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Is he gay?

30 replies

Bebenama · 14/12/2022 03:39

my Ex I break up with him over a week now.
he is very conscious with his appearance eye brows done and bit of foundation to hide marks he said he used to use mascara. Is always the way he talk sometimes I really have a gut instinct he may be gay. He says gays guys will try to chat him up when his out and he can tell they fancy him. I said it strange that gay guys will chat you up, why do they think you are Gay? I then ask him, are you gay? He denied it but more dismissive about the conversation saying I can’t believe what you saying and went out, came back home with my favourite take away as if to keep me quiet. I guess I will never know.

OP posts:
margatino · 14/12/2022 03:52

I know how to get hubby to get me my favourite takeaway now

LeopardPrintTits · 14/12/2022 04:42

If he’s your ex, surely it’s none of your business now?

steff13 · 14/12/2022 05:52

He's an ex so it doesn't matter. My guess is probably not.

Mumma · 14/12/2022 06:03

Hes only gay if he is attracted to men.... if they are attracted to him, that lotterally means nothing.

Constantly asking him if he is gay is uncalled for and frankly none of your business!

ohioriver · 14/12/2022 06:05

Why does it matter?

panko · 14/12/2022 06:08

Wow

pinkfondu · 14/12/2022 06:08

What was the takeaway?

KangarooKenny · 14/12/2022 06:37

Did he get himself a takeaway too ?

Bournetilly · 14/12/2022 07:06

Sounds like he is

Proudboomer · 14/12/2022 07:11

So a man who looks after himself and his skin has to be gay?
And even if he is it is literally none of your business as he is not your boyfriend.
But I will take a wild guess that it was him that did the dumping.

whattodo1975 · 14/12/2022 07:14

What was he like in bed?

twinmum2022 · 14/12/2022 07:18

Did you break up with him because you thought he was gay or other reasons?

I suppose there's a chance he might be gay. Why does it bother you now though?

What takeaway did he bring home?

Loics · 14/12/2022 07:19

Did he have takeaway too?

Mummadeze · 14/12/2022 07:22

He could be attracted to men and women.

AltheaVestr1t · 14/12/2022 07:46

Wears foundation = must be gay?

Wonnle · 14/12/2022 08:48

my Ex i break up ?

Choconut · 14/12/2022 10:21

It wouldn't surprise me, a lot of men are in denial.

housemaus · 14/12/2022 10:32

If you got hit on by a lesbian, would that mean you were a lesbian? Weird post, OP.

user1471457751 · 14/12/2022 10:33

Sounds like he's had a lucky escape.

toffeecrisps · 14/12/2022 10:37
  1. Wearing foundation and doing your eyebrows does not make someone gay.
  2. He's your ex so not really your business anymore.
Circumferences · 14/12/2022 10:38

How on earth are anonymous people on the internet supposed to know if someone is gay from this description?
Have you seen him shagging a man? No? Then no one knows.

Alexandernevermind · 14/12/2022 10:41

I fancy a Chinese tonight .. phoning dh now.

KrisAkabusi · 14/12/2022 10:42

toffeecrisps · 14/12/2022 10:37

  1. Wearing foundation and doing your eyebrows does not make someone gay.
  2. He's your ex so not really your business anymore.

But he bought a takeaway as well! That confirms it!!

Nogbreaks · 14/12/2022 10:45

I’m gay, I know dozens and dozens of gay men. Not one of them wears any kind of make up.
Getting your eyebrows done doesn’t make you gay - having sex with men if you’re a man, or women if you’re a woman is a better indicator, IMHO…

InSummertime · 14/12/2022 10:49

Choconut · 14/12/2022 10:21

It wouldn't surprise me, a lot of men are in denial.

Some are. I have a friend (male) who identifies at heterosexual when it a relationship with a woman and says he is experimenting when no in relationship with a women - he doesn’t have relationship with men just one night stands.

I know 8 men and women that have divorced from being married with children and now in a relationship with someone the same sex despite all saying their were heterosexual before.

society dictates a norm, some people don’t feel comfortable with that or experiment or question it when younger, some change as they get older. I don’t think I’m heterosexual 100% and maybe if I met the ‘right’ woman I would be gay.

but what the hell does it matter!
trousers doesn’t make a woman gay or makeup

what matters is prejudice and judgements

don’t question someone like the op has!

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