didn't really seem to understand why and said that I needed to chill out a bit? I am distancing myself now anyway

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Jurassicparkinajug · 14/12/2022 20:47

Yes very very rude and not even a good excuse. She sounds selfish

Whatifthegrassisblue · 14/12/2022 20:47

Turn around and go back home. Rude!

onepieceoflollipop · 14/12/2022 20:49

Would she have ‘chilled’ if it had been the other way round?
thoughtless and careless she thinks her time is much more important than yours.

SerenaTee · 14/12/2022 20:49

I hope you didn’t wait around. Very rude of your friend.

GonnaGetGoingReturns · 14/12/2022 20:49

Yep rude bitch. She’s basically saying your time is worth nothing to her.

I had this with an ex friend a few years back. I trekked to the other side of London and she was almost always late, by hours sometimes and once didn’t turn up at all. She did have a weed (hash) addiction so whether she was too stoned I’ve got no idea. Her excuses were very weak and flimsy too.

gamerchick · 14/12/2022 20:52

You didn't wait for her did you?

Original poster
Baobuns · 14/12/2022 20:53

Glad to hear I wasn't being too sensitive

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thistimelastweek · 14/12/2022 20:56

Bad manners is walking through the door in front of someone else.

What she did was not the act of friend or anyone with consideration for other people.

Georgeskitchen · 14/12/2022 20:56

I would be absolutely furious and would go straight home and block the CF

MichelleScarn · 14/12/2022 20:57

Please say you didn't wait about!!

Wishimaywishimight · 14/12/2022 21:00

How could you possibly think you were being "too sensitive"?

If you waited around for 3 hours you would be a complete mug.

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 14/12/2022 21:02

She a cheeky cow. Outrageous behaviour.

FTY765 · 14/12/2022 21:10

I hope you didn't wait till 5!
Very rude. It would probably be the last time I would go out of my way to help her.

DucklingDaisy · 14/12/2022 21:10

Beyond rude, making it clear she thinks you and your time are worthless. Totally outrageous behaviour

LimeTwists · 14/12/2022 21:16

I quite honestly would turn round and go home. I’m not even kidding. Absolutely selfish.

zurala · 14/12/2022 21:17

I hope that you said you'd meet her at 5 and then went home and left her to it.

00100001 · 14/12/2022 21:18

Oh wow, that's fucking shit.

And 100% YANBU!

BCBird · 14/12/2022 21:22

I would not have waited. Not like she was delayed due to an emergency. Leave her to sort her stuff by herself.

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