Friend ruining nights out - Christmas party coming up

[Kylerd]

I'm friends with a group of eight others. Sometimes we go out as a group, sometimes we invite all of our partners. Everyone is lovely and on nights out, we're all out to have fun... but there's one that takes it too far. She can be flirty with men (married or not) while sober but her behaviour on nights out is getting worse each time. No-one else in our group has mentioned it but I can see their reactions and sometimes they've left to go home straight after she has behaved a certain way. None of us are prudes but it's getting a bit much.

To give some examples, she said to one of the married men (she's also married) that he doesn't know what she can do in bed and how she's wild. This was at a party at his home while his wife was nearby. Another time she kept talking out of nowhere about how she had had breast implants years ago, stood up and started touching her boobs and running her hands all over while making sure everyone was looking.

Do I say something or just do my best to ignore? She's an adult and can do what she likes obviously but it's making me dread our Christmas night out. It's slightly less bad when her husband is there but he's usually too drunk to notice.

Sadly it happens. All too often

I'd agree that given the length of time this woman has been part of the group and that they experience her behaviour on a regular basis and say and do nothing, it's highly unlikely they're anywhere near as bothered as the OP by it.
I get the OP finds it annoying, and that doesn't have to be jealousy. She might just find it tedious for the evening to be dominated by a one woman show, which is understandable.
But frankly, all this talk of it being 'horrific' and 'poor sexually harassed men' is a huge reach and projection on the part of some people.
I find it very difficult to imagine that in a group of 8 adults, everyone sits passively around while the men are made to feel intimidated/uncomfortable/threatened by a drunk old friend, and not one says anything or even walks away.
In the real world men are often not really fazed by this sort of thing, and are perfectly capable of shutting it down if not. There may be the odd exception, but a group of them all feeling victimised with the OP needing to speak for them? I'm not buying that.
There's always a lot of strong feelings when women get drunk and are percieved to cross the line/invade other women's territory but advising the OP to try to stop it is not im her interests. Best case the woman will ignore her and nothing changes. Worst case she becomes very upset, the others side with her, and OP is out of the group.

You said you believed some of the others reacted to her behavior or left after. I'd try talking to a couple of the others. You could try before the next party or wait for another incident. Be careful of doing it prior. Could get back to her and make drama about talking behind her back. I would test the water tho. Tell someone that it sometimes makes u uncomfortable or embarrassed. That you're worried about her and how her behavior could effect peoples relationships. Maybe you'll find someone who can relate. If not, might have to let it go, so you don't end up being the one left out of the group. It can be difficult to make new friends, so tread carefully! I hope some of your friends are with you on this, or it somehow works out for you. Good luck!