AIBU to be irritated by anonymous notes from neighbour?

[TinfoilTwat]

I live in the suburbs. About 6 gardens back onto ours, and another 6 on the cul-de-sac. Every once in a while I get a spidery handwritten note in my letterbox, "Dear Neighbour..." and it goes on to tell me that I have an invasive species of plant growing in one of my trees and explains how and why I should remove it, signed "Your Neighbour"

Now I don't mind being told I have an invasive species in my garden and I quite happily removed it. But for some reason it really pisses me off that it's done anonymously. Why not just say "From Bob and Barbara at number 7"??

I got another one today, "Dear Neighbour... I'm sorry to tell you that your invasive plant has come back..." and apparently I need to dig it out at the root this time. "Signed, Your Neighbour".

Also they get the name of the plant wrong - they say Milkweed when they mean Mothweed.

AIBU to feel annoyed by these anonymous notes?

Should probably say, AIBU to be annoyed by the anonymous nature of the notes, rather than the notes themselves?

I would probably find it irritating too, but I lots of people are nervous about saying anything negative to neighbours and it’s probably not something that’s worth spending your energy getting worked up over. It doesn’t really make any difference to your life whether they sign their name or not, does it?

YANBU this would really wind me up too.It's Such an effort for the anonymous neighbour to go too...?
The instructions on how to get rid I would find both creepy and patronising!
Of course it makes a difference to OPs life... As she is getting hand scrawled instructions posted by a peeping tom ...
Odd behaviour from a neighbour with too much time on their hands making their problems her problem 🤯!
Get a ring doorbell and go full on Sherlock 🧐

I’m itching to know what plant it is!

I hope it's not really milkweed as it would be sad I'd she dug that up!

Is it an invasive invasive plant, like will it just live happily in your garden or will it spread, like Japanese knotweed? If its likely to affect everyone's gardens if you don't keep it under control then I do understand their need to "complain" but I don't see the need to do it anonymously. Unless they're reserving the option of reporting it if you don't control it, you can report Japanese knotweed I believe.

The letters being signed wouldn’t stop them being patronising. Wouldn’t mean they had looked in her garden less (think you may need to go and look up the definition of “peeping Tom”).

Sure, OP could spend her money on a Ring doorbell and waste hours of her life trying to work out who the coward is, but it will have had a much bigger impact on her life if she does that than if she just rolls her eyes and accepts that the general population includes some people with less backbone and community mindedness than a jellyfish and that one or two of them are bound to be neighbours at some point and her life will be better if she doesn’t give this any more of her attention than she can help.

Do you know which neighbour it is? I’d be tempted to work it out and stick a note through their door ‘Dear neighbour, you got the species wrong.’

I really hate anonymous notes. Typically they’re rudely delivered complaints, but in this case there’s no reason for it. Maybe you should put a sign in your yard that says ANONYMOUS ADVICE WILL BE IGNORED.

Anonymously, of course. If you put an anonymous note in ALL your neighbours’ boxes your guaranteed to get the right one. 😂

Is it some type of vine they can see?
I'm curious how they know unless they are snooping close up in everyone's gardens.

print out a sponsor sheet-send kids in invasive distance.pay kids whatever £ comes too.do handwritey miss marples...

Send all the neighbours Christmas cards from Tinfoil at no.X. Wait for them to send you one and match up the handwriting: bingo!

Yes very annoying and weird I’d ask everyone I saw if it was them or any idea!! How strange of them!

It'll be a Mumsnetter. There are threads daily with people composing anonymous notes about mild inoffensive things.

YANBU.

Just make sure there isn't any of the plant anywhere outside your own boundaries.

If it's in your garden then it's up to you just ignore them and wind them up

They are only trying to be helpful and probably scared of confrontation

Widely advised on MN!

My neighbor has an invasive creeping vine that drops new vines and cba keeping it in check so we're constantly cutting it back & digging out the new shoots.

Considering the rude response I got from my other neighbour about his planting of a huge invasive tree on our property border, which impacts our house slab & we have to cut back, being 'not his problem' we don't bother with notes.

DH poisoned the vine bits on our property nstead. Neighbour hadn't noticed but I'm thoroughly sick of cutting back neighbours trees/shrubs/invasive vines.

Just take care of it & you won't have any more issues.

Id do this!

Perhaps it’s more than one neighbour.

Leave a laminated note on your front door. 'Dear anonymous neighbour, if you're planning on putting yet another letter through my letterbox please don't, knock instead and I'll happily give you a fork to dig out the plant yourself'

Maybe it’s several neighbours hanging together to bully you in written form.

What's mothweed? Are you in NZealand